Apparently I'm beautiful NOW

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I have very slowly been losing weight. Mum has been making comments but I mostly downplayed it, not looking for compliments or mentioning it or anything.

Today she told me I'm actually beautiful now. Jeese... thanks mum. Only took 30 something years.

Every time she moaned at me for being fat it was always followed by "of course it's mainly about health". No , it's not. At least not to her.

What nonsense.

No one is saying every single person born in the 40s and 50s makes awful comments about weight.. They are. That’s why people are commenting.

Boomers grew up in a time where there weren't many big people. The only reason a few people were big back then was because of health issues or they were born like that and it's hereditary. Sorry to say but baby boomers do have an opinion that is based on their upbringing and experiences.

@amiefam I'm not. He sang to her tune and I'm not blind to that.

"baby boomers" are not a hive mind.
They are millions of people of all classes, regions and experiences. How ignorant and lazy to stereotype an entire generation!

Sorry OP that doesn't sound very nice!!!

Not saying your mum is a boomer but as they've been mentioned, I think they've just been brought up in a very different time where people taking offence wasn't as common and the bar for being careful with words is sky high now so sometimes their words can be quite shocking.
I really don't believe they mean harm, again as above they're just used to speaking their mind I suppose.
My grandma in law said to me the other day "you've put on weight, you look good but don't put on any more", I'm 9 months postpartum for context, but anyway I just laughed and said I'll try not to. It's really not a big deal

I think that attributing ANYTHING to any generation as though we are identical 3d printed dolls is both factually innaccurate and rude. If I said "oh all 30 year old women have lip filler and botox" I'd get flamed.

Mine liked to tell me how fat and ugly I was, how my shoulders were bigger than hers, her thighs were slimmer, no man would want a fat woman especially one who wore glasses
Took me to Evans clothes shopping, bought me a shirt in a size 22 "so it wouldn't be tight"

I was a size 14, she was a size 26
All she achieved was giving me crippling anxiety about how ugly I am and disordered eating
Well done mum

I'm not sure this is an age thing so much as a woman thing. Remember heroin chic in the 90s? Can't blame 'boomers' for that!
I do suppose though that women who are now in their 60s and 70s saw fewer fat people when they were young, since there wasn't the junk food that's available now. As a child of the 70s and 80s there was one 'fat' kid in each year group and they weren't usually that big by today's standards.
But we still have it in our heads that slim is attractive and that's reinforced everywhere. Despite body positive promotion no one really thinks that big is beautiful - very few bigger women are seen as genuinely gorgeous. The fact that so many celebrity women are on ozempic proves it!

My mum was always in a diet when I was growing up - she wasn't even big. Size 10 iirc. It's ingrained in our culture. I'm really careful with my dd and never comment on weight but she's absorbed the messaging from the influences she's exposed to that I have little control over.

I think some people don't understand what stereotyping means!

You think so. What generation are you? Whichever it is, I wouldn't think they're all ageist bigots

Most of the time it is though.

What...none of the people born between 1946 – 1964 were overweight because they ate too much?

Everyone's opinion is based upon upbringing and experiences, this is not unique to the baby boomer generation. You think that generation all share the same upbringing and experience and do not have their own opinions? This thread is mad.

OP's Mum said a mean thing. People all over the world say mean things all the sodding time.

I didn’t say they did. The thought-processes more likely to be held by generational age groups is part of social science and it exists.

My mum was born in 1930... she worried about weight and what she looked like, right up until the end of her life. When I hadn't been with my now husband long, we were talking to her about how well we were getting on. She turned to me, in front of him and said, "and he hasn't even seen you nice and slim yet". Cheers mum! We laugh about it now. But it packed a punch at the time. I agree that there is a generational thing... that I hope we are moving away from 🙏

Read your post again.

It has nothing to do with your Mom being a "Boomer". She's just a shitty, shallow person.

Social science is not ageism. It’s a reason why attitudes and ways of understanding the world shift over time due to social and cultural influences.

Not to all, clearly.

I know what it said and I know its meaning. Thanks.

I understand social science. Thank you.
You seem to be unable to understand that an entire generation will vary enormously.
If you say that "boomers" think or behave in a certain way, you are stereotyping, and your post was negative and offensive.

Clearly not. Thanks.

The ignorance is astounding. People have crappy parents and instead of blaming them, they'll blame a whole generation so they can "excuse" their shitty parents. smdh
I bet the Lost Generation, the Greatest Generation and the Silent Generation were a lot thinner than any that followed....says no intelligent person ever. 🙄

Astounding ignorance, as you say.
Quite extraordinary!