He’s fucking locked me out.

[FuckingFreezing1]

Basically this. I’ve text him as I can’t get in, I’ve just finished work. He’s on a works Xmas party.

Said he was setting off at 8:45 and he’d be home for 9 so I said cool, take the key.

Now it’s 10pm and I’m sat in a fucking bus shelter because he’s locked me out and won’t come back with the keys, he’s out and apparently I’m unreasonable for asking him to come home to at least let me in.

I haven’t a clue what to do, it’s 4°, my street is poorly lit and this place doesn’t shut til 12. I can’t afford a lock change so that’s out of the question and my mums not in. So I literally have to just wait.

you have two options really. One is get the keys. Two is go to a hotel.

Either way I’d be getting the keys back asap and chucking him out at the first opportunity. Easily done when he doesn’t have his own set of keys due to losing them every 5 minutes…

FFS!!!! sorry if i'm wrong op- IT ISNT BOUT THE FUCKING KEYS.
well,not in my head.

Oh no. Just saw you don't know where he is. Op you need to get somewhere warm and safe. It's too cold to be out for hours and a bus shelter isn't the safest place to be. What if he doesn't even get home at 12? What if he goes somewhere else? Wgwt if he hooks up woth someone and spends the whole night out? Could you go to a hotel, explain the situation and stay in the lobby? Any 24h supermarket? Can you get in touch with your mum? Failing everything I'd call the police. I don't know if they would help but it's worth a try.

You need to get out of this relationship but for now just get somewhere safe

I think this should be treated as your last straw. You’re not getting anything good from this relationship. Tonight is a huge sign for you to end things, it’s pretty rock bottom tonight now isn’t it? You’re out late in the cold and you can’t get in because of that twat. Enough already.

Can I just say some of the replies here are not just unhelpful and unfeeling, they are downright hostile.

You posters clearly have no concept of what it is like to be in OP's shoes. Some of you reveal a deep lack of sympathy let alone empathy, instead you're sitting here complacently, smug about your ability to manage your own life 'better', loftily judging her organisational skills and decisions.

You should be fucking ashamed of yourselves.

You deserve not to wait and find a hotel room for the night and face everything else in the morning

So does he also lose the fobs? They aren't easy or cheap to replace.

Firstly this is awful and some of the replies are too. Women should support women not bash them when they are down!! If you cant get to him or he doesn't come back try and get in touch with women's aid or the police/homeless unit. They will geko. I hope you find somewhere safe and warm. Please.take care xx

It kinda is... 🤷‍♀️

You are in a shit relationship @FuckingFreezing1 don't hate on yourself, you deserve better than the dickhead you are with. Have you got family and friends nearby you can stay with? Can you afford to rent somewhere else and move out from him or move in with your parents?

not that you should have to OP but to keep warm... can you not take a bus ride for a while?
i would be furious at his selfishness and kick the bastard out at first chance
If you did pay for an emergency locksmith you would have new keys ... so he would be locked out in the cold later when he decided to come back home🤣🤣🤣
Ahhhh KARMA is great

I know your mum isn't in, but can you call her and get her to pick you up so you can get some sleep where it is warm?

Why are you living this way op?

Here's what should have happened dwoth a decent human being as a partner..

"Can u bring the key?'
"Of course, I'll be there asap"
The end.

Bluntly, Why are you with a cunt?

Rooting for you to remember your anger tonight and make the changes you need to!

Unbelievable that he’d put you in this position, I’m sorry.

As said above - try ringing other flats' bells so at least you'll be inside if they let you in. It's 5 degrees in London so probably colder where you are. Also there is a new flu epidemic starting, a neuro virus epidemic too and you are probably weakening your immunity by staying in cold (although I am not a doctor) also is it safe out there? And who knows how late he will be - 1am, 2 am, 5 am - later??

Absolutely 💯 this. People are being very unkind. Not everyone can forward plan or organise well, and perhaps don't always think things through logically. It doesn't make them bad or worse people. They are still human at the end of the day, and deserve kindness and empathy 💗

I hope you are ok, OP. Please get yourself somewhere safe and warm, and look after yourself 🥰

My thoughts exactly! I can't believe how cruel people can be.
@FuckingFreezing1 I really hope you can find a solution not only for tonight (you really can't stay outside) and for the rest of your life. Can you move back to your mum's for a while? He's such a selfish bastard and you deserve so much better.

I'd be tempted to book a cheap room, go check in, and turn off your phone. Let him sweat a day or two.

Personally I'd get a taxi/bus to the nearest hotel, stay over and take the opportunity to have a good long think about how best to split up. If you can't do a hotel, go to an all night supermarket/café/McDonalds just to keep warm and with other people for now. If he's this much of an utter cock you need to start 2025 without him.

Wow! Does it make you feel good to be such a cold nasty person with that stupid fake fucking shrug?

Hey OP I hope you are somewhere warm and safe now.

I think this might be your final straw moment. I hope it is so that some good comes out of it and you leave him.

As for the people shouting at the OP, ffs are you all so perfect? Back off.

This. Thank god for decent people. Some posters on here should be ashamed of themselves

It is absoloutley not the OPs fault that her OP does these things.

It is under the OPs control as to whether she accepts this / stays with him. But his actual behaviour is not her fault.

But why do you keep giving him your keys??? You wouldn’t be locked out if you’d just kept YOUR key. He’s a useless twat, but you are enabling him and simultaneously fucking yourself over. Surely that’s on you.

Yeah if you live In a flat block, like others have said see if you can buzz at least into the building so you won't get sick in cold