MN makes me feel bad

[wilkoqueen]

About everything.
My diet, my drinking habits, the screen time I allow my dc. I could go on. I take a lot of advice from here but I also try to remember that it's literally a bunch of strangers on the internet and anyone can say anything,
How reflective do you think MN is of real life? By MN standards I suspect I am a slovenly, unhealthy sub standard parent.

I don't have kids either and stay well clear of that area it's awful

@TenLittleLadybirds
Presume you mean MAFS 🤣 They're in bed by watershed so that mummy and fermented grapes time now 😁

She takes photos of stuff and then makes up a narrative.if we go anywhere then she will take two sets of photos, one with coats on and then another where they all take their coats off for example. Then she will post about the day she had out at such and such a place weeks later on a day she’s actually doing the big shop at Lidl and very definitely not climbing a tree. Once she stopped the car to take a photo of a post box then six months later posted about it with a load of nonsense,

Once my mother was covering for me at the dreaded swimming lesson and my mum had taken a tiny basket with some strawberries in for after the lesson and she posted about them like they were hers #NorfolkStrawberries or whatever. She doesn’t even know my mother so that was weird.

Fruit is apparently the devil's food with some of those parents. "ALL THAT SUGAR!".
It makes you wonder what they do feed their children. Presumably just raw broccoli.

Too much iron in Brocolli /s

My eyes roll so far back in my head whent hey're ranting about fruit.

And dried fruit? Well, it would probably be considered healthier to offer them crack cocaine

@Mattins I find this exactly. You have put it very well. I joined in 2006 but only have a week here and there looking at it, and then feel really brought down - not by any particular issue - but just by the overall tone of the active threads. I just start feeling like the world is full of judgement of a particular kind and it makes me feel miserable.

It's recommended that children under 2 don't have any screen time and that young children over 2 have no more than an hour a day. So if you have a couple of times a day where your dd watches something for half an hour while you get a few jobs done then you're doing ok!

Do you think you eat crap, drink too much or too often, and that your children watch more TV than you'd like?

I personally always feel bad about housework because it feels like an never ending battle. Every single time I tidy or clean, something else needs doing. I'd love to be clean and tidy but I am slovenly.

Also wrt screen time, the research/evidence points to small screens (phone, iPad) being more damaging than big screens (TV). My toddler watches Paw Patrol but as far a he's concerned, the TV shows only that and the news and I will keep this charade up for as long as humanly possible.

Casts a different light on people on high salaries work really, really hard for their salaries and deserve every penny", unlike the "shirkers" on minimum wage.

I would probably make you feel bad about your drinking and diet. But I'd probably make you feel incredible about your parenting, your home, your income, your age, how clean your kitchen floor is and how often you change your sheets. Point is, no one achieves perfection in all areas and the comments people make about their lives that compare favourably against yours are just one aspect of a whole.
The only person you should compare yourself with is you. Am I doing this as well as I want, or would I like to improve on it? How much better am I at this than I was last year?