To not want to “bond” with BIL new partner

[Mrscantsleeep]

This is really getting my back up and I’m tired of having this same argument with DH around BIL and his new piece. He cheated on his long term fiance for this new lady they were having an affair at work both cheating on their partners. They have been on and off for years but recently made it official a few months ago now moved in with him and his kids.She’s really full on which is something I’m not use too and out shopping with MIL every weekend.BIL kids seem to love her.Apparently they are trying for a baby now too!

Hubby said oh you need to bond with her she seems alright. But it just doesn’t all seem normal to me I’m dead wary and I can’t put my finger on it! Also seems crazy to me how replaceable his ex partner was of many years and parents in law have just wiped any trace of her.

please tell me if I am being unreasonable? With Christmas coming up it’s causing arguments already. I’m not interested in getting to know her.

It's only on MN I ever hear about ex-MILs continuing a close relationship with their ex-DILs. I've never known it to happen in real life. What usually happens is wedding photos come down and only photos of the grandkids remain. A card is sent at Christmas and birthdays. Occasionally a cousin or someone will send a wedding invite to the ex, but ex-PIL don't tend to invite the ex-DIL to things unless given the go-ahead by the son.

At the end of the day, their loyalty will always be with their son.

No, HE is ruining things by being weird and controlling about it.

tell him you’ll do you, and he can do him. Let things happen naturally or it will blow up .

Shut this down before he gets an idea that he’s entitled to tell you how to conduct your friendships