Disgusted by inability to delay gratification

[KeepYourHandsOutOfTheFridge]

We get the usual "special" foods for Christmas. Most of them (chocs, cake, etc) are put away upstairs, but the collection of posh cheeses are in the fridge.

I've just found out DH has eaten a big chunk of one cheese, and drunk one of his bottles of expensive drink. He says he'll go and buy replacements. I have said that is not the point.
These are expensive treats for us.
In my family, Christmas didn't start until Christmas day. DH and I discussed this, and agreed a compromise this year that we would start eating the nice stuff on Christmas Eve for a change (just us two in the eve, big family meal on the day itself).

I am disgusted - this shows a total lack of self control and ability to delay gratification - he is like a five-year-old with no self control. He is just destroying the sense of anticipation and looking forward to sharing the treats together.

Would this give you the rage?

Utter filth. It’s obvious that the op was looking forward to warming up a Camembert, with a selection of methods to slow dip into over a length of time, fully enjoying the experience. And her greedy husband has just eaten up the whole thing without giving a second thought about anyone else’s gratification for cheese enjoyment.

All I am taking is that food is a HUGE deal for some people!

I think you need to relax, let your hair down, stop being so up tight, and seek therapy for your superiority complex, controlling nature and attitude to your husband

😄😄 apparently so if this thread is anything to go by

I used to be like you but I found it often lead to a lot of food going to waste. Now Christmas starts the weekend before the big day.

Amongst other things today I enjoyed M&S smoked salmon and cream cheese wheels and a mince pie. I also roasted a turkey crown so we can have turkey sandwiches for tea tomorrow followed by a cheese board. Turkey sandwiches are too good to only be eaten after Christmas.

it's his house too. He can do things his way.

If my 2024 and that of my friends / family is anything to go by it hasn't been the easiest year. There will be other challenges ahead.

OP if you and your husband are lucky enough to have some good food and drink tuck in, life is unpredictable and short. It's the christmas 🎄 now, and time to relax and have some treats and rest whilst there is the chance

In some instances it can be helpful to save / delay gratification. Not with cheese though. Don't control food, or let it control you. That brings such unhappiness and misery. Enjoy yourself, it's later than you think. 😉

Well exactly. And now OP can't be sure it will be there. So if she wants some she has to eat it now instead of enjoying the anticipation and enjoying the sharing. OP and partner had agreed when they were going to share this treat and partner didn't keep to the agreement because he lacks basic self-control and consideration of OP.

Being judgemental and critical is a big failing of mine (maybe comes from the Catholic indoctrination?)

Ah yes, those Catholic priests, supreme beings... I was catholic, not any more, too much hypocrisy. It's not a moral superiority that you have there, just a belief system.

Yes, being judgemental and critical to the point you are cleaving to it is pointless. You'll just make everyone around you miserable. Turn that judgement and criticism onto yourself and see how you shape up perhaps?

Op, is this the only area you're dissatisfied with his inability to delay gratification??

I think we're missing an important piece of the puzzle here 😬

@KeepYourHandsOutOfTheFridge

It may not be Christmas yet for you.

It clearly is for your DH.

This really isn't that big of an issue. Let him enjoy himself.

You can enjoy yourself when it's time.

We do! We buy the Christmas biscuits and cheese board bits and special drinks etc and they're only eaten from the 25th onwards. Nice treats for the 12 days of Christmas :)

OP but for me, Christmas is the two weeks before, I indulge until Boxing day then go all healthy. I think for you it isnt Christmas yet, but for me it certainly is. I am eating my snacks and mince pies as I type with a glass of mulled wine. I also just pulled crackers for fun, as I have too many so we did a few now.

Do you speak to your dh as pompously as this? And disgusted? Really?
Poor dh.

Omg we've gone into it so many times over the years. We do try and put it right away now 😂 but I think we've had to buy 3 Packets of the same biscuits we kept eating for the piano teacher 😜👀.

Let him enjoy himself. I do agree waiting is better but... It's Christmas..

Oh no it isn't.

Totally agree it is a 'season', not just a couple of days. Just for me the season starts on 25th and runs until at least the 5th Jan.

I've only read your updates OP so I'm sure I'm repeating others, but why does he have to stick to your arbitrary definition of the season?

Ultimately though OP, you just sound joyless.

Have you had a slice yet OP? Go onnnn……..

This ^^ sounds more like a 5 year old than him eating cheese and drinking nice wine over the festive period like any other adult.

Christmas is a season, it doesn't start on Christmas Day. Surely you're aware that people have been enjoying special food and treats for a little while? Mince pies? Ginger cakes or whatever?
I think you need to consider why your DH eating some cheese before Christmas Day has enraged you.

For all we know, op's idea of cracking open the posh cheese is diving into to babybelles....

Quite. It does sound very controlling.
What is the harm with him doing this, seriously?

Couldn't be bothered getting myself worked up about this, unless it was part of a planned meal, he's perfectly entitled to eat some of it, so what if it doesn't suit you?, he's an adult, not a child and probably more than capable of making that decision for himself.. Massively overreacting.

MN is unintentionally hilarious.

It's cheese and booze, which he, an adult, presumably helped pay for. Your attitude would kill any excitement for Christmas I might have.

Sorry OP but I couldn't get upset with my husband over a piece of cheese & a special drink, especially if the intentions were to buy more.If you can't have a bit of 'gratification' during the whole Christmas season when can you?