He’s fucking locked me out.

[FuckingFreezing1]

Basically this. I’ve text him as I can’t get in, I’ve just finished work. He’s on a works Xmas party.

Said he was setting off at 8:45 and he’d be home for 9 so I said cool, take the key.

Now it’s 10pm and I’m sat in a fucking bus shelter because he’s locked me out and won’t come back with the keys, he’s out and apparently I’m unreasonable for asking him to come home to at least let me in.

I haven’t a clue what to do, it’s 4°, my street is poorly lit and this place doesn’t shut til 12. I can’t afford a lock change so that’s out of the question and my mums not in. So I literally have to just wait.

Excellent response

Nope. Still in McDonald’s.

Why aren’t you parked outside your own home?

…..because I don’t drive?

Because she hasn't got a car.

Oh wouldn't that be excellent 👌 OP I really hope you can find the strength to leave the twat. Glad youve got a 24hr McDonald's in your area. At least you can have a coffee and stay warm. Are you Even sure he's going to come back tonight? Men like that who don't give a fuck wouldn't think twice about leaving you stranded for an unknown amount of time. Can you call landlord in morning to get a key in case he isn't back?

DARVO. Classic abusive behaviour, trying to reframe himself as the victim.
He's fucking scum, isn't he.

It’s housing association so it would be a full lock change unfortunately which is still insanely expensive.
I wouldn’t put it past him to do that, if it gets to 7am I’ll have to pull a sicky

Do you have a travel lodge or premier inn near you? or any family nearby?

Oh Fuck what a nightmare. I've only just seen your update about you mithering him. Fuck me he's a cunt isn't he. Can you afford to leave him? Have you got someone who can put you up? I've been in the situation and I was lucky to have a relative to stay with but I know it's not always possible. Really hope you can get away from the knobhead😊

She has enabled him. For 6 years.

You've never been in an abusive relationship have you? Must be nice being all perfect and whatnot🙄

Omg this has given me the rage and all the brainless idiots on here sticking up for him. HE PROMISED HE WOULD BE BACK AND HIS PARTNER IS LOCKED OUT IN THE COLD AND HE REFUSES TO LEAVE THE PUB TO LET HER IN. He is emotionally abusive and the OP says he treats her like shit. I honestly can’t imagine anything more contemptible.

Please OP from tomorrow he has to be OUT. Report him to the HA for being an emotionally abusive twat - it doesn’t have to just be physical abuse and your dynamic sounds very abusive with you considering freezing to avoid the hell you would get if you went to get the key. Get his pathetic piece of shit arse out of there as soon as you can. He is scum.

Op. If house association is it (like mine) got "out of hours" emergency repair line? If yes, call n say you no key. The won't hit you with immediate payment demand. . ? .

Seriously I don’t know what to say but you should be ashamed of yourself. Ashamed. You and all the fucking other victim blamers on here.

Shocking.

That's what I would do because if knobber decides to go to a club,party op could be locked out for hours yet which I sincerely hope isn't the case.

Our out of hours ones are done by contractors so they take immediate payment. Pain in the arse.

If only. I really hope she does too. What an absolute scum bag of the highest order he is. She’s cooking, cleaning and paying his bills and he’s treating her worse than an animal for it. Someone one day will see the gem that she is and appreciate her for it. It’s sad that some people can’t see their own worth due to being blighted by pond life like the OPs boyfriend.

It depends on the HA. I've worked in housing and would have a discretionary budget I would apply to any (for example) lock changes needed for criminal activity not the tenant's fault. I would also have assisted someone like OP if she'd come in for a chat. But not every HA works the same way and not every housing worker understands DA.

OP, do you have an HA worker you can talk to? Women's Aid? Shelter? He's a horrible fucker and you need support.

He’s a champion gaslighter isn’t he?

What will he say when you point out he promised to be home for when you got back after taking your key? Will he just outright deny it?

You know you can’t go on like this - boot him out and make being single your New Years resolution. Imagine how nice it would be to be alone in your flat not having to deal with any of his abuse.

I hope you manage to get free 💐

God I feel for you, hope you get a lucky break soon and dickhead is back soon.

He’ll just blame me. It’s always my fault. I’ve had enough. If I text him he ignores me. If I phone he ignores me.

What time is your mum back? I remember having to go to early hours supermarket once to buy some trousers before work when I got locked out (my own fault though as I lost my keys. I couldn't turn up in a mini dress. Early 20s partying!)

From a fellow abuse survivor, you’ve got this. Please make this be the last thing he does to you