AIBU to spit on DH toothbrush

[Toothbrushbitch]

I’m ill. In particular, yesterday I was really ill in a way I haven’t been in years - rigors, fever, vomiting and white spotty tonsils.

I’m also pregnant.

It was 2yo DD day off from nursery. We have no family in a 2.5 hour radius. No local friends (moved here recently for DH job).

I begged DH to stay home from work to parent but he declined (not self employed). CBeebies parented our child most of the day.

fast forward to this evening and I ask DH if he can look after DD so I can please shower as I didn’t shower at all yesterday as felt too ill. He’s not helping at all, lying on the sofa watching Facebook videos. Child crying. Im doing housework. He then says I’m “demonstrably fine”.

I have spat on his toothbrush since he thinks this virus is demonstrably fine.

AIBU

This cannot be real.
If so, I hope your husband divorces you. Shame

Urgh, what a vile thing to do.

YABVVVVU.

That's fucking disgusting, I hope he wipes his arse with yours if he gets the runs.

By the way, I do think he is being a first class asshole, but spitting on someone’s toothbrush to deliberately try and make them ill is awful

Nah you're not being unreasonable. He sounds like a right dick.

Spitting on a toothbrush is grim. I’m hoping you didn’t ACTUALLY do that.

He is being a shit though. I’d just go have a long bath and leave him to look after your daughter.

While disgusting...

Why the fuck are you tolerating this? This is not just this one time is it.

This sounds like a toxic relationship and I really hope that none of this is real.

I'm sorry you're feeling so awful. Tell him you're going to bed. Then leave him to it xx

He sounds like an absolute prick for sitting around and refusing to parent. Spitting on his toothbrush suggests you basically hate him though (not saying I blame you) and I think the relationship might be dead.

He's being vile, you're being nasty back - seems like a miserable situation.

How is making him ill going to help? This isn’t a relationship and this is not helpful for your child.

You’re disgusting. Learn to control your emotions.

He’s a total shit though.

I understand your frustration with him, and I would be lying if I said I had never harboured dark thoughts about my DH when he was being spectacularly selfish.

But that's a bit gross.

Go and wash his toothbrush.

Then go back into the lounge, tell him you are not demonstrably well, and you are going to bed. Leave him to it.

It's not nice but I get why you were so angry with him. If he doesn't respond to reasonable requests, you'll have to play him at his own game. On Saturday book a premier inn where you can shower and rest for the day. Eat somewhere else and when you come back lay on the sofa. If he doesn't understand words then maybe he'll respond to "demonstrable" actions.

You can't go around trying to make people ill though.

Go to bed or a Premier Inn. Leave him to it.
Why on earth are you having a second child with him ???

You should've just liked him.

Being serious now... when you reach this point, either he changes (don't see that happening) or you leave. There's no respect, friendship or understanding left there, never mind love .

Good question.

You sound like a right pair of prats.

Christ. What a vindictive thing to do. Sounds like a wonderful relationship

I hope she divorces him the lazy, entitled and invalidating prick.

That is not a good way to handle the situation.

Also, it will backfire on you. He will get sick and will make sure he is demonstrably unwell and you will end up doing more work while he loafs around sick for a week

You know that if he gets ill, you’ll end up with even more on your plate?

O poor you 🙄 Grow up! How do you think people on their own cope. Just leave if it’s always like that. Actually pathetic

Does your DH know you respect him so little?

Partners are supposed to make each others lives better and enriched.

You are both doing nothing for each other.