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To think this mother should be ashamed of herself

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2boyzNosleep · 11/12/2024 19:57

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cly2zq1yl0ko

17yr old girl & 18 yr old boy hook up on holiday in Dubai. I believe they may have met over there. The girls mother finds messages on the girls phone when they return to the UK. The mother reports the guy to Dubai police. He gets arrested as sex with anyone under 18yrs is illegal in Dubai. He has now been sentenced to 1 year in prison.

I haven't looked into it much, as far as I can tell it was consensual, a charity called Detained in Dubai have been trying to help (legally I think).

Am I alone in thinking how bloody spiteful the mother is?!? The girl is 17 years old and I think in another report saw that she turned 18 shortly after returning.

Marcus Fakana in school uniform

Marcus Fakana: Briton, 18, sentenced over Dubai sex with girl, 17

Marcus Fakana has been sentenced for a year over the relationship, a campaign group in Dubai says.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cly2zq1yl0ko

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MerryChristmasYaFilthyBrusselSprout · 11/12/2024 21:19

SavingTheBestTillLast · 11/12/2024 21:14

I read her culture forbids sex before marriage
and The daughter hid her relationship with Marcus from her parents as they are strict and wouldn’t allow it.

So the mother found out her daughter had had sex before marriage so the first thing the vindictive bitch does is contact Dubai and report the poor boy knowing full well he would be going to prison. That’s another kind of evil.

SavingTheBestTillLast · 11/12/2024 21:20

Optimist2020 · 11/12/2024 21:18

The mum and her daughters pictures are all
over Twitter which hoepfully brings lots of “shame” on the family. The mum is absolutely disgusting and I hope she’s shunned by her community.

I thought their identities were kept secret.
Wonder how that happened

Thegoatliesdownonbroadway · 11/12/2024 21:21

BellesAndGraces · 11/12/2024 21:19

The mother’s name should be published so that she can face the full consequences of what she has done.

It has been on twitter, assuming it isnt fake.

SuperfluousHen · 11/12/2024 21:21

Thegoatliesdownonbroadway · 11/12/2024 21:21

It has been on twitter, assuming it isnt fake.

Imagine if the wrong person was named? 😬

SavingTheBestTillLast · 11/12/2024 21:22

MerryChristmasYaFilthyBrusselSprout · 11/12/2024 21:19

So the mother found out her daughter had had sex before marriage so the first thing the vindictive bitch does is contact Dubai and report the poor boy knowing full well he would be going to prison. That’s another kind of evil.

Yep Exactly! ^^

But now it seems her and her daughters have been outed on twitter

Kama

alwayslearning789 · 11/12/2024 21:24

CatalinaLoo · 11/12/2024 21:06

An absolute bitch. It’s unfortunate she hasn’t been named and shamed in the media. She deserves her life being ruined as well.

She will be outed...No doubt about it.

And then she will really be ashamed when her whole community knows about her daughter's sex life.

  • which she has outed by her own hand and so publicly.

She should and will be cowering in Fear of being outed - right now.

Her, her daughters father and family - will right now - be seeing it splashed across the Papers.... Sky News.... The BBC... The Tabloids.... All about her precious daughter.

And he will be out within the year or sooner to tell his story.

Shame on you woman... Shame.On.You.

SavingTheBestTillLast · 11/12/2024 21:25

SuperfluousHen · 11/12/2024 21:12

Are you sure he didn’t know her age?
I haven’t seen anyone say that before.

He knew they were in the same year at school and said he didn’t know her age.
It was in the papers ( 🤔 assume reporting correct of course ) way back when he was first arrested.

Its worth noting that if they were in the same year most kids will already have turned 18. So it’s not surprising he thought she was the same age. Their hols was in the Summer, so she’s clearly one of the youngest of the year.

Spirallingdownwards · 11/12/2024 21:26

CatalinaLoo · 11/12/2024 21:08

Yes. There is more to it. Racism. She is Asian and is infuriated that her daughter brought shame on the family by having sex with a black boy.

The ridiculous thing is noone would have even known. But now they do because she was vindictive and nasty. So because of her the daughter's name is leaked. Shame on her.

Thegoatliesdownonbroadway · 11/12/2024 21:26

BellesAndGraces · 11/12/2024 21:19

The mother’s name should be published so that she can face the full consequences of what she has done.

It has been on twitter, assuming it isnt fake.

itzthTtimeGib · 11/12/2024 21:26

SuperfluousHen · 11/12/2024 20:50

What law did the girl break?

Why are you going through this thread posting the same thing over and over again?

TempestTost · 11/12/2024 21:26

Clearly this is a wake up call to people visiting places like Dubai. You need to be careful.

I don't have any sympathy for the mum. Even it had been a 15 year old and 16 year old, so illegal in the UK, and I felt he was not a good kid, I would never put the boy in the position of spending a year in a prison in Dubai for something like this. It's just too much.

SuperfluousHen · 11/12/2024 21:27

SavingTheBestTillLast · 11/12/2024 21:25

He knew they were in the same year at school and said he didn’t know her age.
It was in the papers ( 🤔 assume reporting correct of course ) way back when he was first arrested.

Its worth noting that if they were in the same year most kids will already have turned 18. So it’s not surprising he thought she was the same age. Their hols was in the Summer, so she’s clearly one of the youngest of the year.

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thanks for the info

jannier · 11/12/2024 21:28

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 11/12/2024 19:59

He broke the law.

This is what happens when you break the law.

We can’t call people who report sexual crimes ‘spiteful’. We don’t know the details.

How many of us were aware it was illegal for under 18's? The kids lived in the UK how would they know? Make sure when you go on holiday you teach your children all the laws.
Why did she come home and report it, a very strange thing to do to a 17 year old girl?

Optimist2020 · 11/12/2024 21:28

SavingTheBestTillLast · 11/12/2024 21:20

I thought their identities were kept secret.
Wonder how that happened

I’m not sure why their identifies would Be kept secret as it was consensual sex between two British teenagers in another country. Given the age of consent is 16 in the UK the daughter and mum
should be named and shamed for what they have done to that poor boy.

There are petition groups on twitter circulating their photos and tagging David Lammy MP in the posts.

BlackSwan · 11/12/2024 21:29

Remember this only a few months ago, the poor woman arrested in Dubai after attempting suicide agts her partner assaulted her. What a backward place.
news.sky.com/story/amp/irish-air-hostess-tori-towey-so-relieved-to-be-home-after-attempted-suicide-charge-dropped-in-dubai-13176709

valentinka31 · 11/12/2024 21:29

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 11/12/2024 19:59

He broke the law.

This is what happens when you break the law.

We can’t call people who report sexual crimes ‘spiteful’. We don’t know the details.

So why wasn't her daughter arrested too?

SavingTheBestTillLast · 11/12/2024 21:29

TempestTost · 11/12/2024 21:26

Clearly this is a wake up call to people visiting places like Dubai. You need to be careful.

I don't have any sympathy for the mum. Even it had been a 15 year old and 16 year old, so illegal in the UK, and I felt he was not a good kid, I would never put the boy in the position of spending a year in a prison in Dubai for something like this. It's just too much.

More a wake up call not to visit Dubai…..

Ger1atricMillennial · 11/12/2024 21:29

Positively thinking this is an "adverse experience" for him and his family that they can move and grow through. No one in their right mind is going to judge him for it, it will be tough for him, but he will survive. He will make some money from this experience.

The girl on the other hand will now be shamed, her mother (who clearly has a vicitm complex) will constantly be on the defensive. The family will be shunned by the community and it will be an awful experience for them.

SuperfluousHen · 11/12/2024 21:30

itzthTtimeGib · 11/12/2024 21:26

Why are you going through this thread posting the same thing over and over again?

I’m not looking for these erroneous statements- I just saw them and responded to them. So many people assuming she’s broken the law too- seems only fair to state she hasn’t, especially as according to other posters, she’s been publicly outed now.

MumWifeOther · 11/12/2024 21:30

2boyzNosleep · 11/12/2024 19:57

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cly2zq1yl0ko

17yr old girl & 18 yr old boy hook up on holiday in Dubai. I believe they may have met over there. The girls mother finds messages on the girls phone when they return to the UK. The mother reports the guy to Dubai police. He gets arrested as sex with anyone under 18yrs is illegal in Dubai. He has now been sentenced to 1 year in prison.

I haven't looked into it much, as far as I can tell it was consensual, a charity called Detained in Dubai have been trying to help (legally I think).

Am I alone in thinking how bloody spiteful the mother is?!? The girl is 17 years old and I think in another report saw that she turned 18 shortly after returning.

He met the girl on holiday and knew her parents were strict. He also knew that she had to lie to them about meeting him.

He also chose to break the law in a Muslim country where they will happily put you in jail and throw away the key.

I would hate to be the mother that had put this boy in jail and have that on my conscience.. but HIS mother should have taught him better.

Skodasuperb · 11/12/2024 21:30

Optimist2020 · 11/12/2024 21:18

The mum and her daughters pictures are all
over Twitter which hoepfully brings lots of “shame” on the family. The mum is absolutely disgusting and I hope she’s shunned by her community.

Not something I actively considered but when you mentioned the family's shame at the hands of their Daughter it made me think of other incidences that have bought "shame" to a person's family. I sincerely hope not.

Ger1atricMillennial · 11/12/2024 21:31

MumWifeOther · 11/12/2024 21:30

He met the girl on holiday and knew her parents were strict. He also knew that she had to lie to them about meeting him.

He also chose to break the law in a Muslim country where they will happily put you in jail and throw away the key.

I would hate to be the mother that had put this boy in jail and have that on my conscience.. but HIS mother should have taught him better.

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Fucking ridiculous.

SuperfluousHen · 11/12/2024 21:32

valentinka31 · 11/12/2024 21:29

So why wasn't her daughter arrested too?

Why would she be?

BoobyDazzler · 11/12/2024 21:32

MumWifeOther · 11/12/2024 21:30

He met the girl on holiday and knew her parents were strict. He also knew that she had to lie to them about meeting him.

He also chose to break the law in a Muslim country where they will happily put you in jail and throw away the key.

I would hate to be the mother that had put this boy in jail and have that on my conscience.. but HIS mother should have taught him better.

Edited

I think you mean her mother should have taught her better.

she was the religious one, she was the one with strict parents, she was the one who lied. Yet he is the one who is punished? Fuck that.

Teacherprebaby · 11/12/2024 21:33

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 11/12/2024 19:59

He broke the law.

This is what happens when you break the law.

We can’t call people who report sexual crimes ‘spiteful’. We don’t know the details.

So you think two gay men sharing a room in a UAE country should be against the law? Because it is. So that means it's justified? Get a brain cell.