Husband's cousin has called their son the same name as our son.

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Bit annoying considering they also share the same surname!

I know no one owns a name, but it's pretty annoying.

Aibu?

She said something about it not being Big Freddie and Little Freddie, but both would be Little Freddie, so I also read that to mean there is the connection without it being explicitly said.

Enough to start a MN thread. I would find it very odd if a family member did this. It wouldn't be the end of the world but yes I'd be annoyed.

I wouldn't have done it but if they have maybe there's not much you can do. Are there different versions/abbreviations of the same name?
(do they perhaps have different middle names?)

Yep, or we add the middle initial so we have Patrick P and Patrick F for example. My siblings and I are all named after aunts and uncles. My uncle is big John!

If they're both called Jake Smith, no one will notice. If they're both called Bernard Thistlebottom I expect it will attract comment if they're in the same class at school, so isn't really ideal.

I'm from a large Irish Catholic family, and most of my first cousins- and my brothers- all share the names of our uncles, which are John, jimmy ,Michael or Tommy. We always refer to them by their first name and surname to avoid confusion.
Even brothers and sisters give their children the same first names.

My dm had 6 cousins who were all given the same Christian name and middle name. 2 also had the same surname. 5 of them gave themselves different nicknames and one kept their Christian name.

I never understood it either, until it looked like it was about to happen in our family and I was quite surprised how strongly I felt about it. Logically I knew it was not a massive issue and there was nothing I could do about it anyway, but I did feel quite upset. You can't always control emotional responses. Of course you can control how you act upon feelings (I didn't say anything) but you can't necessarily stop having them.
I didn't like the idea of a cousin with exactly the same name as my DD, especially as our surname is unusual and the forename wasn't a traditional family name and I couldn't help feeling that way. But I recognised that I just had to suck it up and we'd all get used to it. The OP will too, but I can understand why she's a bit miffed.

My MiL has the same name as her SiL and her niece (sil's dd). We just use different diminutives, think Ellie, Nellie, Elle.

I was going to say your unreasonable but sharing the same surname aswell is a bit more difficult

My cousin's daughter named her DS the same as my son, it's a very unpopular name nowhere near top 100. They were born about a month apart, and we each chose the name for very different reasons.
They asked via my cousin if they were OK using the name, I wasn't slightest bit bothered

There are over 50 cousins on my aunt’s side (her husband’s side). There are repeat names, particularly as they’re Catholic so saints’ names are popular. I wouldn’t really care.

Same as our family.

Is it a family name? If it’s the name of a shared relative such as a grandfather then YABU.

Do they live nearby and are they likely to go to the same school? If so I agree it’s a bit annoying, although at least they are in different years. If you don’t live nearby them I don’t see it really matters, lots of people will share a first and surname with others across the nation.

My son has the same name as my cousin. The same cousin's daughter has the same name as me. 🤷‍♀️
It has never bothered or confused anyone.

I think it's weird tbh. I guess it depends how close you are. My kids are very close to their second cousins on DH's Dad's side, so it'd be very strange indeed. One of our DDs has the same name as FIL's cousin.

My Mum's cousin called her child my name. I have only met this person about five times in 40 years and they live on the other side of the country. It's a complete non issue.

I suppose it would be a bit odd if we lived next door and went to the same school. Do you?

It depends. If you announced the name way before them and they still used that name without even talking to you, I would find it annoying.

But it could also be that they loved that name from before, but I think it would have been nice to have a little conversation about it just to let you know, however they don't have to change the name they already had in their mind just because you happened to use the same name.

It's like my sister's non emergency c-section was programmed one day before my bday before she was at term, so now each year, we have to program my birthday and my nephew's birthday to make sure they don't overlap (my sons are his only cousins and are always invited). It's annoying but what can I do. She already tried to have his party on my bday, which she's entitled to, but my sons would be with me.

IRL in means nothing

It is definitely weird but honestly at least it's not a direct cousin. They are unreasonable for doing it but you are the original so it doesn't matter very much.

In my family there are cousins with children who share a name. We're not a large family (7 cousins with 10 children between them) but there's no angst about the shared name. Do you spend a lot of time with this cousin's family?

How?

I picked my DS name out decades before I had him... I had a 10 YEAR infertility journey. The fact a cousin that I haven't seen since I was 12 had SIX kids in that time and apparently used the name has fuck all to do with me and my much wanted child who had had a name for decades just hadn't arrived to claim it.

Given she had multiple children and didn't use the name maybe she lacked imagination and copied me... or more likely you know, its coincidence because lots of people like the same names.

I should have asked: is it a family name? If it is then it'd not that weird, but if it's a left field name then yes, I think it's weird.

40 years ago my mum's cousin gave her daughter the same name as me. Until this moment I have not given it one minute's thought. It has caused precisely zero issues over the years. It has never occurred to either of us that there was anything unusual about having the same name. We have also used the same diminutive over the years (although we both now use the full name professionally, and the same short version with family).

This is really not something to get bothered about at all.

My cousin called their child the name name as my sister’s child, another cousin’s child has the same name as my brother. In both cases my sibling’s were very pleased and congratulated the cousins on their excellent choice of names.