To find this so cringeworthy?

[Bpuss]

(I realise using the word cringeworthy is a bit cringeworthy in itself, but here we are...)

Literally posting this so I don't end up telling him what I'm thinking!

I've been seeing a guy off and on for a year and he's a lovely person, but keeps coming out with things that just make me die a little inside.

The latest one is he went to the cinema with his friends last night to see Wicked.
He has this habit of messaging me after he's seen a film to let me know how he found it and the message last night read "It had greatest showman vibes, and the hallmarks of a classic". I almost, almost... replied with a bunch of laughy faces and told him to stop talking like a dick but I thought I should try and be kind so I just said something about being glad he likes it.

But I've never heard anyone in real life use the phrase "hallmarks of a classic" to describe a film, let alone something like Wicked?!

He also uses the word belly for his stomach...

I like him, but omg I cringe so hard sometimes at his choice of words!

Sorry OP this made me smile. Whenever we watch a new film we always refer to it as "a cinematic tour de force" after one of our friends referred to a film they'd seen and it cracked us up. I'd find it wanky too.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with what he said. I do cringe at the use of ‘omg’ though.

And what? You use stomach to mean abdomen.

So now we can tell sexual orientation by a film choice ...... hello 1980, nice to see you again.

Quite cringe indeed. But nobody is perfect, maybe that’s his only flaw! DH is a bit cringe sometimes, really unfunny shit jokes, now he doesn’t even really try them on me as he knows I find them repulsive 😄 so, I suggest being gently/subtly honest - don’t go along with it if you don’t like it, it will just promote more of it!! And he’ll know that you’re not the audience for that stuff.

To add, before some Mumsnetter chimes in with ‘wow I could never marry someone unfunny who I seemingly hate’ - DH is the funniest person I know and makes me laugh a LOT regularly - just when he’s being naturally funny not when he’s forcing his shit jokes! 😄

Agree it’s cringe. Would put me right off.. does he ever show his more masculine side. If not I’d be running x

Honestly that wouldn't bother me (and I find a lot of things give me the ick!) but if you're already unsure and finding things about him that give you the ick then it's only going to get worse and you're going to be picking at things that really aren't that bad (like the review) so probably best to call it quits.

True. At least he didn't describe it as like being swept up by a cyclone to a rollicking romp where within moments you realise you're not in Kansas anymore and that it's appeal is ever green.

You’re clearly not that keen on him so dump him 🤷‍♀️ Subconsciously, I don’t think it’s about the words really, you’re just not committed to this relationship.

At least it’s better than the review my friend sent me which was “Its only half a fucking film WTF”

He had just seen a film he really enjoyed and wanted to share his excitement with you. That’s adorable! I don’t find this “cringy”. Not at all!

I think you’re being a bit small minded. None of us are perfect.

If someone made a Mumsnet post about me and the way I talk making them cringe, I'd be so upset. You're mocking the person you're meant to care the most about. Imagine if he read this? Awful. If you're embarrassed about him then let him find someone who likes him the way he is.

Yep cringey.

My ex used cringey words that I can't bear to hear now 10 years later.

Is it only half???

Part 2 next year

I don’t think it’s cringe at all personally and it’s lovely that he enjoyed it. Wish my partner loved musicals, although he does at least let me drag him along to them haha

If you are finding the way he expresses himself “cringe” , I think in fairness to both of you just let him go.

Oh no, that is the worst!

This is what's so sad about English culture. Men are taught to be so ironic and sarcastic and sardonic that to be enthusiastic and earnest about anything really is "cringe".
Then the same men can never be straightforward about feelings or communicating important stuff in a relationship.
I'd let him go, let him find a nice partner that doesn't make him feel silly or self-conscious for open heartedly enjoying things and expressing it. He's lucky to have that, don't be the woman who causes him to bury it.

Yeah, I agree. There's nothing wrong with what he said. You're not into him and should move on. For his sake, too.

This. I can kind of see why you find what he said about the film cringeworthy but it wasn’t really that bad (also dislike belly but understand that some people grew up with it).
I think the main thing though is that if you’re getting the ick over things like this it may be that he’s not the right person for you, so I’d focus on working out whether you really do like him and can learn to embrace the little things like the language used re the film or if the relationship is not right.

Not cringe, he sounds fine/lovely, maybe you need to move on and find someone 100% perfect - oh no you cant, they don't exist

Why are posters thinking that OP thinks seeing Wicked is somehow gay?! She never said anything like that (and if it came into your head, check your internalised homophobia...)

It's the cringe factor of the wording of the review. I'd find it cringe too. Nothing to do with the vocabulary (as a pp mentioned), it's just a cliched way of talking, as if he's reviewing it.

I hope he leaves you for someone who appreciates him and doesn't post undeserved criticism about him on MN.

Spoiler alert 😂