To want to go back to the room early?

[holdingspacedefyinggravity]

I’m going to London with two friends mid-December, they have booked a late afternoon boozy brunch and then Winter Wonderland. Then they want to continue drinking after this and have mentioned clubbing.

I absolutely do not want to do this. I want to go to WW, have a drink afterwards maybe but I don’t want to go clubbing and I just want to go back to the hotel. We’re sharing a room so there’s not much pint going back to sleep, I just don’t want to look like a misery.

I'm a dormouse so have done this many times. Usually just by leaving when I've had enough rather than making any big pre announcement. Though in this case if plans are being made I'd probably say - count me out of the clubbing. You probably will look like a misery but there you go!

I don’t understand what you’re asking?

You don’t want to go out, which is fine but you’re saying you don’t want your friends not to either. So why can’t you just go back to the room after WW while they carry on. Get 2 room keys from reception and they can come back whenever, you just have to accept they might wake you up. Hardly the end of the world. If that’s not good enough for you then don’t go 🤷🏻‍♀️

Yes do this. Don’t tell them anything in advance. At the point in the evening when you’re all going clubbing, people might be tired meaning you’ve got away with saying nothing. If they do still all want to go clubbing just say you’ve developed a headache and you’re going to head back and see them when they get in.

Ten/twenty years ago, I would probably have gone clubbing with them! CBA now!

You dont like clubbing, that's ok. Neither do I. If your friends dont appreciate that that's who you are then they are not true friends. They can go clubbing and should be find with you going back early.

A lot of MNers assume that if they wouldn’t do something themselves, no one else would want to either.

No reason why you cant. I’m sure the hotel will give you extra key/keys if required. Your pals might even change their mind about clubbing and go back early too!

Nothing if they all want to.

Perhaps not brilliant in this case if Op will be disturbed by them!

I snore. Some of my friends do too. I don't expect a good night's sleep if I am sharing. It's not ideal but it is what it is. It's just one night.

I presume they all agreed to share.

Go back to the room and just be prepared for them waking you up at 2.00 or 3.00 a.m. If they do you'll already be resigned to it, if they manage to get into the room like a pair of ninjas it would be a pleasant surprise.

You have different ideas about fun holidays. So I would make this the last break you do together and find friends that are more into your interests. Their idea of a good night is clubbing, yours isn’t. So that is an issue.
You can just get a cab back and relax in the room. Just be clear with them now that this is what you will be doing.

Why wouldn’t you be sleeping? I think you have missed out some pertinent information @holdingspacedefyinggravity because as it stands, you aren’t making sense.

You don’t want to go clubbing but are perfectly happy for your friends to do that and you go back to the room? Is that correct? If so, so far so good.

Of course when they get back you will wake up whilst they regale you with stories of their shenanigans. Then you go back to sleep when they go to bed.

I can’t see the problem.

I wouldn't like that one bit, the idea of boozing just for the sake of it seems ridiculous to me, and dangerous. It's the sort of thing very young (late teens/early-mid twenties), like to do or at least they say the like it, It's a laugh! Until something goes wrong.

You can drink anywhere, I'm surprised nobody wanted to go to the theatre in the evening.

Why did you agree to go? I'd back out if I were you.

What is a winter wonderland??

I am assuming the OP is talking about this @EvilsElsasPetSnowman

Hyde Park Winter Wonderland | 21st Nov 2024 - 5th Jan 2025

If you're good enough friends to share a room with them, then you're good enough friends to just say you don't feel like clubbing, and you'll go back to the room. Yes you probably will get woken up but its not the end of the world. Enjoy the afternoon and the WW.

Surely that’s a family based activity not one you do with mates when you’ve been on the sauce 🤣 I wouldn’t wanna go either

It’s meant to be rubbish and overpriced. I’ve been once to it a few years earlier and it was a bit rubbish and overpriced. Not sure what decent clubs there are still in London anyway but must be some.

I was a clubber once but in recent years have definitely not wanted to go out out after being out. OP just put in ear plugs and put on eye mask and have your best Paddington hard stare on for when they ask you to go clubbing with them.

I thought that too. Getting tipsy (on a boozy lunch) and then going to Winter Wonderland seems odd to me. I just didn't wanna say! 😆

I’ve know ex colleagues who worked near WW who’d go there in the evening for a laugh. They’d been on the sauce from drinking or Christmas party before hand too. I guess if you like the stalls, ice skating and so on then it’s worth it.

What is your post for OP?

They want to go clubbing - you are fine with that.
You want to go back to the hotel - that's entirely your choice
You are happy with the sleeping arrangements.

Have I missed something? All seems like a post about nothing tbh

To me I can’t think of anything worse than heading to a funfair when tipsy - 🤢🤮. I was once sick after coming of the Hearts and Diamonds ride in Coventry and I’d had a couple of drinks before that.

Ice skating too, maybe one drink but not tipsy in case I fell and someone skated over my hand - not ever happened to me but have seen ice skating accidents and blood doesn’t look nice on an ice rink floor. 😱

I would just be honest with them and say what you’ve said on here.

Tell them in advance so they don’t think you’re in a mood with them and make it clear that you still want them to go out.

How far away do you live?
It might be easier to go home and then you can use that as an excuse.

The main issue that I see is that they’ll come in early hours of the morning and probably disturb you and then they’ll lie in and you’ll be wide awake and bored.

If it was me I would go home the same day or try and get my own room, so I could do go and do things on my own in the morning.

Just say you’ve got a headache and want to head back and chill in the room and tell them to enjoy their night.

It's most definitely not a family activity on a Fri/Sat evening, can get quite rowdy and rough