Aibu ti be slightly annoyed with DH for taking a Covid test

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… and now we find out we are both positive. I’ve been ill with cold and cough symptoms for a week. I had one day off work then spent the whole weekend with family for my mum’s 80th. We went to abba voyage. I have been in the classroom. I have been out for dinner with colleagues last night. Until now, it was just a cold virus. But NOW I feel duty bound to tell people? I kind of prefer the living in ignorance thing! Should I announce it or not? I will def tell my mum. Not sure how I feel about Covid now that all the rules have ended. I kind of feel annoyed that he did the test at all!

I agree with this. If you have symptoms and don’t feel well then stay at home. Do not go and hang out with elderly relatives! Doesn’t matter what virus it is - why would you want them to be ill for Christmas? And potentially they would have it much worse than you.

If you felt better and were symptomless then that is different. It’s not clear how ill you both felt.

I feel sorry for all the people you will have infected. If you weren’t well you shouldn’t have gone

If you were off work and you are a teacher then it was clearly more than a cold. You must have felt quite unwell. So no you don’t go out and about spreading that to elderly people.

If you insist on going it’s always worth giving people a heads up and telling them you have ‘cold symptoms’. Because some people may not want to get your illness for Christmas. If a friend told me they were coming out for dinner or to see me with a cold I’d say ‘no thanks’ and I’d avoid.

You being more worried about appearing to be 'flakey' is self absorbed. Just because you can't see it, doesn't mean it's not selfish.

Maybe I am self absorbed then. But it would have ruined things if I’d missed her party. At the time obviously I had not considered Covid as a factor. Had not even considered what I’d thought was a tail end cold to be a factor. I guess that does make me selfish.

But now you may have ruined people’s Christmas? Most people would rather not be around ill people the week before Christmas. It’s awful being ill at this time of year.

You may not have been affected too badly but this latest strain of Covid is lasting a long time in many people - a month plus.

You were selfish as not only have you affected those at your mums party you’ve affected the attendees at ABBA Voyage and possibly ruined their Christmas. Maybe spare a thought for them

Weird to be annoyed at your husband. Maybe you're feeling guilty, because you've exposed your 80year old mother to COVID?

Course these incredibly accurate “tests” are still being flogged to the vulnerable, still suffering from the lies they were brainwashed with throughout the whole thing. Gotta make money out of people somehow.

OP the only reason you’re feeling like it’s worse because you know is the same reason. Such a number was done on people during the scamdemic.

Forget it and in future if you have really bad actual real life flu symptoms stay away from people but no one tests anymore apart from those who wish to continue this path.

I don't get the point of testing tbh. If you've got a virus & you're ill, it makes no difference if it's covid or something else

I like knowing if I've been around anyone with it so I can delay visiting DF until I know I've not caught it. DF has had many colds in his life but the one time he got COVID he had a stroke.

I’ve not read all the replies but I can have a cold for 3 weeks and it wouldn’t be practical to stay home all that time. I try to limit passing it on to people of course. At my work and at my DC’s school you are expected to continue attending unless you are extremely unwell.
If I felt too unwell to leave the house I wouldn’t. I appreciate that some people are more vulnerable than others but unless you are going to visit someone you know to be vulnerable I don’t think it’s irresponsible to carry on in your day to day life. This doesn’t appear to be the general consensus though.

edited to add that I know the OP has covid not a cold but many of the replies seem to suggest you shouldn’t go out with either

Along with pp, I’m going to repeat that covid really isn’t ’just a cold’. I’ve been unwell for 6 months so far with long covid. I’m still too unwell to see my family during Christmas which I’m sad about. So far I’ve needed 3 or 4 consultations with my GP as well as repeated blood tests, chest x rays and various medications. I’m one of the lucky ones, as I avoided being hospitalised with it, but it costs the NHS huge amounts of money to treat. It’s very selfish to spread any illness with no thought for other people.

Your thinking is a bit crazy. Who would want to go and be around an 89 year old with any illness especially one that could be potentially harmful to them. You’re mad because your DH found out that you already had covid? Isn’t it better to know?

Thank you this is my exact feeling. And yes of course now I know I feel extremely guilty! But I was well enough to go back to work and therefore go out and about like normal.

You were well enough to go back to work AFTER you were sick enough that you couldn't work - the people you passed it onto in the days before Christmas now have that part to look forward to.

Perish the thought - perish the thought - that people should be considerate of others!

Quite!

But a cold doesn't make you so unwell that you have to take time off from work and stay home, even for a day. That's the moment you should have taken the test, because it the most likely options were cold or flu.

That presupposes PPE was available…

I’d lost my voice so stayed off. No one is testing anymore so it didn’t even occurs to me

You're still claiming no one is testing any more despite the responses you have had on this thread? Good grief.

I feel like the ‘Covid’ label is a trigger. It takes me back to 2020 when we had all those rules and had to isolate. So part of me feels like I should now. Of course that’s not practical. We are supposed to be living with it and getting on with it. But I think as long as we’re careful and follow good hygiene there should be no need for testing.

The point is that if you were genuinely careful you would not have spent a weekend in close personal contact with an 80 year old.

If at the birthday celebrations and the other social events you stayed well away from everyone, ensured good ventilation, were absolutely scrupulous about tissue and hand hygiene - then I suspect you would not have posted.

So yes, being careful and following good hygiene is indeed the point - but nothing in your posts about how you spent your time while ill indicate that you were genuinely careful.

I had mild cold symptoms a couple of weeks ago and unavoidably had to go to my elderly parents for a critical household appointment . I warned them in advance, kept distance from them, managed hands and tissues appropriately, ate lunch in a room with good through ventilation and was outside or in another room whenever possible and compatible with the task being done. Whatever virus I had that was causing my mild sniffly nose, that was ‘being careful’.

Words fail me.

For those of us who are immunocompromised, please take the test and stay away. Your cold is our serious illness.