If you were invited "for Christmas Day"

[Gracelet]

Would that mean to you for the whole day, staying for lunch, etc. Or would you take it to mean you could just pop in for some of it and make other plans for the rest of the day?

This is the situation with my best friend who was invited "for Christmas Day", so planned and catered for, but she's just said "Oh don't worry about feeding me" (she's a vegetarian) But DP has already got in veggie options. Presumably she isn't going to sit and watch us eat so I can only assume that she's made other plans for the afternoon. If she's done this I'll be really annoyed and upset :( I was looking forward to spending some Christmas time with her.

FWIW she's our only visitor invited "for Christmas Day"

I would be un inviting for NYE

I'm SO sorry to hear that this so called 'friend' has let you down like this OP. Do you think she'd have actually contacted you to tell you, if you hadn't called her? I'm afraid if someone treated me like this, having been invited for Christmas, they'd be lucky to see me again afterwards. What a flake!

Also, what is this thing where people seem to feel that having accepted an invitation to something, that they can simply drop the first person if something better comes along, THAT really boils my piss, I can tell you!! Cancel me once without a VERY good explanation, and that's it, you're off my visiting list, full stop!

I hope that you have a lovely relaxing day with your partner tomorrow OP, and that her Christmas goes belly up! I know, not very holiday spirited of me, but I really hate it when people let others down like this.

I would think it means for Christmas meal and until the day starts to wind down.

Yes, the whole flaking out at a moment's notice thing after committing really annoys me too. Like people see their confirmed plans as optional 😠

It’s so rude and disrespectful.

Enjoy your extra Prosecco with DP, you deserve it 🎅

Thank you!

@Gracelet

You mention her ex 'got upset' at her and DS not spending the day with him so she's agreed to go to and has cancelled her plans with you to do so. Is it possible that she's still in the habit of being controlled by him or that he has a financial hold over her so she does what he says? I know that there are co-parents who spend the holidays together 'for the children', but I'd think if the time came that one parent decided the tradition needed to end the other parent wouldn't 'get upset' to the point where the original parent felt they needed to acquiesce.

That's really rude. Freeze the extra and enjoy the stuff you can't. Enjoy a relaxed day instead ❤️