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To think that if a man has had bottom surgery they should be put in a woman’s prison?

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Bex5490 · 11/12/2024 12:26

Genuinely interested in this and not trying to goad just want to understand.

When people talk of the threat of a man in women’s spaces, I assume the danger is because of their penis.

So if that’s gone then should they be categorised as a woman?

I’m kind of of the opinion that if you’re willing to put that much effort in (as in penis removal) regardless of your chromosomes, I’m happy for you to be called a woman…is this wrong?

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AccidentallyWesAnderson · 12/12/2024 08:04

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 07:55

It's that simple

Whenever you are saying things like this- you ought to reflect.
Life is not simple. Human biology is not simple. Human diversity is not simple. Human society is not simple. The problem is that you want it to be simple because it would be easier for you to understand and that would make you more comfortable. But that’s not how life works - it just isn’t.

No life isn’t simple, but the concept of human biology really is. Women are women, adult human females, and men are men, adult human males. There are no subsets. One can’t ever be the other. Even those with DSD are one or the other.

No amount of feelings, cosplaying, costume, hormones, body modifications, surgery etc etc etc will ever change this simple concept.

Life really does work like that. The sooner you realise this you and the confused people you are arguing for, will be more comfortable.

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 08:04

Nameychangington · 12/12/2024 08:04

Human biology is simple! Either you have the type of body formed around the production of small gametes or the type of body formed around the production of large gametes. Even of your body never produces gametes, or you make modifications to it with drugs or surgery, human biology is that simple. There are 2 sexes and you're one or the other

<Awaits people with dsds being dragged into the argument to prop up the wants of some males.

Human biology is simple!

Dear lord it’s not. Why do you think this? Why do you think it takes 10-14 years to train to be a doctor after 18 yrs of school!

Hoardasurass · 12/12/2024 08:07

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 07:55

It's that simple

Whenever you are saying things like this- you ought to reflect.
Life is not simple. Human biology is not simple. Human diversity is not simple. Human society is not simple. The problem is that you want it to be simple because it would be easier for you to understand and that would make you more comfortable. But that’s not how life works - it just isn’t.

It is simple humans are a species with only 2 sex types and noone can change their sex so yes it is very simply true that anyone born male remains male for their entire life and are still male when they die regardless of any cross sex hormones or surgeries that they may or may not have had

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 08:08

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 12/12/2024 08:04

No life isn’t simple, but the concept of human biology really is. Women are women, adult human females, and men are men, adult human males. There are no subsets. One can’t ever be the other. Even those with DSD are one or the other.

No amount of feelings, cosplaying, costume, hormones, body modifications, surgery etc etc etc will ever change this simple concept.

Life really does work like that. The sooner you realise this you and the confused people you are arguing for, will be more comfortable.

but the concept of human biology

The concept of human biology? That’s very interesting.
What do you mean by “concept”?
” Concepts” are imagined by people, so yes they often are simple. They are also imagined..

Helleofabore · 12/12/2024 08:12

Cheesytoastie · 12/12/2024 00:11

So you think people who don’t believe in gender ideology should be compelled to lie then, and if they don’t they are ‘passive aggressive’? Describing a trans woman as a man is factually correct.

Describing women as "people with uteruses" and mothers as "gestational parents" is also factually correct but many women object to those terms and find them offensive and would rather be called a woman.

So a trans woman being called a man is factually correct but offensive, because they are a transgender woman and the terms people want to be referred to by other people matter. So I really don't see the difference and I don't believe for a minute that no one understands what the problem with this is and why it is offensive.

But really, once a transgender woman takes hormones or has surgery, they aren't actually the same as a biological male anymore anyway they are something slightly different. Their brain is literally different when scanned with an MRI so you cannot deny trans women are different from men on a biological level. Of course they aren't women either, but that's not really relevant to the point that it is correct to call them a trans woman because a trans woman is different to a biological woman and a biological man.

So no one is compelling you to lie, they are asking you to refer to them using their chosen terms, which is the respectful thing to do in a civilised society, and it's not a lie to call a trans woman a trans woman because that's what they are. It would only be asking you to lie if they were asking you to call them a biological woman, which they are not.

Readers Note:

The studies linked up thread that supposedly support differences in brains did not show with strong evidencd that male person with a transgender identity has a different brain to a male person without a gender identity taking the same chemicals and having similar interests and behaviours. They were weak correlations that did barely adequate controls.

For instance 25% of one group was homosexual and they didn’t have the details of the sexual orientation of the ‘control’ group published. Sexual orientation has also been hypothesised to create brain differences.

That particular data set also showed that the male people with gender identities showed a range completely within the range of the general male set. This is to be expected. They are male.

Fluufer · 12/12/2024 08:13

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 08:04

Human biology is simple!

Dear lord it’s not. Why do you think this? Why do you think it takes 10-14 years to train to be a doctor after 18 yrs of school!

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They don't spend those years learning what a woman is though do they? That's pretty much covered by lesson 1.

DowntonFlabbie · 12/12/2024 08:15

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 08:04

Human biology is simple!

Dear lord it’s not. Why do you think this? Why do you think it takes 10-14 years to train to be a doctor after 18 yrs of school!

Edited

Not of that training is needed to cover the fact that humans are binary sexed and all humans are male or female and can't change that fact. we all already know that.

Helleofabore · 12/12/2024 08:16

Cheesytoastie · 12/12/2024 01:09

God this is so over the top.

No one gives a shit about your socialisation people are just asking for tolerance which is supposed to be a value societies take pride in.

No one is gaslighting you that men have anything to do with women and girls. Trans women and biological women are different, everybody knows that.

people are just asking for tolerance

I would consider that very much part of socialisation.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 12/12/2024 08:18

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 08:08

but the concept of human biology

The concept of human biology? That’s very interesting.
What do you mean by “concept”?
” Concepts” are imagined by people, so yes they often are simple. They are also imagined..

Ok. Human biology. Period.

TheKeatingFive · 12/12/2024 08:22

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 08:08

but the concept of human biology

The concept of human biology? That’s very interesting.
What do you mean by “concept”?
” Concepts” are imagined by people, so yes they often are simple. They are also imagined..

Sex is binary and immutable.

You keep trying to muddy the waters here. Not with any actual facts I note, but vague suggestions.

What do you hope to achieve with this? Do you think people can change sex? Do you think that there is in fact a third sex? Do enlighten us.

CocoapuffPuff · 12/12/2024 08:25

But but but clownfish

Are we really back there again?

TheKeatingFive · 12/12/2024 08:26

No one gives a shit about your socialisation people are just asking for tolerance which is supposed to be a value societies take pride in.

Societies do not 'take pride in' unlimited and unquestioning tolerance. Or if they do, they shouldn't. We should only tolerate things that are good for society as a whole.

Tolerance towards men who want to be/think they are women, at the expense of actual women, is not that.

TheKeatingFive · 12/12/2024 08:27

CocoapuffPuff · 12/12/2024 08:25

But but but clownfish

Are we really back there again?

Oh dear god 🫠

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 08:29

TheKeatingFive · 12/12/2024 08:22

Sex is binary and immutable.

You keep trying to muddy the waters here. Not with any actual facts I note, but vague suggestions.

What do you hope to achieve with this? Do you think people can change sex? Do you think that there is in fact a third sex? Do enlighten us.

What do you hope to achieve with this?

Improved understanding of the complexity of sex and gender and less discrimination and dismissal of people who are different in ways that don’t fit the simplistic narrative that you dogmatically believe in.

scorpiogirly · 12/12/2024 08:29

They can chop anything off, they're still male and should go to a male prison. A lack of penis won't stop a violent male from assaulting a woman.

Baublingalong · 12/12/2024 08:30

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 08:29

What do you hope to achieve with this?

Improved understanding of the complexity of sex and gender and less discrimination and dismissal of people who are different in ways that don’t fit the simplistic narrative that you dogmatically believe in.

There is no complexity about sex. You're male or you're female. Gender is a social construct and has as much meaning as religion.

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 08:31

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 12/12/2024 08:18

Ok. Human biology. Period.

I think what you said was very accurate actually.
The (imaginary) “concept” of human sex is very simple - we’ve heard it a lot on this thread- men are men, women are women, no such thing as trans etc.

The reality of sex is not the least bit simple at all; we are still investigating and discovering fascinating aspects of it.

DowntonFlabbie · 12/12/2024 08:31

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 08:29

What do you hope to achieve with this?

Improved understanding of the complexity of sex and gender and less discrimination and dismissal of people who are different in ways that don’t fit the simplistic narrative that you dogmatically believe in.

There is very little complexity in sex. Every human who has ever lived has been either male or female and remained that way throughout their lives.

You're inventing complexity to suit your agenda. And that thing we "dogmatically believe in" is reality. The earth is round, no matter how many times you claim it to be flat.

TheKeatingFive · 12/12/2024 08:31

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 08:29

What do you hope to achieve with this?

Improved understanding of the complexity of sex and gender and less discrimination and dismissal of people who are different in ways that don’t fit the simplistic narrative that you dogmatically believe in.

Gender is just personality. Sex is what matters.

Sex is binary and immutable. Do you want to explain what you think is 'simplistic' about that?

Helleofabore · 12/12/2024 08:32

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 12/12/2024 07:01

What if a woman doesn’t have a uterus?

Shouldn’t we just call a trans woman (who has had surgery) man without a penis then?

People know they exist. What you can’t seem to answer is how to tell the ones with a genuine gender dysphoria who go through surgery (which is hardly anyone btw), to the ones who just present in a way which is based on female sexist stereotypes, or the ones would go to any means necessary to harm women by going into spaces not for them.

There’s no difference in all three in that they are men. Body modifications or not.

Women need to see it, and call it, for their privacy, dignity and safety. Put your energies into males - as a sex class - not being so problematic for women and you might get an easier time.

Until then, they are men. No matter what their inner identity feels are. And their brains don’t change either.

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Yes. The logic is completely lacking in the preceding posts and is being pointed out by posters who are certainly not just the ‘six’ pp’s have tried to denigrate.

To be comparable to person with a uterus, a person some people want us to call transwomen perhaps should be called either a person with a penis or a person who once had a penis. If that is what they want, then ok, I am willing to try that for a while with headlines and all through media. Both factual. Let’s see how that goes down.

Fimofriend · 12/12/2024 08:32

Less than one percent of the population is trans and less than five percent of them have used any form of medical treatment to become more like the gender they identify as. So I am assuming that 99.9999% of the trans women are still intact in the downstairs region.

Makingchocolatecake · 12/12/2024 08:34

I think this is a really difficult one to answer. Either way has issues. Just look at the recent Olympics stuff though.

I don't think the main risk is a penis though. People who were born male will always have more strength, regardless of what bits they have.

Makingchocolatecake · 12/12/2024 08:35

TheKeatingFive · 12/12/2024 08:31

Gender is just personality. Sex is what matters.

Sex is binary and immutable. Do you want to explain what you think is 'simplistic' about that?

Identity not personality. But is that just semantics?

DonnaBanana · 12/12/2024 08:36

To be honest I don’t even know why we still segregate jails. Imagine if we segregated prisoners by race or religion. I think it might actually make more sense to categorise and separate prisoners by how much of a threat they are to society and each other rather than just sex.

DowntonFlabbie · 12/12/2024 08:36

It's not in any sense difficult to answer. Male offenders belong in male prisons. TW are male, eg they belong in male prisons.
Very simple 🤷‍♀️

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