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Reform and abortion

650 replies

Craftymam · 06/12/2024 10:41

Just a public service announcement as I missed this last week and find it quite shocking that coverage was so low.

Nigel Farage has said he wants to ‘open a new discussion’ on abortion rights.

Considering everything that’s gone on in America, the rise in popularity of reform and this alleged 100 Million donation from Elon musk; I felt I had to bring this to everyone’s attention.

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Julia34 · 07/12/2024 20:08

pointythings · 07/12/2024 20:06

I agree that there is no need to change the law in the UK and I don't support legislating for termination up to birth without medical reason simply because you don't need to legislate for something that won't happen. There is also no need to change the legislation to reduce the limit. The law is fine as it stands.

Please can you stop referring to women who are mentally ill and want to abort because of it as 'psychopathic'? It's horribly stigmatising. Women can and do develop postnatal and antenatal psychosis, but they deserve sympathy and support, not stigma.

I understand that but some women just bad in nature without mental health problems

Thelnebriati · 07/12/2024 20:16

I really don't understand your position, do you think women who are bad in nature make good mothers, and should be forced to carry to term?

SuzieNine · 07/12/2024 20:17

JazzyJelly · 07/12/2024 19:32

From this and previous posts, Julia34 does not seem to be a person with English as a first language. So why is anyone engaging with this poster? This person clearly has little to do with Reform UK or the rights of UK women.

There are plenty of UK permanent residents and citizens who do not have English as a first language.

NotOneOfTheInCrowd · 07/12/2024 20:18

Julia34 · 07/12/2024 18:22

Whatever you will said I still think that teaching kids under the age of 13 about sex is to early, because kids(both genders) age under 13 should NEVER have sex and if their parents think is cute for their 12 years old daughter have 15 or 16 years old boyfriend they are not right in head

Except not one person on this thread has said that it’s cute for twelve year olds to be having sex have they? Stop making stuff up just so you can be goady and provoke reactions. It’s not cleaver. Quite the opposite in fact.

You don’t teach 13 year olds about sex so that they can go off and do it with your blessing. You teach them about sex so that as they grow up and they do get into relationships, you know, when they’re 16 and over the age of consent, they haven’t just been introduced to the concept of sex and bam there they are doing it behind the sheds at school.

you teach children about sex so that they learn what safe sex is and they learn what consent is, and what it isn’t.

You talk to them about sex so that they know where babies come from, s that, when the time comes for them to have sex, they know what the consequences of that could be if they’re not careful.

And you talk to them about sex because they already know about it. From their friends with older siblings. From the playground, and if they have siblings themselves they hear about it from them.

You know your eleven year old knows what sex is right? I promise you, she knows.

ToWhitToWhoo · 07/12/2024 20:19

KeyWorker · 07/12/2024 18:54

But what are you proposing happens if a woman of 22 weeks gestation wants to terminate? Deliver the fetus at that point or force her to continue being pregnant?

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It is incredibly rare for a woman to wish to terminate at 22 weeks.Only about 1% of abortions are performed after 20 weeks If it does happen, it's likely to be because:

(a) the fetus has died, and this could result in the mother developing sepsis if not terminated

(b) the fetus has a severe abnormality which would result in them dying at or soon after birth or having very poor quality of life

(c) the woman has a life-threatening condition such as severe pre-eclampsia, which can only be treated by termination.

ToWhitToWhoo · 07/12/2024 20:29

Julia34 · 07/12/2024 16:15

Not lock and not until 18 but to let go outside very young kids alone is just stupid. My daughter is 11 and she not going out alone apart to school. To many tragedies occurs in UK I rather wait but longer to give her more freedom to roaming out in big city after school especially when in winter time is dark outside so fast

Do you also not wish her to be taught about road safety until she is roaming freely? Learning about the facts of life is often best done before they become an immediate issue.

pointythings · 07/12/2024 20:41

Julia34 · 07/12/2024 20:08

I understand that but some women just bad in nature without mental health problems

That applies to all human beings, not just women. But we don't make law with people like that in mind, we make law with ordinary human beings in mind.

Julia34 · 07/12/2024 20:42

ToWhitToWhoo · 07/12/2024 20:29

Do you also not wish her to be taught about road safety until she is roaming freely? Learning about the facts of life is often best done before they become an immediate issue.

My daughter know road safety she.walk school herself

JazzyJelly · 07/12/2024 20:45

SuzieNine · 07/12/2024 20:17

There are plenty of UK permanent residents and citizens who do not have English as a first language.

Cool beans. Totally addressed my point that Julia34 is a foreign influencer from a hostile power.

Snugglemonkey · 07/12/2024 20:48

TammyJones · 06/12/2024 12:09

My 40 year old (born at 26 weeks) would disagree

I am all for choice - but if by 12 weeks you usually know if you're pregnant or not...,.how long do you need before you decide to terminate?
I'm not to judge and would support a woman on her choices...,but 24 weeks is a baby

Maybe a baby fathered by an abuser, a rapist that the mother has desperately dissociated from.

Maybe a profoundly disabled baby who will tip a family over the edge.

Maybe a baby whose mother is a child with no understanding that she is pregnant.

Maybe a baby whose mother is trapped in an abusive situation that she will never escape once a baby is born.

Maybe not a baby at all, depending on belief systems.

The reality is, that very, very few abortions are even between 16 and 24 weeks, let alone after 24. After 24 it is because of risk to maternal life, or serious disability. These facts may well not be apparent until later. They often are not, hence late abortion. That door must not be shut. If it is, women die.

Craftymam · 07/12/2024 20:49

Thelnebriati · 07/12/2024 20:16

I really don't understand your position, do you think women who are bad in nature make good mothers, and should be forced to carry to term?

It’s just a bizarre proposition.

Women have abortions because they don’t want to be pregnant and they don’t want to have a baby.

Im 7 months at the moment. I have spent the last 6 months in extreme exhaustion, uncomfortable, with indigestion, heartburn, morning sickness, vitamin depletion, part insomnia, part lethargy. Can’t stand for too long as my pelvis is giving in. Can’t sit for too long because then I can’t breathe as babe crushed my lungs. Thankfully haven’t had any nerve pain or sciatica yet. It’s wrekced my immune system and I’m getting illness after illness. I’m having to attend scans, bloods, midwife appointments, consultant appointments. It’s taking up a load of time.

The idea that someone would wait to have a late term abortion for lifestyle reasons is bizarre considering the amount of energy and discomfort expended. And then you have to have a surgical abortion or lethal injection and induction of labour so birthing anyway. Bizarre. The reason it just doesn’t happen is because that’s insane. Who would do that and why?!

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Julia34 · 07/12/2024 20:50

JazzyJelly · 07/12/2024 20:45

Cool beans. Totally addressed my point that Julia34 is a foreign influencer from a hostile power.

Ok cool 😂 yeah for me abortion all will be banned.
But seriously the law can allow women to abort
Early stage pregnacy up to 12 weeks if pregnancy is result of rape, the danger to women life or the bad birth defects it is and for any just reason also allow in some circumstances abortion in later stage pregnacy.
So don't know where the problem are?

JazzyJelly · 07/12/2024 20:56

Julia34 · 07/12/2024 20:50

Ok cool 😂 yeah for me abortion all will be banned.
But seriously the law can allow women to abort
Early stage pregnacy up to 12 weeks if pregnancy is result of rape, the danger to women life or the bad birth defects it is and for any just reason also allow in some circumstances abortion in later stage pregnacy.
So don't know where the problem are?

Problem 'are' that I think women have bodily autonomy.

Regardless of 'if pregnancy is result of rape' 'danger to women life' or 'the bad birth defects'.

Piss off back to North Korea.

Julia34 · 07/12/2024 21:05

JazzyJelly · 07/12/2024 20:56

Problem 'are' that I think women have bodily autonomy.

Regardless of 'if pregnancy is result of rape' 'danger to women life' or 'the bad birth defects'.

Piss off back to North Korea.

The unborn babies have rights to live especially if they are healthy and not cause risk for women.

🤣oh why this aggression cause I not agree with you

pointythings · 07/12/2024 21:07

Julia34 · 07/12/2024 21:05

The unborn babies have rights to live especially if they are healthy and not cause risk for women.

🤣oh why this aggression cause I not agree with you

It is because of people who think like you that women have died in the US and Poland.

Unborn babies should not have rights. Women should have all the rights. The baby gets rights once it is born. If not, you get women put in prison for 30 years for having a miscarriage, as happens in El Salvador.

Banning abortion kills women. Banning abortion puts women in prison. People who want to ban abortion do not care about women.

Julia34 · 07/12/2024 21:10

pointythings · 07/12/2024 21:07

It is because of people who think like you that women have died in the US and Poland.

Unborn babies should not have rights. Women should have all the rights. The baby gets rights once it is born. If not, you get women put in prison for 30 years for having a miscarriage, as happens in El Salvador.

Banning abortion kills women. Banning abortion puts women in prison. People who want to ban abortion do not care about women.

No! I clearly said that the law allowed women to have abortion if they at risk of dying. So why you now txt to me "because of you women had died " . I clearly said before that women in life risk by law can have abortion

Who tell unborn babies should have no rights? They are human beings and if they not pode risk for women why they should died?

Oh yeah go exteme 😑

User79853257976 · 07/12/2024 21:13

Dotjones · 06/12/2024 10:47

Well there probably should be a discussion on abortion, like how it should be easier to access and should be available at any point during pregnancy up to the birth. The laws we have at the moment are over fifty years old, they need updating. The 24 week limit is way too early and it shouldn't need the consent of two doctors, if the mother wants one that should be the end of the discussion.

If you updated it due to changes over time it would be earlier as babies can be saved from around 22 weeks if born that early.

Thelnebriati · 07/12/2024 21:13

Texas has stopped tracking the number of women who die as a result of the abortion ban.

''The original statute prohibits the review of abortion-related deaths, a caveat that even committee members were not aware of until a few months ago. The Legislature also allocated money last year with the intent of cutting Texas out of the federal maternal death tracking system, despite committee members' concerns.''
https://www.texastribune.org/2024/12/06/texas-maternal-mortality-committee-deaths

The Texas Maternal Mortality and Morbidity Review Committee meets in Austin on Sept. 27, 2024.

Texas’ maternal mortality committee faces backlash for not reviewing deaths from first two years post-Dobbs

Committee members said it was necessary to skip the two years after Texas passed its restrictive abortion laws to offer more timely recommendations.

https://www.texastribune.org/2024/12/06/texas-maternal-mortality-committee-deaths

NotOneOfTheInCrowd · 07/12/2024 21:15

@J@Julia34 it’s really very simple. Don’t agree with abortion? Then don’t have one. It’s really very simple. You know? Your body your choice.

But you have no right to tell any other woman, and that includes your daughter when she’s old enough, what she can and cannot do with her body.

And you know the irony of you agreeing with that odious little twat Farage? Given it’s very clear you’re not from the UK, if he ever did come to power he would almost certainly want you deported. That doesn’t mean he’s right. He isn’t. But the kind of people who vote for him are the kind of people who agree with him on far more close to home (for you) issues than abortion.

Be careful what you wish for.

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 07/12/2024 21:16

But not when women is healthy baby healthy and then women decide "oh 24 weeks pregnant let's do abortion"

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and really how often does this happen?

Julia34 · 07/12/2024 21:19

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 07/12/2024 21:16

But not when women is healthy baby healthy and then women decide "oh 24 weeks pregnant let's do abortion"

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and really how often does this happen?

I don't know. I said before there will be not happen until law changes to allowed women have abortion until birth date

pointythings · 07/12/2024 21:20

Julia34 · 07/12/2024 21:10

No! I clearly said that the law allowed women to have abortion if they at risk of dying. So why you now txt to me "because of you women had died " . I clearly said before that women in life risk by law can have abortion

Who tell unborn babies should have no rights? They are human beings and if they not pode risk for women why they should died?

Oh yeah go exteme 😑

The problem with your stance is that in places in the US where there are abortion bans, doctors are very conservative about stating that a woman is at risk of dying. Because if they are deemed to have given someone an abortion when they were not at risk of dying, they can be jailed. So they get it wrong in the other direction - they don't intervene fast enough. And women have died because of it.

On the other hand if you make abortion legal, it can be delivered safely when women need it, because nobody is afraid of being jailed. Do you get it now?

The bottom line is that the woman must always come first. Because if it is otherwise, you are reducing her to a vessel. A slave. Why do you want to do that to women?

pointythings · 07/12/2024 21:21

Julia34 · 07/12/2024 21:19

I don't know. I said before there will be not happen until law changes to allowed women have abortion until birth date

And you are wrong about that. It will not happen at all, because women are better than that and can be trusted. Why do you not trust women?

Julia34 · 07/12/2024 21:28

pointythings · 07/12/2024 21:21

And you are wrong about that. It will not happen at all, because women are better than that and can be trusted. Why do you not trust women?

😅 if the women already allowed to have abortion in late stages pregnacy if birth defects are find out and they are risk of daying then WHY TO FIGHT FOR ABORTION TO BE ALLOWED UNTIL LATE PREGNANCY if they are already having this rights if the pregnacy is at risk?

JazzyJelly · 07/12/2024 21:33

Julia34 · 07/12/2024 21:05

The unborn babies have rights to live especially if they are healthy and not cause risk for women.

🤣oh why this aggression cause I not agree with you

Nope.

Nobody has the right to my body.

I love my sister more than anybody or anything on earth.

She does not have the right to piggy back on my liver, my kidneys, or my heart.

If someone's life depends on endangering mine, they can go fuck themselves, and so can you.

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