DP's mum pointed out lack of acknowledgement - feeling embarrassed and uncared for

[stormyscotts]

I’ve been with my partner for 18 months, and moved in with him 3 months ago. He has a little girl from a previous relationship who is 6. I met her and her mum together at the beginning of this year and have been in her life quite a bit since then. Partner asks me sometimes to look after her if he is working which I don’t mind doing as she is lovely. Her mum has dropped her off this morning to us and partner left to do his hobby at 12pm, got back at 3pm.

DPs mum is currently staying with us as she is experiencing some problems with her house, so as DP came in, I was sitting in the room with her and my dps little girl.

He came in, said hi to his little girl and his mum but not to me. He sat next to me but didn’t acknowledge me at all. I thought I was just being sensitive but it did surprise me. Then DPs mum said “aren’t you going to say hello to stormyscotts?” He said in a joking way “hiiiii stormyscotts”. DPs mum looked awkward and I felt embarrassed, but had to keep playing with DPs little girl.

He then came up to me about 10 mins after and asked for a hug.

Aibu that this is rude? I have been looking after his daughter, speaking with his mum and I just feel taken for granted, don’t expect much but some acknowledgement might be nice.

A year after meeting my partner we went over to his parents to do some DIY jobs for them. I remember seeing him sanding some cabinets before painting them and blowing the dust everywhere when he had a Hoover next to him. So, seating there with his parents I politely asked him to use the Hoover instead and he was very rude and defensive to me (in front of his parents) to the point his mum pushed him to the kitchen and said he should never speak to me like that again. 10 years down the line and I regret the day I didn't notice this red flag. Love can be blind but you should listen to your instincts, there's a reason why you posted this OP. Good luck

Why live together? you can date and live separately. Was it his idea for you to move in with him? what would have happened if you had said,,,
"I'm not ready to meet your DD for another year or so and I don't want to move in with you until your DD is 18, I want to enjoy this relationship and we each keep our own space"
Would he have respected this as he is so in love with you or would he be out there interviewing the next live in nanny the same day.

I wonder if OP will be back. I think this might be the first in a series of cognitive dissonance events that takes a while to come to fruition.

The best time to get off the wrong train is the first possible stop, OP. The sooner you leave, the sooner you can find the right person (or at least treat yourself the way you deserve).

You say you "don’t expect much". I mean, this man presumably was so head over heels for you three months ago that he couldn't bear to live apart from you any longer, right? And now he can't even be arsed to say hello when he comes home? I think you should be expecting a lot more, tbh.

He asked for a hug? I know what my reaction would have been. Get out of there OP. You deserve more.