If men were left to organise Christmas themselves

[Fiddlesticks32]

AIBU to think it would be an absolute disaster?

And what would it look like?

It would be fine- although it would cost 10x what it usually does as dh does not look for bargains, put toys away in advance from the sales etc

He would do gift shopping on Xmas eve and spend a fortune, he wouldn’t wrap anything but would buy gift bags.
food would be delicious (as he cooks most of the Xmas dinner anyway) but again would be ridiculously expensive as he would just buy obsene amounts and every snack/drink that he saw.

fine if we were millionaires, but not great on a budget.

Well, I'm a single mum so the only males in the house are a 5 year old and the cat. So probably lucky we're Jewish so we don't need to worry about Christmas :) Kid is already pretty competent at menu planning though, and not at all bad at helping with the cooking.

Reminds me of the Motherland episode when Julia’s husband calls from the shops to see if she wants a salt pig for Christmas 🙈

If DH was in charge, the decorations would not be put up until the house was spotless and they would go up mid December instead of the first weekend in December. There would be way too much chocolate and it would be a traditional Christmas dinner all prepped on Christmas Eve. He would probably get sprouts which no one likes.

All presents would be ordered online or alcohol gifts from Tesco and wrapped perfectly.

hshah I come from a family where dad did it all - mum sat drinking wine and eating chocolates while he cooked

mow my husband and my dad do the cooking and I join in with the wine and chocolates and a film while we wait 🤣🤣

We'd have a succession of individual foods instead of Christmas dinner as DH cannot cook more than one thing at once. So turkey first, then some sprouts, next probably pigs in blankets, and so on. Not too sure where the gravy would come in. It'd be the longest, drawn out meal in history. Or he'd just make everyone a sandwich and be done with it.

Presents and food would be fine as DH is pretty good at that kind of thing. But the Christmas tree would likely be a twig with a bit of glitter on it, put up about 15 mins before the bedtime on Christmas Eve.

Not much different, my husband does most of the cooking and he is perfectly able to take over any of the tasks I do and do them well.

Food and drink would be something that can be shoved in the air fryer and a can of coke, maybe some beer or cider.

Presents-bought and wrapped nicely. We share the buying and the wrapping but my wrapping is shit.

The tree.. up and probably decorated but in the wrong colour scheme 😱

It's probably a 50/50 shared effort in this house, I take over the cooking and therefore the sorting of food either buying it or telling him what to buy. Nobody cares about what colour the tree is so I get to choose my colour scheme and the present buying is a joint effort. I usually do the stockings for the kids and the other presents I know they want, he gets other stuff he's seen and he's in charge of the parents once he's asked for my opinion.

Well, as DH died a while ago nothing would happen. But when he was with us it was very much a joint venture to make it special for DC and involve extended family. Whilst we miss him very much, he remains part of our Christmas and our memories and that is very special.

We’d go on a lovely holiday, and I understand, I really do, but I’ve got elderly parents to factor in.

Oh god I hate this trope. I’m a woman who hates Christmas and does precisely fuck all for it because I have no interest in partaking. This year I’m going abroad over Christmas and leaving my partner at home so I guess whatever he does will be more than I’d ever do. If you’re a woman stressed out by arbitrary Christmas obligations you’ve imposed on yourself just STOP!

These days we tend to visit one of our daughters for Christmas. When they were little DH was the driving force for getting everyone to enjoy it. He got the girls helping with the decorations and baking. He'd give them some money and take them to the shops for a present for mummy, usually most was spent on a toy for themselves. I'd do the same with them to get daddies present. We went together for the girls presents, granny looked after them while we went out. Christmas Dinner was his task as he's a good cook. We all decorated the tree. It was a really nice time, thanks for reminding me.

Yea I absolutely hate the way some women infantile men? Why wouldn’t they be able to organise Christmas? Is OP suggesting men can’t cook or buy items? How do these men survive at work, or in life?

It would be just fine because my husband is amazing and I don’t know why people assume all men are incapable.

There wouldn't be a Christmas in my house

There would be no Christmas. It's women who keep it alive.

Most men wouldn't care one way or the other.

My DH is Mr Christmas! He puts masses of effort into making it memorable in terms of gifts and decorations, planning parties etc.

He doesn’t cook (although makes amazing cocktails) and is great company.

I find the whole thing a bit of a chore to be honest. 😳

Absolutely fine especially since DD sends us her wishlist incl. links (ASD girl who absolutely can't handle surprises).

We do most things together, the only things I sort out myself is my mum.

It probably wouldn't occur, DH wouldn't think to do 99% of the thing we do.

There are things (like stockings) that I have done for 15 years (since oldest was a baby) and he is still 'surprised' by them every year because he forgot they where a thing lol.

If I wasn't allowed to help out, DH loves Christmas so decorations will be up earlier before I would organise them, as are presents & Christmas activities. He would struggle with cooking food on Christmas Day though & would find some way around that e.g. flying his Mum into the country or persuading my Mum to do it. Although I just asked DH & he said he would try to cook something but it wouldn't be too strenuous. He likes to keep things chilled.

Lots of last minute panicking but everything would be perfect.

It would be absolutely fine because my husband is a grown adult and I don't give men a pass by presuming they're going to be terrible at things. He carved me several pumpkins and bought Halloween sweets for the kids on our street, he'll put the tree up and do the lights (I like to do the baubles!), he buys his own family presents, he organises his own family visits for us. I don't assume he'll need me to do it and knows if he doesn't it won't happen.

(I'm not blaming women for men being shit at stuff. But I do think we need to stop making threads where we all just take it as a given that they will be because we're just perpetuating the stereotype that means men continue to be like "ahhhh well, men aren't good at this".)

Takeaway every night.
Loads of alcohol.
Pizzas
Thoughtless, half arsed gifts still in their plastic bags, no wrapping.
House a tip.
Carpet wet from spilled beer.
Toilets not cleaned.
Guests not catered for.
Loud, blaring TV on 24/7
Video games on 24/7
Kids screaming and bored.
Teeth not brushed.
Tree in corner, not decorated.
Hoards of drunken mates calling all hours of the day and night to play the video games.
Filth and squalor everywhere.
More takeaways.

I think many women over organise stuff and knacker themselves. I think the least bothered person organising Christmas would not be a bad thing