Is this cheeky? Giving child a lift?

[Bubblegirly]

My DD aged 8 does a class every week and has for the last two years. Last week I ran into an old friend who I haven’t seen for around 3 years. She was bringing her DS for the first time. It was nice to catch up etc and we said see you next week.

ive just had a message asking if I can take and drop home her DS tomorrow as she is struggling to fit everything into her day. I’m like WTF? I only met DS last week for the first time. I’m going to say no but is this cheeky? It really feels it? It’s only his second week and I don’t want to set a precedent

My DP and some of the other dads are really good at offloading sorting out lifts. They see it as sensible - share the load, save petrol, save time.

Though tbh honest usually a few of them go to have coffee/chat.

Well we can definitely say you weren't my neighbour. From what the child said there was lots of blood and long wait for an ambulance so his dad just got his mum in the car and went. I suppose it might have been better if he'd left her to bleed to death. I mean anything is better than bothering a neighbour.

It isn’t. You don’t have to. Saying no for whatever reason is totally fine. Of course it is. I would. And that’s ok too. But her asking in itself with nothing but the details given in the OP is not CF territory.

When I didn't have a car one of the dads who lived locally gave me a lift every week when our kids went to judo. I was very grateful as my kids really wanted to do it and I could do it by bus but it was two buses each way on a Sunday morning when they aren't exactly frequent.

Personally I do expect men to be nice and I find they generally are.

It is a lift they requested isn't it?

Not adoption ?

By all means ask. Don’t ask don’t get and all that. But do not expect a yes

Yes, been to the activity once when mother took them, asks a favour for second week so a bit early to be recurrent.

Who said she did? 😂

No-one is "sorting" anything out.
Can the kid have a lift?
This completely horrifies, angers and frightens some people on here. Fine. It wouldn't bother me. I'm not sorting anything out for anyone. I'm giving a child a lift to where I'm going anyway.

A lift they requested,yes. To and from the event
it’s an imposition not adoption

It is obviously now me making presumptions but I wonder if the difference in responses here may reflect a difference in location based on your username. Think I’ll stay up north. (And no definitely not north London…).

You’re being purposefully obtuse. The sort is the return journey by car to the class
Otherwise they’d have to cancel and miss the class
The solution , the sort, is being externalised & tasked to @Bubblegirly

I hale from North London, and I am appalled at some of these responses.

No, I'm not being obtuse - plus, is there any need to make it personal? Can't you disagree without an insult?
They asked a favour. I'd do it, you wouldn't. Fine.
Oh, and I also wouldn't name call on here either.

How about - ‘great idea, it would be so good to take turns on this - would you be ok to do this week tho, as it’s a crazy squeeze for me. I’ll do the one following’

I’ve given hundreds of lifts to their friends and other random kids over the years (they are in their teens now). I’m always happy to help but have also come across users and message like in OP’s post would now get my back up. I would maybe take the child that one time but would make it clear it’s not something I could do on a regular basis. If she comes back suggesting a lift share for going forward, that’s something to consider.

DS2 has a friend who’s DM is a typical user. But the lad is a sweetheart so I help him out. For him. But I have known him since the reception class, not just met him last week.

Tbf my best friend lives in Muswell Hill and is a totally normal human too. Sorry for being londonist there for a minute ;)

I'm going to say that living in North London I've had the most friendly and helpful neighbours! I think it's something else, rather than location.

This

Ahhh, the friendly northerners kettle always on,nowt is too much bother,all about community. Meanwhile in that there London they’d shove you under a bus soon as look at you

when you’re finished with the tired stereotypes and tropes and have taken them there Chips off your shoulder you can continue posting

Alright love.

Yea, ye right chick

Oh I loved going to Muswell Hill, and visiting their rather famous fish&chip restaurant, when I lived in North London😋

I’d say no. It’s not an emergency situation, OP’s old friend perhaps should have planned better in advance.
It’s also going to be hard to get out of later if you do start and can’t keep it up.