Going to scream at woman at hairdressers

[LunaTheCat]

Sitting at hairdresser, foils in , reading my book. There is a woman next to me using the hairdresser as her office - laptop, cell glued to her ear, shouting down her phone, trying to do a deal.
WTAF - total lack consideration for others around. She is probably under pressure so part of me is trying to think kind thoughts.

Oh go home @SummerFeverVenice … so now being someone who goes to the hairdresser is counted as being a ‘lady of leisure’? Stop trying to make this about something it’s not.

@LunaTheCat I would be irritated, too. I go to the hairdresser mainly to get my hair done, yes, but also use the time to relax a bit away from work, home life and just general life! I’d be annoyed by having this going on next to me.

Totally agree with you op. It's utterly selfish behaviour. And stupid too, anyone could overhear what she is doing. I would be furious if any of my team were trying to negotiate a deal in a public environment

Maybe ask your stylist if they’d mind moving you as you have a bit of a headache xx

Actually - I am not a lady of leisure. I am a GP who had worked 43 hours in the last 4 days.
I know the feeling of pressure.
I just think we need to be respectful that for a lot women - me included - the hairdresser is a treat and a chance self care.

What a burn, @SummerFeverVenice

It's not remotely acceptable . It's intrusive and rude behaviour. But worse than that she shouldn't be disclosing potentially commercially sensitive information in a public environment

We don't know that she was revealing commercial secrets. I'm sure names and account numbers/whatever weren't disclosed to those getting a blow dry.

YANBU. I have been under pressure many times at work. At no time have I felt in the middle of that "Oh, do you know what I'm going to get my hair done as yelling down the phone with a hairdryer in the background is going to make me feel so much better". There is a time and a place.

We and OP don't know anything about her. She may work for herself as a freelance, which would put a lot of pressure on her to seal that deal - wherever she is.

Someone was doing this on a quiet coffee shop last week and it was really annoying (and I did wonder about whether his employee thought he was keeping the details of his work private rather than blasting the info to a load of strangers.) It's very odd, like performance working.

Employer!

yep. or answering work emails on your phone (after a few mins chat with hairdresser about what you want)

But not having a work call with anyone. Or even a personal social call.

YABU to call it a "cell" that's glued to her ear.

I'd probably complain about it to the salon. At least ask not to be in the same time slot if they insist they will do nothing about it. A 'stressful job'....'efficient use of time'....it isn't the world's responsibility to put up with the realities of the hardcore private sector's slave driving in any arena, anywhere in public really.

As someone who has been faced with having to pay a hefty cancellation fee on a hair appointment booked for my non-working day because a client simply has to get a deal closed that afternoon and it can't wait till I'm back in the next day, I do have some natural sympathies for this woman.

That said, I would try and work quietly as far as possible, and avoid calls (surely there'd be too much background noise from dryers etc to be guaranteed to be heard clearly anyway?)

Given the time that OP posted this, I think we can probably assume that she's somewhere on the North American side of the Atlantic.

What an arse of a comment!

Hmmm. I don't find the hairdresser to be a commonly accepted place to relax. It's a place to get routine, mundane stuff done to you. Like waxing. It's not a spa.

There was a time when my DC were teeny tiny that a trip to the hairdresser was luxurious me time.

I'm sorry for both of you, really. That you only get this time in a noisy hairdresser, that she doesn't even get it there.

Totally agree. I stopped going to one place because as I was having my conditioner massaged in, the hairdresser washing the hair of the next person along was talking about animal cruelty. I didn’t need to be hearing that. The next place, a one woman salon - great hairdresser but wanted to tell me all her problems. Stopped going to her too!

It would really piss me off if another customer was squawking into their phone, but I think that’s a tricky one for the salon.

Exactly this. You don’t want consideration you want her to sit in silence in a public setting to your liking.

A haircut for me is functional and not a ‘pamperinng’ session. Get a massage if this is what you are looking for.

YABVU.

She could have sat and done some emails. If she needed to take a call with foils in etc she should have stepped outside or asked if she could take the call in a back room. Sometimes there’s a beautician room that’s not in use or something like that.

Op, there was no smugness in your post. Agree, it’s annoying - I wouldn’t mind emails but shouting down the phone at the hairdressers is rude.

What planet do we now live on that some people think the way to deal with someone clearly being an obnoxious arse in public is to wear noise cancelling headphones... surely the solution is for people not be be obnoxious arses?
YANBU OP and I wouldn't have screamed but I definitely would have asked her to be more considerate.

If you encounter this woman again in full office mode, grab her phone from her and say into it, 'D'Arcy has got to go now, she's just getting her roots done again'. Press the off button and hand it back.

Do you not have any imagination to think that maybe, just maybe she is not in the UK? And where she is from maybe they use the word cell instead of mobile?

There is a big difference between the regular chatter, hairdryer and background noise of a hairdresser and a single person carrying out a work call loudly. I think we all know what OP means when she says the woman is too loud trying to seal a deal. It happens in restaurants, on public transport, in shops - those one or two people whose voices carry above everyone else's.

Just because you find that irritating doesn't mean you need to book a spa day or that people are expecting library conditions everywhere they go.