He’s fucking locked me out.

[FuckingFreezing1]

Basically this. I’ve text him as I can’t get in, I’ve just finished work. He’s on a works Xmas party.

Said he was setting off at 8:45 and he’d be home for 9 so I said cool, take the key.

Now it’s 10pm and I’m sat in a fucking bus shelter because he’s locked me out and won’t come back with the keys, he’s out and apparently I’m unreasonable for asking him to come home to at least let me in.

I haven’t a clue what to do, it’s 4°, my street is poorly lit and this place doesn’t shut til 12. I can’t afford a lock change so that’s out of the question and my mums not in. So I literally have to just wait.

Yep key box, safe place, neighbour or family with a spare, have lots of back up options! I couldn't bear sharing one key and even less that he had lost his and taken mine. Nope, he gets spares cut for being an arse. X

Nothing wrong with being judgmental of poor behaviour. Typical silencing tactic and female socialisation will make many women back down in the face of name calling.

OP you poor thing, what a complete wanker he is. I really hope this is the beginning of the end of this relationship, preferably sooner rather than later. Dumping him would be a great early Christmas present to yourself.

My experience of being with an abusive man taught me that you have to leave before you know for sure that you want to. Because the abuse and trauma mess up your head so much that you don't know anything for sure anymore. Good luck with everything 💐

You are clearly afraid of him otherwise you’d have gone to get the key

Tbh you have got no guarantee that he is going to come home at 12 he could go on to a club or house party

He’s obviously a heartless bastard leaving you out in the cold tho

Ok. Crack on.

Are you hoping to end up hospitalised and make him feel SOMEthing? Guilty? Remorseful?

You clearly aren’t ready to be helped as there are a whole bunch of options open to you so I’ll leave you to it.

Don’t hate yourself, hate him. He’s a turd.

You gave your only set of keys to the person who cannot be trusted not to lose them?
You have to sit in almost freezing temperatures because he would be mad if you came to get YOUR keys.
If this was your daughter ( if you had/have one) what would you be telling her to do? Sit in the freezing cold?
You are not responsible for his behavior but you are enabling him.

Don't hate yourself. Break the cycle. You deserve more.

So many on here judging you for your decisions. Make sure YOUR SAFE!! Try to find somewhere you can go to or stay till he eventually turns up. Decide tomorrow if you're going to stay with him.

Get rid of this man child who is happily letting you sit out in the cold whilst he is having fun with his his mates, if he loses keys all the time it could end up being a security risk. Get the keys and tell him to sleep in the car as you won’t be opening the door to him

If she can’t afford a lock smith I’m guessing she can’t afford a hotel either.

Gosh there are some seriously unpleasant posts on this thread.

OP you really can't just sit out in the cold. You will be ill, or in danger if hypothermia.

At the very least do as a pp suggested and ring a neighbours bell and get into the building.

And you really should finish this relationship. This man is putting you in danger with his selfish, nasty behaviour.

Get a taxi to where he is, get the keys, go home and go to bed and sleep. Lock him out and see how he likes it! 🤣

Me, I would go get the key, then go home and lock him out, see how he likes it!

Haha posted pretty much this the same time as you

Hi OP, do you best to get yourself somewhere warm. People have been known to freeze to death outside, and it creeps up on you slowly. Wherever you have to go, a pub, McDonald's, just do it. Can you go to your mum's for the night once she's home?

You poor love, I'm so sorry your partner speaks to you so horribly. My exh was just the same, and it got worse and worse and worse over the years. I'm sure he would have ended up hitting me if we'd stayed together. The nastiness and complete disrespect and contempt were so horrible and made me feel pretty worthless. No one deserves to be treated like that for no reason, and it breaks my heart to think of any fellow woman being spoken to like that, because I know what it's like, and how un-deserved and bullying it is.

This is a problem for tomorrow, when you're warm and have had a night's sleep, but can you move in with your mum until your rental lease it up? You shouldn't be in a relationship where he's horrible to you. You'd be better off being single for a thousand years rather than being with someone like that. Hugs to you, OP.

Get a taxi to where? The OP doesn't know where he is!

Don't rely on him coming home by midnight. You can't wait outside in the cold. Get a taxi or something to a local hotel and have it out with him in the morning.

FWIW Dh and I managed with one key between us for months. We just used to leave it under a plant pot if we were the last one to lock up.

Op you can't sit in the cold and wait for him to come home. Imagine that situation. It won't be pleasant. The best thing you can do is get yourself to a travelodge or similar, have a nice relaxing night to yourself, a hot bath, a good sleep and then seriously think about the future of this relationship.

Don't listen to the 'grow up' pointless comments here. Some sad people just enjoy sticking the boot in when someone is already in a dire situation. Just get yourself somewhere safe and warm where you won't have to deal with this bellend for tonight at least.

Your logic is flawed. He keeps losing keys practically constantly youve made it sound like yet you’ve entrusted him with the only set you have? What if he loses these while he’s out?

Tempting, but she shouldn't do this, because people can die of hypothermia easily. It creeps up on people and they don't realise. There was a horrible case where I live a few years ago where someone sat down on a park bench on their way home from a night out, in winter. She was found sitting there, dead, a few hours later.

If he keeps losing them then you don't ever give him yours, he should be reliant on you letting him in not the other way round.

She's said that he won't tell her where he is ...it's not her that's at fault, it's his! And she trying to deal with it

He's abusive.

There's also a good chance he will be drinking past midnight without a single thought about you.

1. If you can afford it, get to a cheap hotel or room. Failing that, see if one of the neighbours will let you in.
2. Make plans to leave him ASAP. You can get help from women's aid. Keep quiet about doing so until you are safe.
3. Good luck, OP. You deserve better than this.

There are still good people on this earth OP. X

I don't understand how you would let this manchild out with the last set of keys to your place. What if he loses those ones? Sorry but if he can't be trusted with a key then he's either to come back once you're home, or better yet in the bin!