He’s fucking locked me out.

[FuckingFreezing1]

Basically this. I’ve text him as I can’t get in, I’ve just finished work. He’s on a works Xmas party.

Said he was setting off at 8:45 and he’d be home for 9 so I said cool, take the key.

Now it’s 10pm and I’m sat in a fucking bus shelter because he’s locked me out and won’t come back with the keys, he’s out and apparently I’m unreasonable for asking him to come home to at least let me in.

I haven’t a clue what to do, it’s 4°, my street is poorly lit and this place doesn’t shut til 12. I can’t afford a lock change so that’s out of the question and my mums not in. So I literally have to just wait.

I certainly wouldn't.

My point is STOP FOCUSING ON THE SINGLE SET OF KEYS AND HELP THE WOMAN.

Sorry to shout.

Don't make excuses for him. Drug use is 'just' part of a far larger picture. He doesn't give a single fuck about you, your relationship is a 10 on the toxic scale. I couldn't rest for a second knowing my dog was stuck outside, yet this man has been content to leave you outside AND behave as the wronged party??? You deserve soooo much better - you really do!

It makes me sad to read the levels of disrespect some women on here are prepared to tolerate, often it seems without even realising how poorly they're being treated 😔

You need to dump him immediately, someone who cares so little about you is not worth it. And never give a pig like that your keys, he can sit outside in the cold, not you.

That's kind of important information that probably should have been in the first post.

You shouldn't have let him have the key. He loses his key he needs to get another one.

Ltb

Why would you give the only key to someone who keeps losing keys?

How are you, OP?

Well the fact is this woman needs to help herself, but the way her posts are worded, she doesn't want to be helped.

There are many brave and strong women on here who would be able to help the OP with practical advice and support, but before that, they need a shift in mindset away from victim mentality to feeling empowered to make this life change, because ain't nobody else who can do that for them.

Christ, please will you at least have the decency to filter and read the OPs posts before commenting.

OP, I hope you’re ok. Warm and safe.

Hi OP, first I hope you are safe and warm and got some sleep.
you might want to ask to move your thread to the Relationship board where you will get practical advice on separating yourself from your ‘D’P.

Sorry about my first post OP. I read through your other messages. He’s an abusive twat. I’m glad you’re leaving him. Start 2025 on a high and enjoy your freedom, not walking on eggshells and make a new amazing life for yourself ❤

I'm sure you are probably right. But if people aren't willing to change their situation I would prefer they didn't complain about it. Next thing she'll have kids with the shit and be complaining about the next level of a terrible life and while she may have choices, the poor kids won't.

Bloody hell. Never consider a career change as a therapist. You were last in the queue when the empathy genes were given out!

You've never met this woman and have only encountered her online in a crisis.
What would you know?

You have put up with far too much. I really hope this is the final straw and you don't go back. He has treated you so badly and it's not your fault.

Why won't he tell you?

I agree. How mean.

Leave him
Leave him
Leave him
He doesn't not deserve you at all
He doesn't deserve your time, your words , your energy, your love.
You are better single than with him.
He sounds awful.
But
Maybe this needed to happen for you to leave him. But leave him. Please. For the sake of your future kids. Would you be happy if your daughter married such a person??

OP you're going to be okay. You're so young still. Lean on your mum for help if you need to, both for tonight and to leave him. One day you'll look back on this chapter of your life and be so relieved that it's behind you.

I am a fool, a silly fool. I think I’m lonely tbh.

I would rather be lonely than be disrespected and treated like shit.

He obviously doesn’t like you, so why put up with this.

I would say you’re already lonely.
Just because you are in a relationship, doesn’t mean you are alone.

I am single by choice.
I have never been locked out of my home.
I am happy, enjoy life and I’m not lonely.
When I choose to get into a relationship it will only be one that enhances my already good life.

Until we can learn to be single, we will never be truly happy with a partner.

If possible, I wouldn’t argue with him just yet.
I would play the game and ask for the keys back to get a spare copy today, so it doesn’t happen again.
Then take back the key rings etc give him back his key and then end the relationship.

If you end the relationship before getting the keys back, you won’t ever get them back.

Are both of your names on the tenancy?

OP - I've read all your posts. Everyone else - I haven't.

Fucking outrageous behaviour from him, he's punishing you and has been for ages. Please stick to your guns and get out. Quickly & cleanly and don't be persuaded by anything he says. If you didn't have a nearby McDonald's you'd be outside in the freezing cold and prey to every nut job wandering past. And he doesn't care in the least.

You aren't yet 30. I know you won't believe me but your best years are ahead of you. The best years of my life (so far) were from mid 50s to early 60s - seriously.

Let us know what happens. Xx

@Catapultaway I never lose anything, most people I know never lose anything.
I know some people who are constantly losing things but they are all quite scatter brained