He’s fucking locked me out.

[FuckingFreezing1]

Basically this. I’ve text him as I can’t get in, I’ve just finished work. He’s on a works Xmas party.

Said he was setting off at 8:45 and he’d be home for 9 so I said cool, take the key.

Now it’s 10pm and I’m sat in a fucking bus shelter because he’s locked me out and won’t come back with the keys, he’s out and apparently I’m unreasonable for asking him to come home to at least let me in.

I haven’t a clue what to do, it’s 4°, my street is poorly lit and this place doesn’t shut til 12. I can’t afford a lock change so that’s out of the question and my mums not in. So I literally have to just wait.

If you can afford it I would stay in a local travelodge or something.

No way would I be wanting to see him today.

I understand why he has the key if he was planning to go home earlier than you but I think this was a very silly decision because he has already lost multiple keys and if he loses this one then neither of you can get in.

At least once you’ve separated, you won’t ever have to deal with this shit again.

Hey @FuckingFreezing1 I hope you are OK?

In the same breath, you would be lambasting OP for not giving her ‘darling’ partner the only key as he was going to be home before her and the horror that he may be locked out in the cold. See where I’m going with this. Men apologists, go away now!!!

@FuckingFreezing1 i know you are knackered and it’s freezing and it’s all
shite - but please conserve you battery life in case you need it.

when he comes home - just leave it. Rest. And tomorrow- quietly start making plans for a future without this soul sucking arsehole.

you deserve better. You are a fabulous lovable sausage. Get yourself sorted slowly away and walk away from him leaving him wondering what the fuck happened. Good luck.

also - for now. Maybe try wandering a bit to stay warm? x

Would the police (non emergency number) be able to help? I know its a long shot but he's left you in a very dangerous situation. You can't possibly be safe hanging around for possibly all night alone in December. It wouldn't hurt to call them, to ask for help?

Ideas
1Ring your mum. If she's out surely she will either come straight home or transfer you some money . You don't have a key to her house?
2 If it's a ground floor flat I'd jimmy a window open, if you can't get hold of your mum.
3.Get yourself buzzed into the building and knock on the door of any woman that you know in the block, even if it's just to say hi. Explain the situation and ask if you could just sit on her lounge for a couple of hours . I'd let you in.

Tell him you've bumped into an old boyfriend and you're staying over at his.

What time does your mum get in? Does she hide a key anywhere? Is there a hotel nearby? You sound really fed up and this might be tge end of the road for you.

You are worth more than this.

Well I'm sorry but it's partly you own fault for giving him your keys, if he's stupid enough to lose his keys then he should be the one who's locked out, also when a man said he's going for a quick drink he can't be relied on to still to it, not all but most of them are unreliable.
There is no way anyone would get my keys, they'd be waiting for me not the other way around and why can't you get the keys from him. ?

Omg how is this helpful right now?
Rightly or wrongly she gave him the keys and is now locked out in the cold in a bus shelter. You are coming across like an utter prick by banging on about how silly she was for giving him the keys. It's irrelevant. All that matters is that she is warm and safe and hopefully thinks about leaving the bastard tomorrow.

He’s a horrible disrespectful bastard.
You can do a lot better for yourself.
Start planning.

This is really awful OP. I hope you get in soon.

Please please consider a life without this man. His behaviour is grinding you down and you will never get what you need from him. You have the strength to leave and make a better life for yourself. You don’t have to accept this. You are worth more.

wtf is wrong with him.
He is out of order.
As others have said hotel sounds like a good idea at this point

Just go to the pub or a casual restaurant or food court place?

I'd hate my partner turning up at my work do tbf. Bad planning really!

Maybe you should read the OP’s updates. The keys are the least of her concerns.

What are the police supposed to do? They'll do what everyone on here has suggested. Friend or neighbour, locksmith or hotel

Have you actually read the full thread? Would you really keep on dancing and drinking in the warm knowing your partner was freezing in a bus shelter because YOU had lost the keys and then lied about when you would be home.

I hope you are OK OP. Please take no notice of the people who turn up here to give someone in trouble a good kicking.

It can be hard to leave a partner who you presumably loved at one point and start again, but I really hope this is your lightbulb moment (I have been there).

Sending you strength to start again and have a hopefully brighter 2025.

Well she's put up with it for 6 years and gave the only set of keys to someone who regularly loses keys.

Obviously she needs an immediate solution now. There are 4 options - emergency locksmith, hotel, all night café or go to a friend's.

In the longer term she needs to sort this out permanently.

Yeah, it was bad planning on his part to say he'd be home at 9 and then... Not do that.

So much drip feeding going on in this post. Is this even about the key at all?!

Yes! Well remembered!

I don't understand letting someone who chronically loses keys take the very last key you have. If he loses this one, you'll need a locksmith.

Anyway, sounds like the relationship is dead in the water anyway and he makes you miserable. Having a joint tenancy complicates things a bit - do you think he'd be willing to move out?

I thought it was the same poster initially. But that was a very long term relationship.

It's your fault if you continue to allow yourself to be treated like shit.

If that's what you want, then at least never ever lend him your keys again, then he can be the one enjoying being locked out, not you.