People in my house just use my stuff and don’t take me seriously if I tell them nicely!!

[Newname85]

I am tired and fed up. If my husband/kids don’t find their stuff, they just use my things! I end up not finding stuff when I need and unnecessary stress of searching.

They just don’t seem to understand if I tell them nicely, so - once in a few month I lose it. I end up shouting at people and they all blame each other. It’s impacting my health.

I’m lying in bed because I’m so stressed. My heartbeat is still high from all the shouting. I’m so fed up. How do I resolve this?

should I just leave them all and go live somewher else!?

What stuff are people using?

Go full Gordon Ramsay on them.- stop being nice. Keep you stuff in a lockable. box away from the away from the thieving bastard.

No idea, when I go apeshit I'm then accused of nagging and being unreasonable. Can't win either way so basically in perpetual fuckedoffnese. If you figure it out let me know!

Lock your stuff away, it sucks I know but yeah, chain up your wardrobe.

Charge them. Take their favourite item away, they pay to get it back (in washing up all week if money not an option), you'll stop it when your things are no longer taken.

My Dad nailed a chain to my mum’s hairbrush and attached it to my mum’s dressing table to stop us stealing it and not putting it back
he did the same with two extension leads at either side of their bed, worked a treat

kitchen scissors - I bought 4, 1 left in the kitchen, that too keeps disappearing on and off, only to be found in random places. No one owns up to- so it’s like the scissors has legs!

stationary : my study desk has pens, pencils, stapler, erasers etc. I keep them in a neatly organised box. Gone!! I was on an important call the other day and I couldn’t find a single pen to make notes. My note book also goes missing periodically

Socks : if my daughter (16) is in a rush and can’t find her socks, she just takes USED socks from my shoes and wears them!! That’s so disgusting and obviously I can’t find them when I need to go out! I went ape shit and it stopped.

My husband used my eyebrow tweezers to repair something on his computer. it didn’t work for eyebrow hair after that.

toothpaste : when the kids can’t find toothpaste in their bathroom, they just take mine. Not just use some paste, they take the tube and it’s not there in my bathroom when I need. I usuallly find it with the lid open (YUKKK) in the kids bathroom.

I’m still up because my heart rate is up from all the shouting.

Husband shaved/cut some hair (most likely from his movember beard) on the DRESSING TABLE. He then left it there incl MY scissors he used for this. There was a cordless vacuum right under this table. He couldn’t be bothered to at least clean it up.

I dont understand this BLATANT disrespect. Like WTF ??

(I’m not a housewife. I work full time - so I don’t have the time to look for missing things, close other peoples toothpaste lids and clean up after people trimming beards on my dressing table)

I would probably be pissy about the hairs left on the dressing table but the rest I really couldn't get worked up about

Get some lockable drawers and cabinets and put your stuff in there.

They don't seem like things to get too het up about. Sounds like normal family stuff tbh.

leaving your kids because hairs?

@ feel your pain.
Was Christmas shopping the other day and bought a male grooming kit for ds.

I used to get wound up about this as it's so annoying like hair brush bobbles moisturiser my straighteners tweezers nail clippers scissors wet wipes etc all from my dressing table.

I now fill their Xmas stockings with all this kind of stuff and if mine goes missing I make a bee line for their rooms. It's even better when they're still in bed cause I turn the lights on and loudly search their dressers for my stuff and if I can't find it I take theirs.

It tends to stop them

This would drive me round the bend. It's so disrespectful too. I'm the sort of person who likes everything in its place and I can get very arsey if someone moves my stuff around or something isn't where I expected it to be.

Stop being nice. Pull them up hard on it every time.

Genius 😎
Way to go 👍

Beard hair- sprinkled inside and over several of his shirts and t-shirts.
Toothpaste - stand over a kid while they put the lid on, clean it up and return it to your bathroom.

Scissors - lock a spare pair in your stationery lockable box that you're going to buy for your desk. Or get a lockable box in each room for your stuff and leave cheap crappy stuff out for them to use. Can't find their 5th pair of kitchen scissors? Tough, you're not having mine.

They need to feel the negative consequences of their actions.

Yeah it's mildly irritating but to be up and fuming with a raving heart after a shouting match?

For your own sanity and health you need to relax.

This sort of thing is normal. Lock up or hide your valuables.

They’re copying your dh. He borrows your stuff to disrespect you and the kids follow suit.

Sometimes people only learn through experiencing consequences. Do the same to them. 'Borrow' their important things and don't return and play dumb when they ask. Explain that you thought this was your this were going to be since they do it to you.

I would get a code lockable box for your desk. With the toothpaste maybe get a few spare tubes. I love the suggestion of sprinkling facial hair in DHs clothes. I once read in a forum someone stopped their DH from peeing on the toilet seat by cleaning it up with his clean underwear, and putting the underwear back in the drawer. I think this is mostly just annoying stuff that happens when you live with other people. You can shout, or do it back to them. Hide the kids device chargers. You can enjoy watching them search.

Why are the kitchen scissors yours? Does everyone in the house have their own set?

at the moment it sounds as if you massively overreacted, is there something else going on? Making this the straw that broke the camels back.

Kitchen scissors going missing is normal in my house too. Buy a couple more.
Dh - I'd make him clean up there and then and tell him to buy you new tweezers right now and never borrow your stuff again without asking.
Pens and stationary. Id be livid at this. This your office area and no one should be going to it. I'd go ballistic at this. I'd make the dc find all the pens in their rooms and tell them to put them in holders on their desk and that's what they are to use.
Toothpaste - there should be spare tubes in the bathroom

Good advice here. I too get the rage when my stuff goes missing. It’s hard when you’ve a busy life and are trying to stay organised. Hope you got some sleep and they’ll think twice next time. But yes hide/lock stuff away and I would have gone mad too. 🌷