He’s fucking locked me out.

[FuckingFreezing1]

Basically this. I’ve text him as I can’t get in, I’ve just finished work. He’s on a works Xmas party.

Said he was setting off at 8:45 and he’d be home for 9 so I said cool, take the key.

Now it’s 10pm and I’m sat in a fucking bus shelter because he’s locked me out and won’t come back with the keys, he’s out and apparently I’m unreasonable for asking him to come home to at least let me in.

I haven’t a clue what to do, it’s 4°, my street is poorly lit and this place doesn’t shut til 12. I can’t afford a lock change so that’s out of the question and my mums not in. So I literally have to just wait.

Well come back here ASAP and get some support to separate from him.

Omg he could have come back, let you in and gone back out again if he really wanted to. It was him who said he’d be back by 9pm in the first place!

I hope this is the tearing off of the band aid you need to leave op because this sounds like an escalating behaviour on his part and god only knows what he'll do next.

Send us his number so we can flat out ring and text him abuse the absolute cunt.

Take this as a wake-up call. A partner who cared for you would not leave you outside in the cold for over 3 hours. They couldn't. How can he be enjoying himself knowing you are outside? He is showing you no respect. Please leave him. You deserve so much better. Could you go and stay with your mum whilst you find somewhere else to live? How old are you OP and where abouts are you based?

This is what I mean by “it’s always my fault”

I've read every one of OP's posts. Nothing she's said suggests anything beyond a bog standard arsehole boyfriend, who just doesn't give a toss. She's not afraid of him. He hasn't threatened her.

Please LTB. you deserve better than this.

What a fucking jerk off.

I'm so sorry this is happening to you OP but perhaps this will be the final straw for you. We all need that one thing that tips us over the edge.

Perhaps once you have eaten and slept you can make a new thread where we can support you into making a plan to leave. You can't continue to live your life at his mercy, you deserve more than this. You are worth more than this ❤

Does he work? How come he doesnt need the keys the rest of the time?

Does he pay bills, buy food, pay the rent?

Yup, he's a cunt. But we knew that already.

He can't relax? WTF?? What about leaving you outside and now, sitting indefinitely in MacDonalds.

He’s literally left her in a dangerous and vulnerable position where she’s been locked out of her own home in the cold and in the early hours of the morning. Unless you’re illiterate you’ll be aware of this so the fact you can’t equate this to the abuse it is, means you’re an idiot.

Im usually home first. He works but pays for his car and what he wants. I pay bills.

You know this doesn't have to be your life right?
I stick with abusive boyfriends that I despised but felt I could never leave. After years of misery, I left them and now I look back and wonder why I let myself live like that.
I chose happiness which meant I chose to walk away. Ripping off the plaster is scary but I PROMISE you, anything is better than this.
As soon as you're back home, dump him and build yourself a happy life.

*stuck

I wish you luck in leaving him

Give yourself the best Christmas ever

So he really is useless after all.doesnt help with bills, you cant rely on him emotionally. Why haven't you told him that he agreed to be back by 9pm? I would of told him to get his fucking arse back with the keys at 10pm or the relationship is over.

This is an awful night for you, remember it and finish with this poor excuse for a partner. Get a second set of keys cut and leave with your Mam or a trusted neighbour in case you ever lose your own set. You deserve much better.

To be fair OP I guess you will be amongst countless women who tolerate this abuse for the sake of the 'good times'

I do wish you all the very best although personally I'd be running for the hills

OP, I hope you can look back on this thread in a years time with your life in a completely different place. I know it’s easier said than done, and SO much easier for people to say it who aren’t the ones in the situation, but no one deserves this. It’s not a healthy relationship and you can do (and deserve) so so much better.

Even if tomorrow you wake up
and don’t have it in you to leave yet, get a spare key to your mums cut so you always have somewhere safe to go/escape to.

I think the answer to this is the reason for OP’s post 😬

I'll keep my mouth shut in future in case I annoy you or say the wrong thing.

I hope you get home safe soon OP. You really do need to leave him.