Aibu ti be slightly annoyed with DH for taking a Covid test

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… and now we find out we are both positive. I’ve been ill with cold and cough symptoms for a week. I had one day off work then spent the whole weekend with family for my mum’s 80th. We went to abba voyage. I have been in the classroom. I have been out for dinner with colleagues last night. Until now, it was just a cold virus. But NOW I feel duty bound to tell people? I kind of prefer the living in ignorance thing! Should I announce it or not? I will def tell my mum. Not sure how I feel about Covid now that all the rules have ended. I kind of feel annoyed that he did the test at all!

But I know that those not in my position don’t want to hear about it, so I don’t talk about it, just get on with good infection control for all viruses, regular boosters for the oldies and testing as needed.

Covid is not a cold ffs. That's the second time I've seen someone downplay Covid as a cold on MN in the last month or so.

Not in my world. Lots of people test.

Not really. You know if you have cold symptoms or not and if you have any sense you know whether you need to change your plans or not. What difference does it make to know whether it's COVID?

I don’t understand why it’s important it’s Covid. You knew you had a virus and you knew it was contagious. Why did you go and socialise with people; just before Xmas, knowing you risked them getting sick too. That’s awful

Yes, but for the vast majority it’s thankfully been consigned to memory. There are always going to be some exceptions who need to take precautions, but most people don’t.

This. I think the issue with the OP is poor judgement around infection control for a viral infection that could make an elderly or vulnerable person very ill at a sensitive time of the year, not the nature of the virus.

Fo the vast majority genuinely know, and come into contact with, no elderly people? That surprises me, tbf.

I'm confused by this too but I'm immunosuppressed and Covid is potentially a serious illness for me. I really do need to avoid people with Covid as much as possible and take antivirals when I contract it. I wish more people understood this. It may just be a cold for you but for some of us it's much, much more.

Editing to say I'm agreeing with your post, I know it's the OP downplaying it!

You’ve been going around coughing and snuffling over dozens of people for a week like Typhoid Mary but you’re annoyed at your husband for being responsible?

Yes, you should tell people, and yes you should be a bit shame-faced about it. It’s really selfish to knowingly spread anything around so close to Christmas - anyone catching cold, flu, Covid off you could miss their own family get togethers.

That’s what I don’t get. At all.its Xmas, the op knew she was contagious, hee husband got it. She knew she had something, a cold or flu or Covid. Why on earth would you just crack on socialising and risk giving it to people. Then complain your husband did a test.

I can’t even get my head round that. She was even so ill at one point she took a day off.

it’s the most selfish thing I’ve heard.

Surely you’re relieved that you now know to avoid other people and prevent someone vulnerable getting extremely poorly or dying…?

Oh ffs, no one is testing. Say nothing.

Exactly this. I mixed with some people who were out and about with what seemed to be a harmless cough and we're all still sick 3 weeks later. I wouldn't dream of socialising normally when sick. Who wants to be unwell - even if it turns out to be just a cold - over Xmas?

I know too many immunocompromised people to risk making them ill if I were to catch anything.

You shouldn’t have been out knowingly spreading germs, whether you knew it was Covid or just thought it was a cough and cold type illness. That’s selfish and irresponsible.

It's a non-issue covid was five years ago. We all just have to learn to live with it. What difference would it make to tell everyone now - after they've already been to a crowded event and been out and about mixing with people?

DH is on immunosuppressants and anti-rejection drugs. He does not expect anyone to test for Covid specifically before they visit, but he would appreciate a heads-up if you have been throwing up or coughing up crap for a couple of days. That way he can do his own risk assessment. I think that's reasonable.

Unless someone is supposed to be getting anti-viral medications, there is not any point in testing. You do the same things whatever the test results because you treat symptomatically.

If you test and feel obliged to stay home from work, many employers would not be very accepting of this now- especially if you are not very ill. And if you're self employed you would be depriving yourself of income with no way of recovering it, which is not possible for most people to afford (unless they are very ill and have to stay off work regardless of cause of illness, then it's unavoidable). People are not going to risk being unable to pay their rent and stay home from work when there is no financial support. If you have a supporter employer and generous sick pay it's a different story, but many (including me) can't afford to take the moral high ground in this situation (other than avoiding the elderly and medically vulnerable as much as possible). It's a privileged position to be in, if you can afford to stay home.

Covid is different to a cold and can have serious effects on the immune-compromised.

You feel bad because your DH did the right thing and you didn’t and now you have a responsibility to give other people a heads-up.

Remember to test in future and don’t make excuses.

Also, at this time of year EVERYONE has a cold, or a sniffle, or a cough. It's winter. Unless it's flu or norovirus then of course people will carry on.

Like i said..... selfish

Finding the £2.99 per person per test is also a big ask for many families. I don't believe that everyone who disagrees with the OP only goes out when they are guaranteed healthy - that's not real life.

I still test OP, I'm not vulnerable but Covid puts me on my arse for 2 weeks and it takes me more than a month to get over the muscle pains and fatigue. I've had it 3 times and it's utterly exhausting. Please inform people you know and isolate if you can, noone wants it over Christmas. Xx