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Reform and abortion

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Craftymam · 06/12/2024 10:41

Just a public service announcement as I missed this last week and find it quite shocking that coverage was so low.

Nigel Farage has said he wants to ‘open a new discussion’ on abortion rights.

Considering everything that’s gone on in America, the rise in popularity of reform and this alleged 100 Million donation from Elon musk; I felt I had to bring this to everyone’s attention.

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TinklySnail · 06/12/2024 13:11

Blimey. You sound like a bunch of conspiracy theorists. It’s NF wanting to control women, it’s the white uneducated people who are at fault. Nothings been good since Brexit.
NF made a statement that maybe it should called for discussion. There are many people, women I would assume, that have different opinions on the subject. So maybe he was correct saying it’s a discussion worth having, just not along party lines.
If you want a thread bashing Reform and its voters, have the balls to start it, without having to disguise it with a statement made by a politician you hate, out of context.

Julia34 · 06/12/2024 13:12

WeGotCows · 06/12/2024 13:11

It seems deliberately misleading to talk about aborting full term healthy babies, when in reality it doesn’t happen. As far as I’m aware aborting any foetus after 24 rarely involves a healthy baby.

I know of someone who had a late term abortion (over 36 weeks) because the baby had a condition that was not compatible with life, and continuing the pregnancy was putting the mother at serious risk of death. The whole thing was devastating but absolutely necessary.

This is what people are talking about when they say as early as possible and as late as necessary.

Yes that diffrent sytuation

Fluufer · 06/12/2024 13:14

TinklySnail · 06/12/2024 13:11

Blimey. You sound like a bunch of conspiracy theorists. It’s NF wanting to control women, it’s the white uneducated people who are at fault. Nothings been good since Brexit.
NF made a statement that maybe it should called for discussion. There are many people, women I would assume, that have different opinions on the subject. So maybe he was correct saying it’s a discussion worth having, just not along party lines.
If you want a thread bashing Reform and its voters, have the balls to start it, without having to disguise it with a statement made by a politician you hate, out of context.

So what do you think Nige's motivation is for calling for this discussion?

Itsallfunngamesuntil · 06/12/2024 13:15

Dotjones · 06/12/2024 10:47

Well there probably should be a discussion on abortion, like how it should be easier to access and should be available at any point during pregnancy up to the birth. The laws we have at the moment are over fifty years old, they need updating. The 24 week limit is way too early and it shouldn't need the consent of two doctors, if the mother wants one that should be the end of the discussion.

This frightens me that you think this way.

24 weeks far too early?

We live in such an utterly disposable society

Thelnebriati · 06/12/2024 13:16

Reminder to everyone there's a Petitions board, with a petition to decriminalise abortion.
www.mumsnet.com/talk/petitions_noticeboard

dollybird · 06/12/2024 13:16

Annabella92 · 06/12/2024 12:16

I agree with this. Men shirking their responsibilities should come with far higher penalties.

I agree too 100%

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 06/12/2024 13:17

Quite, especially as it appears his new Best Bro Elon may be in favour of reducing women's reproductive rights

Julia34 · 06/12/2024 13:18

Itsallfunngamesuntil · 06/12/2024 13:15

This frightens me that you think this way.

24 weeks far too early?

We live in such an utterly disposable society

24 weeks old pregnancy is for me far to late for abortion it had nervous system heart beats and does feel pain for sure. Is different if women life is at risk for example but I sure those kind a women not talk about abortion easly because for them is hard to make decision

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 06/12/2024 13:18

Thelnebriati · 06/12/2024 13:16

Reminder to everyone there's a Petitions board, with a petition to decriminalise abortion.
www.mumsnet.com/talk/petitions_noticeboard

I hadn't seen that, thank you. And signed.

HardenYourHeart · 06/12/2024 13:18

Julia34 · 06/12/2024 13:11

Because abortion is form of murder. They killing human being. I aganist abortion, but like I said before everyone have free choice what they gonna do. Is diffrent if the baby gonna be severely sick or deformed and his life gonna be agony or if the mother is risk at death and is diffrent if someone want to abort healthy baby in late stage of pregnancy

Well, at least you are now honest with your opinion, rather than trying to trick someone into saying something you can rip out of context for your own political arguments.

The truth is I feel sorry for you that you seem to value you own life and body so little that you want to force other woman to suffer as you claim you would in their shoes.

However, regardless of the law, it will never be your decision and it certainly is none of your business what other people choose to do with their bodies. It hasn't even got anything to do with you. So maybe, just mind your own business.

Annabella92 · 06/12/2024 13:19

Fluufer · 06/12/2024 13:14

So what do you think Nige's motivation is for calling for this discussion?

Because he is emboldened by his previous success and Americas recent rejection of hyperliberalism. People are looking for a opportunity to put their thumb on scales back in favour of sanity. They've encountered too many sincere liberal extremists and they're frightened by the fact that that is the way the wind is blowing.

ByMerryKoala · 06/12/2024 13:20

Actually, a fair few Conservative MPs in this g.e. lost their seats were pro-life, Rees-Mog, Miriam Cates, Liam Fox, Fiona Bruce - maybe this is a fishing expedition?

ByMerryKoala · 06/12/2024 13:21

Annabella92 · 06/12/2024 13:19

Because he is emboldened by his previous success and Americas recent rejection of hyperliberalism. People are looking for a opportunity to put their thumb on scales back in favour of sanity. They've encountered too many sincere liberal extremists and they're frightened by the fact that that is the way the wind is blowing.

I don't see it. Why would a populist put his neck on the line for a profoundly unpopular opinion?

Julia34 · 06/12/2024 13:21

HardenYourHeart · 06/12/2024 13:18

Well, at least you are now honest with your opinion, rather than trying to trick someone into saying something you can rip out of context for your own political arguments.

The truth is I feel sorry for you that you seem to value you own life and body so little that you want to force other woman to suffer as you claim you would in their shoes.

However, regardless of the law, it will never be your decision and it certainly is none of your business what other people choose to do with their bodies. It hasn't even got anything to do with you. So maybe, just mind your own business.

You don't understand. I said I am aganist abortion ,but then I add that everyone have free choice. So even I aganist abortion and will never do abortion by myself you all women are free to choice what you gonna do with all your own bodies with all the consequences. I am not on any political party

Craftymam · 06/12/2024 13:25

TheLimeHedgehog · 06/12/2024 13:02

Have you actually followed politics for long and understand how parliament works?

You do understand that if you support a party you don't have to support 100% of that they say or think and that our parliamentary system does not allow one person to put though anything they like without the agreement of a majority of parliament or government scrutiny?

They have to actually vote on these things and have a majority consensus, It sounds as though you would prefer we live in a dictatorship like North Korea with no freedom of speech.

If reform win with a large majority in parliament and run a two line whip successfully then yes they could do anything they want.

Voters may or may not know about this risk to abortion rights and I am bringing it up so people are aware and can judge for themselves how much of a risk they think that is.

For me it’s too big of a risk. It’s a redline for me. I will never vote for a party who’s proposing this. I’m a firm believer that when someone is trying to show you who they are that you should listen. I have listened. I don’t like it. So I’m sharing. And when someone tells me they are going to vote reform this is the first thing I’m going to say to them with very stern eyebrows. Then atleast they can be informed in their decision making.

What this has to do with North Korea I have no idea. You’re being ridiculous quite frankly.

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MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 06/12/2024 13:25

Farage can fuck off with his misogyny. It is no more welcome than his racism.

Annabella92 · 06/12/2024 13:25

HardenYourHeart · 06/12/2024 13:07

I resort to games? You clearly believe that abortion and murder are the same thing. How can you keep a straight face and claim it was a "genuine question". I am not that naive and I don't think you are either.

I also don't think I can change your mind. I am posting here to make reasonable women aware of what they stand to lose, given what has happened in the US and also given the fact that around 1830 women lost a lot of rights they previously enjoyed. Curtailing women's rights is what kicked off the first wave of feminism after all.

Any way, my point is that 200 years of history is repeating itself as we "debate" here.

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Murder and abortion are words. They indicate a moral status. Same as killing, executing, terminating, dispatching, euthanising. There are moral implications with the words we choose. A sperm donor is technically a father... but we wouldn't use those words. You see the point I'm making? Which is actually for the benefit of other users, because we both know you know that when called upon to explain the difference in moral standing that the 40wk "parasitic cluster of cells" has compared to the "newborn baby" 20 mins after it has passed through the birth canal - you can't.

HardenYourHeart · 06/12/2024 13:25

@Julia34 That makes no sense. You are either for it or against it. There is no half way. You can be for it and not wanting to have it yourself and that would be fine, but being against abortion means that you take away other's women's options

poppymango · 06/12/2024 13:25

Halfemptyhalfling · 06/12/2024 10:42

Suggests where his funding is coming from...

Nail on the head, and very concerning.

dollybird · 06/12/2024 13:26

ByMerryKoala · 06/12/2024 12:52

What, are you saying Grandmas, you know - those ones who fought for abortion rights, don't have an investment in their continued success?

Exactly. Grandma's who might have daughters or granddaughters of their own who may be affected by a change in the law.

Workingclasslass · 06/12/2024 13:26

Craftymam · 06/12/2024 13:25

If reform win with a large majority in parliament and run a two line whip successfully then yes they could do anything they want.

Voters may or may not know about this risk to abortion rights and I am bringing it up so people are aware and can judge for themselves how much of a risk they think that is.

For me it’s too big of a risk. It’s a redline for me. I will never vote for a party who’s proposing this. I’m a firm believer that when someone is trying to show you who they are that you should listen. I have listened. I don’t like it. So I’m sharing. And when someone tells me they are going to vote reform this is the first thing I’m going to say to them with very stern eyebrows. Then atleast they can be informed in their decision making.

What this has to do with North Korea I have no idea. You’re being ridiculous quite frankly.

i am with u

FelixtheAardvark · 06/12/2024 13:27

So what?
I read the headline and thought no more of it. It's only Farage desperate for a headline.
Stop giving the bastard publicity OP. That's exactly what he's after.

HardenYourHeart · 06/12/2024 13:27

Annabella92 · 06/12/2024 13:25

Murder and abortion are words. They indicate a moral status. Same as killing, executing, terminating, dispatching, euthanising. There are moral implications with the words we choose. A sperm donor is technically a father... but we wouldn't use those words. You see the point I'm making? Which is actually for the benefit of other users, because we both know you know that when called upon to explain the difference in moral standing that the 40wk "parasitic cluster of cells" has compared to the "newborn baby" 20 mins after it has passed through the birth canal - you can't.

Sorry but I don't see your point. You appear to be arguing symantics over words we clearly know the meaning of. Are you just trying to derail the thread?

TinklySnail · 06/12/2024 13:30

Fluufer · 06/12/2024 13:14

So what do you think Nige's motivation is for calling for this discussion?

He didn’t call for it. He said it’d be a worthy discussion whilst talking about him voting against assisted dying

LoveIsLikeAFartIfYouHaveToPushItsUsuallyShit · 06/12/2024 13:30

Julia34 · 06/12/2024 13:21

You don't understand. I said I am aganist abortion ,but then I add that everyone have free choice. So even I aganist abortion and will never do abortion by myself you all women are free to choice what you gonna do with all your own bodies with all the consequences. I am not on any political party

This is a case of miscommunication.
Saying "I am against abortion" means you don't want anyone to have it. Rather say clearly "I would not have one, but that does nkt mean others should have the freedlm to choose"