He’s fucking locked me out.

[FuckingFreezing1]

Basically this. I’ve text him as I can’t get in, I’ve just finished work. He’s on a works Xmas party.

Said he was setting off at 8:45 and he’d be home for 9 so I said cool, take the key.

Now it’s 10pm and I’m sat in a fucking bus shelter because he’s locked me out and won’t come back with the keys, he’s out and apparently I’m unreasonable for asking him to come home to at least let me in.

I haven’t a clue what to do, it’s 4°, my street is poorly lit and this place doesn’t shut til 12. I can’t afford a lock change so that’s out of the question and my mums not in. So I literally have to just wait.

I hope OP is okay 😞

Hope you’re okay OP ! What an awful situation to be in

Too right. It doesn't matter how many keys there are; he may as well have taken 3 sets out with him leaving none because this was deliberate and he is an emotionally abusive pig.

The people blaming op and going on about keys are really showing themselves up. Horrible, relentless victim blaming and also irrelevant to the predicament she found herself in last night. Loads of couples manage to successfully share keys, the issue here wasn't her it was the fact her horrible partner was so thoughtless and uncaring.

I hope you've managed to get some rest op.

Yes supportive, as opposed to your condescending and unhelpful post.

Absolutely, the key is just another abusive incident of many designed to control and humiliate the OP.

Read the thread. It's free!

And people who can see it's a long thread and admit to only reading the first page before posting. So keen to have their say they can't even be bothered to read the OP's posts.

Honestly, if you've read the text exchanges and think that saying 'no' or challanging him face to face over taking her key is actually an option you (luckily for you) don't understand how control in an abusive relationship works

How are things today OP?

I hope you got to your mum's house last night & she's looking after you. If my son acted like your bf I would be so ashamed

This is the best thing to happen to you all year OP, all decade even!

If this is what it takes to make you realise you’re actually worth more than what you’ve been made to think, then the night of arse freezing is well worth it. Remember this, remember your realisations and work out how to get out as soon as you can.

Good luck, and wishing you so much more strength, self-belief and pride: and never go back. xx

100%

Your plan to pack a bag (and your keyrings) and walk out is a good one! Let the new year and the start of a new decade be the start of a new, better life! Enjoy it x

Hope you are ok OP. Been thinking of you today x

Hope you are OK, op. That was an awful night for you and I really feel for you. He sounds like a psychopath - he showed absolutely no feelings for you, no care or concern that his girlfriend is out in the cold and dark on her own. I hope you get out soon and join the rest of us who also got out and survived and who are now thriving.

I wish other people were educated about domestic abuse: it took me ages to get out of my situation, not because I wanted to stay with him, but because it took an incredible amount of planning to get out safely - most women are injured or killed at the point when they decide to leave.

OP, if you get a chance can you update us? I hope you are ok x

See my threads been posted on Reddit.
Sadly not a troll, I got back in my own house at 5am. He told me I’d ruined his night so I just left. Not heard anything since. Probs sleeping off the flake. I don’t care either way.

@FuckingFreezing1 I am glad you’re okay. I hope this is your first step towards freedom, getting away from this horror of a man.

Me too.

Good luck going forward.

I’m so sorry OP. How can you get rid of him?
he honestly sounds like the worst human ever.

You ruined his night?!

I hope you are somewhere safe and can either chuck him out of your flat, or find somewhere safe to live.

Where the fuck did you stay until 5?

You ruined his night? Selfish pig of a bastard cunt!

Can you go and stay with your mother?

You must get free yourself from that thing!!

I'd care. I'd be crashing and banging as loud as humanly possible, while packing my bags, to prevent the horrible bastard from sleeping.
I've a feeling you'll be back to business as usual with this utter loser by tomorrow though, which is a great shame.