Aibu ti be slightly annoyed with DH for taking a Covid test

[Raspberrysins]

… and now we find out we are both positive. I’ve been ill with cold and cough symptoms for a week. I had one day off work then spent the whole weekend with family for my mum’s 80th. We went to abba voyage. I have been in the classroom. I have been out for dinner with colleagues last night. Until now, it was just a cold virus. But NOW I feel duty bound to tell people? I kind of prefer the living in ignorance thing! Should I announce it or not? I will def tell my mum. Not sure how I feel about Covid now that all the rules have ended. I kind of feel annoyed that he did the test at all!

Doing the test doesn't change the fact you have COVID though?

I would. I think it's always polite to give people a head's up if you're under the weather with anything contagious.

But you obviously took the test too?

Personally I think it's the responsible thing to do to still test. People can make their own decisions based on that information (for example my DM has to have antivirals if Covid positive asap). But I know many others disagree.

Why did you do the test ?

I would stay at home if I felt shit and stay away from immunocompromised people the same way I would with a normal cold.

So you're annoyed because now you know you have Covid, not because you exposed your 80 year old DM to it?

I don't get the problem. It was never about rules for the sake of it, but rules to try and minimise spread and help people make informed decisions.

I have a family member who is vulnerable and I'd really appreciate people I'd been in close contact with telling me so I could take action. Yes, I might be in contact with others who don't know, but every bit of reduced risk is good.

If you are ill stay at home. If not crack on.

But it wasn't just a cold virus. It was covid. Doing a test doesn't change it. If I refuse to acknowledge eating the dodgy chicken, it doesn't mean my upset stomach isn't food poisoning.

He's done the sensible thing really, not sure why you're annoyed. It's always better to make an informed decision whether you want to spread it.

I'd tell your mum at least. If she's caught it off you at least she can get treatment if it starts going downhill as she is elderly and therefore more vulnerable. You're no less dead for not knowing what killed you.

As for the others, I'd rather know tbh so as not to spread it further.

i am surprised people are testing - unless you mix with vulnerable people i supose
our cleaner has tested positive

It was me who got ill first. I knew DH had caught my ‘cold’. So when he did the test today I knew I’d had it first. I don’t know it sort of feels different when you ‘know’. I felt a bit better at the weekend and went on normally.

Surely it's the same as what you do with any other bug? Keep away from people if hacking up/vomiting/on the loo all day.

If not, and it's presenting as with other colds, hand washing and using tissues and getting on with your day.

I don't get the point of testing tbh. If you've got a virus & you're ill, it makes no difference if it's covid or something else. Why would your behaviour change? People seem to be happy to go about their business spreading all over as long as it's not covid though.

No it’s not like that. I feel awful like I should have tested before we went. But no one is even doing that now. There’s so many coughs and colds around we are all getting on with it. It’s like he’s now opened a can of worms and feels like we have to tell everyone and that I did something wrong

Yes, the rules have ended, but common sense still exists. There are still many unknowns about the long term effects of Covid (speaking as the partner of someone still suffering from long Covid 4 years after catching it), and some people chose not to get vaccinated, so the responsible thing to do if you suspect you might have Covid, would be to test and avoid passing it on, especially to the vulnerable.

Since you were seeing your mum and mixing with people all over the place I think you should have tested sooner.

But no one is doing this now are they? For what feels like a standard cold cough virus? It wouldn’t have ever occurred to me unless I felt extremely unwell

Feels like you just didn't want to miss out on your plans so ploughed on without considering the risks to others. If you feel like you should have tested earlier then you probably should have.

But people ARE still testing (including me), because they feel a sense of responsibility.

I get hacked off by the faux naivety of "I didn't even know people were still testing" from those who'd rather bury their head in the sand that Covid can cause issues for many still.

Does it really still count more if it's Covid as opposed to any other virus?

@Raspberrysins the government doesn't even talk about it anymore but sadly the last two Covid strains have been particularly nasty. A friend works in the local hospital and warned me how many patients they were having to admit with Covid because they were really unwell. I'm sorry to tell you off but just because you don't have to report a positive test anymore doesn't mean it's gone away.
Please keep an eye on your DM just incase

Only on MN you will find some who tests, self-isolate etc etc. The majority of us have moved on and treat a cold as a cold.

This is what resonates with me. I thought we were all living ‘alongside’ it now. But somehow now that I know it’s ‘covid’ I feel different!

Lots of people aren’t testing now and seem to find it bizarre that anyone does.

I still test if I’m ill. I have contact with elderly relatives who I expect could handle a cold a lot better than Covid even if the two feel the same to me. Doesn’t bother me at all what anyone else is or isn’t doing, but it makes perfect sense to me to want to know if you’ve got it - BEFORE hanging out with a bunch of elderly people, ideally.

Sorry but I don't understand why knowing is worse than not knowing. Is it because you now have responsibility to tell the people you'll be in contact with? But wouldn't you also warn them if you had a cold or flu coming on? Then it's up to them to decide whether to see you.

I'm currently ill with what I suspect is covid, got it from my sons. We've not tested cos I've not got any tests BUT it's made us all so unwell I wouldn't even consider just carrying on as normal. I definitely wouldn't be going anywhere near my T1 mum & heart-failure dad & when eldest popped in the other day I made sure he left quick so as not to pick this up & take it home to DIL & DGS.

Whatever this is has also triggered my gallbladder so I'm in constant pain from that.

Good chance I'll not be able to work this weekend which is a major issue cos I'm self employed & NEED the money!

My nieces have just today come down with it from elsewhere so now my self employed sister also can't work & the timing puts her in line to be ill over Christmas day.

So yeah, I'm kinda over the 'carry on when I'm sick' thing tbh. At the very least wear a mask.