AIBU to spit on DH toothbrush

[Toothbrushbitch]

I’m ill. In particular, yesterday I was really ill in a way I haven’t been in years - rigors, fever, vomiting and white spotty tonsils.

I’m also pregnant.

It was 2yo DD day off from nursery. We have no family in a 2.5 hour radius. No local friends (moved here recently for DH job).

I begged DH to stay home from work to parent but he declined (not self employed). CBeebies parented our child most of the day.

fast forward to this evening and I ask DH if he can look after DD so I can please shower as I didn’t shower at all yesterday as felt too ill. He’s not helping at all, lying on the sofa watching Facebook videos. Child crying. Im doing housework. He then says I’m “demonstrably fine”.

I have spat on his toothbrush since he thinks this virus is demonstrably fine.

AIBU

You both sound delightful.

He should definitely be taking care of children, but spitting on his toothbrush is disgusting.

It doesn't sound like there is any respect between you two.

Don't let your children grow up in that environment.

This says nothing good about you or your relationship.
Ask for a divorce if you are not absolutely mortified for doing or wanting to do this in the morning.
Being pregnant and ill doesn’t excuse spiteful angry behaviour

Nah I would be doing worse than that. Spitting on the toothbrush seems too kind :) :) :)

I also said that I think he is being an asshole. She still shouldn’t spit on his toothbrush

Then you need to be getting some help to
manage your feelings. This is not normal, at all. Its juvenile, disgusting and abusive.

Pregnancy is not an excuse to be a dick.

If someone was purposefully spreading HIV there would be an uproar.

You are no better. No matter how much you hate and disrespect someone spitting on someones toothbrush isnt something a normal person does.

You both have so little respect and consideration for each other. Love obviously doesn't exist in your relationship either.

Yeah probably

HIV? Oh now, come on. It's just the sickness that she's endured while pregnant, looking after a small child and being ignored by her DH. It's not HIV, is it?

Yabu but I also think this is hilarious.

An eye for an eye will make the whole world blind.

Go to bed, leave him to it. When you’re better get couples therapy. This ain’t working right now.

So many people go through far worse everyday. They don't go around spreading illness, disease and infections on purpose because they are angry.

Op is seriously unhinged. Ill and pregnant isn't an excuse.

You have shown lack of respect
Not exactly a role model for your dc either of you

You're both awful.

This made me laugh out loud 😂

I think you’re both unreasonable. He needs to grow the fuck up and you shouldn’t put up with him not looking after his own child when you’re ill. You shouldn’t have spat on his toothbrush because if you both end up ill then how are you going to look after your DD and she will likely end up ill too.

It’s also unlikely that it will make him ill if you did do it though. If you have white spots on your tonsils it sounds like a bacterial infection that you most likely need antibiotics for, not something viral and contagious.

Divorce him. What a cunt.

Reminds me of that tiktok video of a woman in same situation as you so she licked every piece of cutlery in the draws to make her point

My sister used to scrape the skid marks off her knickers using my toothbrush. Spitting on it is nearly as vile though. Gross.

In your imagination fine as he sounds useless and unempathetic. In reality obviously YABU to do that

The OP won’t be back, this thread simply didn’t go as they expected 😆😆

I don’t understand the vote? That is so scary how most people think YANBU 😱 what you did was absolutely disgusting.

Are you even in love with your husband, because I wouldn’t even do that to my worst enemy?

He sounds unsupportive and pretty rubbish too btw but that still doesn’t justify your actions.

This is a toxic relationship.

Well you've certainly had your arse handed to you here OP and by a bunch of apologists for the pathetic piece of manhood you are married to.

He deserves everything he gets. Tosser. I think you've been pretty restrained to be honest.
Hope you are feeling better soon.

He's a pig but that's fucking disgusting.

You need a divorce.

Your relationship is dead in the water, god knows why you’re having more children in this “relationship”. He clearly doesn’t respect you and you’re an absolute animal. Poor kids