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My town has really changed

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CatbellsOnTheSeashore · 03/12/2024 12:55

In a confusing and not very pleasant way.

It was gradually changing for the worse before covid, but the pandemic seemed to accelerate it, and I am wondering if anyone else has noticed anything like this.

It became more insular whilst more populated, the population increased quite a bit over the past 5 yrs. More and more dereliction, low council maintenance and an influx of troubled people housed around the town centre, which is now a no-go zone. Areas surrounding have steadily grown worse also, as it seems to be spilling out.

What does feel really different is that there are now lots of groups of men, hanging around drinking or sat on pavements together (not begging). Drugs took over the local nature paths and canal walks so now there are large groups of people out of their heads lying on old sofas at the locks, it's really grim. Women who used to cycle and run in these areas have more or less moved elsewhere or stopped.

More and more standard sized houses in low to middle income areas are becoming HMO's, yet with poor refuse organisation and not enough parking. I'm not exaggerating when I say there are literally trails of dog shit in the streets in many areas, too, which pretty much hangs in the air and the place stinks. That, and skunk.

We live in a decent part of town but it is coming closer, and I only have that perk due to inheriting my parents bungalow. More and more people are moving out.

On a walk to Sainsbury's yesterday two guys were holding onto a sign pole hovering over a bin. As I passed by one of them vomited into the bin and then spat/gobbed an inch from my feet - he didn't notice me particularly, but it was quite sudden or I'd have given them a wide berth.
This isn't unusual now.

I know people usually blame the cost of living and covid, etc, but this was definitely on the rise before. There is far more noise pollution as more buildings go up, usually industrial, and the roads are a nightmare. Infrastructure for actual people is decreasing.
That said, I don't think most of these people were thriving before, so it isn't a sudden change. It is as if a new kind of culture is growing, that doesn't care a damn about anything. Everything is vandalised or shat on. More and more windows are broken in properties close to the town centre, and I doubt most of these people were thriving before the pandemic hit.

Is this bad luck or is anything like it happening elsewhere?
We are definitely looking to move away.

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MurdoMunro · 03/12/2024 18:53

user1497787065 · 03/12/2024 18:45

Over 20 million has been spent by our Lib Dem council to improve our town. Sadly all they have done is replace pavements and roadways with fancier paving and there is a fountain and large screen planned. We have fewer and fewer shops and like you say, a number of groups gathering in the town. Fortunately we live in a nearby village and very little of this affects us but a decade or so
Ago it was a thriving market town.

Was that ‘Levelling Up’ money? If it was central government decided what it had to be spent on, local council had no say. It was take the money for pavements and road realignments or get nowt.

LightSpeeds · 03/12/2024 18:54

Yep, my small city has really gone downhill in the past few years due to lots of the bigger shops closing, more people wandering around with drink/drug/mental health problems, lots of people now living in shop doorways, the council constantly increasing parking fees and putting double yellow lines everywhere, which deters people from coming in.

Something about it just isn't nice so I rarely go into the centre. There's not many good shops left either (lots of empty shops or vaping shops).

thumpe100 · 03/12/2024 18:55

QueenCamilla · 03/12/2024 18:45

@CandyMaker The men I see congregating in cafes are not from Eastern Europe.

I actually agree and never liked the term Eastern Europe for the fact it describes a group of countries and it's peoples who have very little to nothing in common in terms of language, religion, culture, appearance - it is a poor descriptor.
The coffee shop "networking" is a particular darling of Balkan (a special mention to Albanians) and Middle Eastern men.

It is the visible tip of an organised crime iceberg, as much as the proliferation of the false-front businesses.

It is an imported problem, which as a country we really could do without, for we are not exactly lacking in home-grown scum. I find it sickeningly arrogant to think that this struggling island (with the last notable boom in prosperity 150 years ago now) can take on the world's ills and somehow solve them, when it is unable to provide a decent standard of living, education and health care to it's own citizens. UK is not even self-sufficient in it's food production.
Uncontrolled immigration is not the root of all ills here but it is a heavy laden seed head that wasn't dead-headed at the right time. Too late now.

Fact is we've only had 'uncontrolled immigration' when we had open border with EU citizens, since Brexit we haven't and its been the highest immigraiton in history, over 85% of it legal migration through visa's.

Crime and poverty are a home grown problem with the decimation of support for the working class and poor, it started with Thatcher , continued with Blair and got worse over the last 14 years ago. A culture of individualism that condems poor people as lazy or feckless.

Poor education, a media that encourages us to blame everyone except ourselves for the state of the country- illegal immigrants, legal immigrants, asylum seekers , all have merged into a great 'other' and we can blame the lack of housing , crime , child abuse, all at their door.

Its a road to nowhere and allows a culture amongst the native people of this country - non-responsibility for all the shit we are wadding in..

DinosaurMunch · 03/12/2024 18:58

CatbellsOnTheSeashore · 03/12/2024 18:22

Benefits are not enough to live on properly, nor do they meet anywhere near what private rents ask. I have a friend on ESA who is a wheelchair user and if she had to rent, the housing component would not even cover half of a cheap flat here.

I would say the issue is work isn't paying, and the property market is ridiculous.

Well maybe it's different in your area but round here someone on out of work benefits can afford new clothes for them and kids, food, heating and holidays, TV subscription, phone contract. Similar to what someone on a low paid job would hope to afford in fact. Plus someone who doesn't work gets everything else free whereas the working person pays for their prescriptions, dentist, school meals etc.

To me out of work benefits should not stretch to luxuries, it should keep you off the street and fed and that's it.

Then you have about 20% of the working population also topped up with benefits, often to more than the average wage. This then ends up subsidising employers and landlords. But if the working person saves anything they lose their benefits so they're forever trapped in over priced rented accommodation.

It all means that work doesn't really pay and as a result education isn't valued either.

Not talking about disability benefits as that's a different issue but even there you have plenty of people claiming it for dubious mental health conditions such as anxiety that really just need a kick up the bum.

duc748 · 03/12/2024 19:00

Never knew there were so many Wiganers on MN! Never nice to see your home slagged off, though.

MistressoftheDarkSide · 03/12/2024 19:12

DinosaurMunch · 03/12/2024 18:58

Well maybe it's different in your area but round here someone on out of work benefits can afford new clothes for them and kids, food, heating and holidays, TV subscription, phone contract. Similar to what someone on a low paid job would hope to afford in fact. Plus someone who doesn't work gets everything else free whereas the working person pays for their prescriptions, dentist, school meals etc.

To me out of work benefits should not stretch to luxuries, it should keep you off the street and fed and that's it.

Then you have about 20% of the working population also topped up with benefits, often to more than the average wage. This then ends up subsidising employers and landlords. But if the working person saves anything they lose their benefits so they're forever trapped in over priced rented accommodation.

It all means that work doesn't really pay and as a result education isn't valued either.

Not talking about disability benefits as that's a different issue but even there you have plenty of people claiming it for dubious mental health conditions such as anxiety that really just need a kick up the bum.

Ah, if it's not the immigrants it's those on benefits... 🙄

Couldn't possibly be a market rigged to make the rich obscenely so and the poor as poor as possible without risking bloody revolution. Or politicians in it for the glamour and networking opportunities, with their own investment and property portfolios that they'redesperate to enhance. Oh no, couldn't possibly be any of that, could it?

MurdoMunro · 03/12/2024 19:15

duc748 · 03/12/2024 19:00

Never knew there were so many Wiganers on MN! Never nice to see your home slagged off, though.

I had a friend at university from Wigan and he was the nicest, kindest and most reliable friend I ever knew. That’s it. That’s all I know about Wigan and when your name comes up I think ‘ah, Dave P came from Wigan. Nice’.

user1497787065 · 03/12/2024 19:16

MurdoMunro - no not levelling up money.

fetchacloth · 03/12/2024 19:17

Sadly I think this decline you've described is becoming a general feature now, due to CoL crisis, reduction in public services etc and a general feeling of doom and gloom. It's really depressing to see 😣.
If you think the last 5 years have been grim, I think the next 5 years are likely to be worse.

shockeditellyou · 03/12/2024 19:21

Pat888 · 03/12/2024 18:21

We constantly vote in govs who promise the earth with no tax rises - look at what happened to Theresa May's gov when she wanted to fund social care for the elderly, she lost seats due to the 'dementia tax' - our newspaper headlines don't help.

But international gangs are running things - and we are nice western countries who don't send in the SAS to bump them off secretly - we are busy playing by the rules whilst everyone else cheats - look at the human trafficking gangs - somehow they get away with shipping thousands of illegal immigrant across several european countries into boats across to the UK - and no one can stop it - what a travesty.

You’re right - some play by the rules but our institutions are incapable of enforcing rule, so why would you follow rules?

Gogogo12345 · 03/12/2024 19:22

KingDangerMouse · 03/12/2024 18:53

The Conservatives deliberately unfunded Labour areas in favour of Tory areas, whilst in power. I’m not sure it was widely reported in msm.

I lived and worked in London borough of Newham when Labour were in government. It was still a shit hole then so can't say is simply due to Tories underfunding.

And with all this talk of poverty. Exactly how much money does it cost people to not drop crap on the floor or piss in the street? That's piss poor attitude and sod all to do with mobey

Littlemissgobby · 03/12/2024 19:22

user1497787065 · 03/12/2024 19:16

MurdoMunro - no not levelling up money.

In dewsbury I say the tories have levelled down lol

Sharptonguedwoman · 03/12/2024 19:22

Ablondiebutagoody · 03/12/2024 12:58

What's the town? Sounds like you might be exaggerating a bit.......

Poverty has something to do with it and people with too much time on their hands but quite a lot has to do with the changing function of city centres. Far fewer dept stores, more cafes and boarded up shops.

30percent · 03/12/2024 19:27

DinosaurMunch · 03/12/2024 18:58

Well maybe it's different in your area but round here someone on out of work benefits can afford new clothes for them and kids, food, heating and holidays, TV subscription, phone contract. Similar to what someone on a low paid job would hope to afford in fact. Plus someone who doesn't work gets everything else free whereas the working person pays for their prescriptions, dentist, school meals etc.

To me out of work benefits should not stretch to luxuries, it should keep you off the street and fed and that's it.

Then you have about 20% of the working population also topped up with benefits, often to more than the average wage. This then ends up subsidising employers and landlords. But if the working person saves anything they lose their benefits so they're forever trapped in over priced rented accommodation.

It all means that work doesn't really pay and as a result education isn't valued either.

Not talking about disability benefits as that's a different issue but even there you have plenty of people claiming it for dubious mental health conditions such as anxiety that really just need a kick up the bum.

Free school meals used to be for families with incomes lower than 16k now it's only 7.4k you have to be working an insanely small number of hours on minimum wage to only earn 7.4k.

In my opinion it should be raised back up to 16k.

User135644 · 03/12/2024 19:28

Gogogo12345 · 03/12/2024 19:22

I lived and worked in London borough of Newham when Labour were in government. It was still a shit hole then so can't say is simply due to Tories underfunding.

And with all this talk of poverty. Exactly how much money does it cost people to not drop crap on the floor or piss in the street? That's piss poor attitude and sod all to do with mobey

Poor areas vote Labour and with poor areas is poverty.

That's no excusing anti-social behavour but it's a by-product of service cuts as well. Mess breeds mess when the council have less resources to keep roads clean; crime increases when police services are cut. It's all linked.

CandyMaker · 03/12/2024 19:30

Newham was not a shit hole.

KatieB55 · 03/12/2024 19:31

The town we used to live in became exactly the same. London councils were housing their homeless in the town as much cheaper than London. Lots of Victorian terraced houses became HMOs and the on-street parking became a nightmare. The change in the town over the last 5 years has been significant.

TammyOne · 03/12/2024 19:36

Spangledangle · 03/12/2024 16:53

I do think that all of the points brought up in this thread are probably near the truth of the matter. Austerity,rampant individualism and consumerism,post covid apathy and the subsequent breaking of the social contract, mass illegal immigration of young single men from very poor and patriarchal cultures (which is different to planned immigration as that is generally a net positive), the greed that has widened the rich poor divide, and the shrinking of the middle class. Then the rise of the Internet (home shopping, people not socialising in the real world) and generally people not caring or taking responsibility because whilst a lot of these problems are structural, individuals still need to take responsibility.
Every generation has its challenges and this one is ours. Where we start though I do not know...

I think we start by getting out into the world and volunteering to do something- anything. Whether it’s helping with a community garden, running a youth club, reading with kids in school, working at a church food bank.
Also making sure city councillors and MOs are held to account. But we all have to take some personal responsibility to make it better. We can’t go down this road of each being individual units and staying in our bubble.

Hunglikeapolevaulter · 03/12/2024 19:37

Fact is we've only had 'uncontrolled immigration' when we had open border with EU citizens, since Brexit we haven't and its been the highest immigraiton in history, over 85% of it legal migration through visa's.

Tbf Keir Starmer did just say we've been effectively running an open borders experiment over the last few years:

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/politics/brexit-immigration-figures-starmer-tories-b2655550.html

Tories used Brexit as a ‘one-nation open borders experiment’, claims Starmer

The prime minister spelt out the betrayal of Brexit voters by the Tories after new figures revealed immigration reached a record high of more than 900,000 in 2023

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/politics/brexit-immigration-figures-starmer-tories-b2655550.html

30percent · 03/12/2024 19:38

Hunglikeapolevaulter · 03/12/2024 19:37

Fact is we've only had 'uncontrolled immigration' when we had open border with EU citizens, since Brexit we haven't and its been the highest immigraiton in history, over 85% of it legal migration through visa's.

Tbf Keir Starmer did just say we've been effectively running an open borders experiment over the last few years:

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/politics/brexit-immigration-figures-starmer-tories-b2655550.html

It will be interesting to see if he actually does anything about it though (highly unlikely)

Spangledangle · 03/12/2024 19:38

TammyOne · 03/12/2024 19:36

I think we start by getting out into the world and volunteering to do something- anything. Whether it’s helping with a community garden, running a youth club, reading with kids in school, working at a church food bank.
Also making sure city councillors and MOs are held to account. But we all have to take some personal responsibility to make it better. We can’t go down this road of each being individual units and staying in our bubble.

I love this and I think you're right.

DreamTheMoors · 03/12/2024 19:39

I’m in California, but the same thing happened to my sweet town.
It was a small farming town, surrounded by orchards and vineyards at the bottom of the Sierra Nevada mountains. In winter, it looks like you could reach out touch those glorious snow-capped mountains.
Maybe 5000 people. 3 elementary schools, 1 high school. 2 markets.
Then, Walmart (the huge chain owned by billionaires) built a gigantic “superstore” and within 2 months, all the sweet boutiques and shops closed and one market closed because they couldn’t compete. Now our once-sweet downtown looks like an abandoned ghost town.
The population swelled by 10,000 people.
We have to drive 7 miles to do a shop for decent veg & meat & fish.
Walmart’s parking lot is overflowing with every fast food restaurant known to mankind.
It sits on the road leading into town and is the ugliest welcome to visitors you’ve ever seen.
I hate Walmart. It laid waste to our beloved little town.

MaloryJones · 03/12/2024 19:39

Spangledangle · 03/12/2024 14:55

Then you've never had the pain of seeing a hopelessly addicted family member throw their life away despite the best efforts and interventions of multiple family members over years. Love does not conquer all I'm afraid. Street homelessness in this country is not primarily about housing,it is complex and usually rooted in addiction.

Well Said

EarthSight · 03/12/2024 19:43

Ablondiebutagoody · 03/12/2024 12:58

What's the town? Sounds like you might be exaggerating a bit.......

Then you haven't travelled enough @Ablondiebutagoody

Whilst looking at houses in my humble price range, which is already some of the lowest in the U.K, I have seen some streets in such state & squalor that they almost resemble slums in ex-Soviet countries.

I opened the door to an alleyway in one house to see what's around the back alley (which estate agents always want to steer you away from).

It shocked even me. Weeds, rubbish flying, one or two things that looked like they could be pill wrappers, and sofas & chairs left to rot. It was almost like those 19th century sepia photographs of how streets used to look like in poverty.

The house next door was in such a state that I assumed it was derelict which could be a real problem. The roof of the old shed in the small back yard was totally caved in, and on top someone had strewn an old, now sodden mattress.

I was again shocked when I learnt it was lived in, and met the woman who rented the house and lived there with her young son.

Coolasfeck · 03/12/2024 19:46

We’re are a poorer country. We’re losing £100bn a year alone due to Brexit. Yet Farage is holding himself up as the answer to our problems. It’s madness but many will vote for him.

I don’t think the decline can be stopped as our non-don media are great at getting people to point fingers in the wrong direction whilst their friends strip the country bare.

We’ll end up with areas of the UK similar to Appalachia in America with endemic drug issues and poverty and no functioning health service or social services.

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