To find this so cringeworthy?

[Bpuss]

(I realise using the word cringeworthy is a bit cringeworthy in itself, but here we are...)

Literally posting this so I don't end up telling him what I'm thinking!

I've been seeing a guy off and on for a year and he's a lovely person, but keeps coming out with things that just make me die a little inside.

The latest one is he went to the cinema with his friends last night to see Wicked.
He has this habit of messaging me after he's seen a film to let me know how he found it and the message last night read "It had greatest showman vibes, and the hallmarks of a classic". I almost, almost... replied with a bunch of laughy faces and told him to stop talking like a dick but I thought I should try and be kind so I just said something about being glad he likes it.

But I've never heard anyone in real life use the phrase "hallmarks of a classic" to describe a film, let alone something like Wicked?!

He also uses the word belly for his stomach...

I like him, but omg I cringe so hard sometimes at his choice of words!

And this is why we have gender ideology. Because of these dangerous opinions that a male must be gay if he wants to see a film.

You sound incredibly immature. Nothing he said is embarrassing. You obviously don't love him. Let him go and find someone who does and stop stringing him along.

Not the OP. There was another poster whose husband wouldn't be seen dead going to see Wicked even if his two daughters begged him to take them.

I get it. You’re dating Alan Partridge. Next thing you know he’ll be screaming “A-HA!” when you have sex with him. Ditch immediately

I don't see the problem here (I have a group of friends who make up silly, over the top critic reviews after watching a film or TV show and it's actually quite fun) but it sounds like you have the ick...

He sounds perfectly fine and Wicked was excellent so good on him for seeing it and having some thoughts on it. If you have a (weird) thing about the word belly, tell him and he can change it for your benefit. But you're as odd as him taking exception to random words and phrases. If you don't really like him, then end it, but this stuff is just silly.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong
never occured to me that using the word
”belly” was wrong
but if it all gives you the ick that’s fine

Or arkst 🤮🤮🤮

Let him go OP. I wouldn’t want to be with a DP who secretly judged me.

^^ this

can you imagine how you would feel during his wedding speech 🤣

I quite like this as a review actually. Succinct, clear

This sounds like a normal thing to say to me, but I’m autistic so recognise that my communication style may not be typical. Also, my husband loves musicals and can’t wait to see Wicked, so I don’t think that’s unusual. I don’t like the word belly, but I can’t say it would be a dealbreaker.

That’s not a ‘dangerous opinion’ - it’s an opinion based on the evidence of observing majority behaviour.

The men in my family would happily accompany my dds, and might even enjoy it, but a film about teenage witches isn’t really priority viewing for most blokes. And any guy actively seeking to watch this I would assume would be gay. Or young. Or accompanying a child.

In the same way they wouldn’t wear Ariana grande perfume. They could. But they most likely wouldn’t.

So op. Yes ick central unless he’s being ironic. YANBU.

You are not very kind. This is him. Accept him the way he is or let someone else have him who will appreciate his quirky ways. For me, the cringeworthy lies with you for feeling the need to post this on a public forum.

You need to end it with him, OP. He may be very nice in other ways but there's no getting past someone so naff.

Throw him back and let a musical theatre fan have him. For his sake.

My son loved the Fast and Furious films, I didn't, but I still took him because I love him and he's my son ♥️

'Belly' also makes me turn inside out with cringe so I'm with you on that one, OP. I also have a friend who sees himself as a bit of a film buff/amateur critic and I can't listen to his 'reviews' without wanting to die a bit inside, either. Totally a 'me' problem, I just find it too cringeworthy, as I'm sure he probably finds things I say a bit cringeworthy 😁

DP has a tendency to review films after he has seen them. Comments about the direction, the production, the acting, the plot, the music (usually too loud, too invasive, telling us how to feel😆) He does go on a bit and I find myself zoning out. But that's who he is and I do admire his enthusiasm! I just brace myself or the inevitable Barry Norman style review.

If he uses phrases you don't like, well I guess that is one reason for a breakup. I am trying to imagine OP saying: I am breaking up with you because you give me film reviews and use the word belly. Nah. He seems like an OK bloke, but you aren't into him anymore. Be decent and end it kindly.

Sounds like you are not really into him, and that's why these relatively minor things annoy you. The fact that you describe your relationship as 'on and off for a year' suggests the same. Personally I would move on and fine someone that you really want to be with.

I thought the same. No issue with the guy wanting to see Wicked or having an opinion about a film but seeing the proper word "cringeworthy" instead of "cringe" was excellent.

The men in my family would happily accompany my dds, and might even enjoy it, but a film about teenage witches isn’t really priority viewing for most blokes. And any guy actively seeking to watch this I would assume would be gay. Or young. Or accompanying a child.

This is unbelievably absurd and narrow minded. Many straight men of my age love the arts and enjoy musical theatre including Wicked.

This is what happens when you date someone that you don't actually like, you find totally fine things really off-putting. You aren't well matched. Let this guy go so he can find someone that would join in on his review.

Absolutely!