To want to go back to the room early?

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I’m going to London with two friends mid-December, they have booked a late afternoon boozy brunch and then Winter Wonderland. Then they want to continue drinking after this and have mentioned clubbing.

I absolutely do not want to do this. I want to go to WW, have a drink afterwards maybe but I don’t want to go clubbing and I just want to go back to the hotel. We’re sharing a room so there’s not much pint going back to sleep, I just don’t want to look like a misery.

You are perfectly entitled not to go clubbing, but you can't stop your friends- which I think is what you want to do. Buy a pair of earplugs and eye patches so they don't wake you up when they come in.

I'd happily go back earlier than the others. And wouldn't be bothered by a disturbed nights it's only one night.

As a PP said, you can't stop the other going out f they want to.

I don’t see the problem unless you’ve only got one key. You go back after a few drinks, they go on somewhere - no issue.

just go back on your own whilst they go clubbing, no big deal 🤷‍♀️

You go back, they go clubbing, neither is inherently right or wrong you should all do what you want to do - it’s not a big deal at all.

YANBU but neither are they. Just go back on your own and watch a film or read until they get back.

you head back and enjoy a good book or watch some tv. I love a bit of alone time in a hotel room. If you get woken up when they come in, you will fall back asleep.

Why don't you book into a separate room then they won't disturb you when they roll in?

That is 1000000% not what I want them to do. Why have you come to that conclusion?

I want them to do exactly what they want to do.

Me going clubbing would be to do what they want and therefore would be the exact same thing of me asking them to go back to the hotel (by them doing what I personally want to do). I would never expect either. That’s horribly controlling:

I only made the sleep comment as I might look a misery by going back to the hotel room when I probably wouldn’t be sleeping.

I’ve already paid for my room. I’m not paying twice.

Why is this relevant?

And where have I said I want to stop them doing anything? I haven’t because I would never stop anyone from doing anything (bar some extreme exceptions).

I do not want to and never would stop my friends from doing anything.

I'd play it by ear - best laid plans and all that. See how you feel after WW. You may all fancy a few more drinks somewhere, you may all be tired and want to go back to the hotel. If they want to stay out and you don't then I can't see why there would be any issue with you heading back to the hotel to chill out/sleep. I wouldn't think twice about being either party in this situation.

Why don't you just see how you feel on the day??

Totally fine to go back alone. No biggie.

Without being controversial have you actually just said to your friends “hey I’m not up for clubbing but happy to go back to the room by myself”

You seem to be whipping yourself up into a worry and it’s not clear it’s even an issue yet?

Just go back to your room. I really can't see an issue here

Presumably you are an adult and am capable of saying to your friends "Nah, I don't really feel like going to a club but you crack on. I'll see you later"?

It's not hard.

If they're your friends surely they'll understand.
Good friends accommodate each other. If late night clubbing wasn't part of the original plan then they can hardly call you a misery.