To admit my older child is missing out

[fwel]

No idea what to do about it.

Two children, age 4 (starts school next year) and eighteen months.

The 18 month old is so full on, has to be carried everywhere, follows me around whingeing and crying if I don’t, grabs me so I can’t move. She takes so much time and space and energy there’s nothing left for the 4 year old.

I feel so guilty. I watch friends with same age children actually spending quality time with them, teaching them things. Mine is borderline ignored.

Thanks and I didn’t mean to be so snappy in that earlier post. It’s been a really long and not very enjoyable day here so I’m feeling exhausted and low, and still dinner and bath and bed to go.