Red Hair

[Motherland2624]

Hi 👋 i was wondering if i could get some help from you wise ladies
im 46 and have bright red hair its long well maintained and in great condition Ive had it for 10 years now i do sometimes mix it up with different shades but mostly stick to this colour
Ive recently met someone nice guy (I think ) high up corporate job nice lifestyle very casual which is ideal for me at this time in my life
He recently mentioned that my hair prevent would him from progressing to anything more serious in the future because the colour doesn’t fit in his world,I was a taken a back I’m a confident person or maybe naive I never imagined my hair colour would be a problem to anyone so AIBU should I go back to my natural colour I’ve put in a pic of my hair happy to take criticism

Your hair is glorious.
He sounds like a tool

You are beautiful hair, he is the problem and I think it's him that doesn't fit into your world. No one should ever want to change you.

Bin him off immediately

the colour is not my thing BUT don’t let any man tell you that your appearance isn’t good enough for him. Find someone who loves you as you are.

Lucky swerve, if he has that lack of capacity he ain't going anywhere high

Absolutely not. Don't change yourself for anyone. Stunning hair 👌

Your hair colour should have no impact on HIS work life. That is a massive leap for him to make and I think entirely an excuse because he doesn't want to portray his true person to you so early.
Get rid of him and keep the hair. Never make a change in yourself to make a new partner happy.

Amazing hair. Crap man. I know which one I'd go with.

Your hair is stunning, I'd love mine like that, too old now though. Get him fired into the sea. Who does he think he is??!!.

Not a prince is he. Your hair was good enough to attract his attention and he’s essentially saying you’re good enough for fucking but nothing more. DUUMMMPP. Narrow minded.
PLEASE Don't suddenly doubt yourself because a man starts negging you. He can F off. Don’t change yourself.

If you change your hair for him he'll ask for more changes. These will become demands and by that time you will be trapped. Don't do anything unless you want to for yourself

I agree with everyone else that it's a bit of a red flag and would put me off. He's saying it's embarrassing to him - not sure anyone he introduced you to would care that much about it.

However I'm personally not a fan of the colour and would change it🙊

Ah well, it's not a fit then. He'd like you.. if he could change you. That'd be a no from me.

did he say that a girlfriend with your hair colour would cause him problems or did he say if he dyed his hair that colour it would impact his work. First is a dumpable offence. Second not so much

The simple truth.

He said he personally doesn’t care what my hair colour is but he lives in a small village and my hair wouldn’t fit in he doesn’t like to stand out apparently

He's not that into you. If he was, your hair colour wouldn't matter. Honestly, this is one of the lamest excuses I've ever heard.

No don't change your hair colour for him. Your hair colour makes you happy and frankly he either likes you like that or doesn't. Like others I see it as a red flag that he's trying to control and mould you in to what he deems correct.

Nah. I have red hair and I am covered in visible tattoos. I've dated guys from the "corporate world" and it's never been brought up as an issue. I look stunning in a ballgown and the only time I had to cover my tattoos up is when we went to an event hosted by a Japanese business partner.

He is a tool destined for the bin.

He’s a prick. Your hair is beautiful. He obviously isn’t seen mature ladies with blue rinses in his bucolic village setting (a staple in my 70s & 80s youth for many middle class WI members).

Please sack off this nob cheese.

Have you noticed other ways in which he’s controlling yet? Usually once you get a surprise like that and start thinking about it, you see other things they do..

Then he needs to work on his confidence.

His 'world' sounds shite and weirdly judgemental. I don't think it would be a fun/interesting/enjoyable place to be.
Keep your hair colour and remove yourself from his world.

Lucky he told you now before you got more involved with him and his dull grey world.

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