To find this so cringeworthy?

[Bpuss]

(I realise using the word cringeworthy is a bit cringeworthy in itself, but here we are...)

Literally posting this so I don't end up telling him what I'm thinking!

I've been seeing a guy off and on for a year and he's a lovely person, but keeps coming out with things that just make me die a little inside.

The latest one is he went to the cinema with his friends last night to see Wicked.
He has this habit of messaging me after he's seen a film to let me know how he found it and the message last night read "It had greatest showman vibes, and the hallmarks of a classic". I almost, almost... replied with a bunch of laughy faces and told him to stop talking like a dick but I thought I should try and be kind so I just said something about being glad he likes it.

But I've never heard anyone in real life use the phrase "hallmarks of a classic" to describe a film, let alone something like Wicked?!

He also uses the word belly for his stomach...

I like him, but omg I cringe so hard sometimes at his choice of words!

Do you mean he used the term belly for abdomen? The stomach is the stomach. If he uses the term belly to describe his abdomen, he is correct in that and the rest of the world makes me cringe when they use the term stomach to describe their entire belly/abdomen.

I would definitely say this - I did about La La Land! I love film and so do my family this is how we talk about film, books etc

I almost, almost... replied with a bunch of laughy faces and told him to stop talking like a dick
That would have been bitchy.

I talk like this sometimes, probably because I'm autistic, well-read and like to express myself precisely.

I think YOU are cringe with your little mean girl bullshit. Poor guy.

My DH's favourite film is The Greatest Showman.

He's 6 ft 3, with a rugby player body, and he is a Police Officer. But yeh, he cries at that film every time. LOL.

Sounds like you have the ICK.

You have the ick. We've all been there.

I had a first and only date with a bloke that turned up wearing really old and worn out clothes. He's loaded. I wondered if it was some sort of test.

We got along OKish and it might have grown legs but I couldn't get past that he didn't think I was worth more than a frayed and stained tee shirt that I would only wear if I was creosoting a gate.

It's the little things that add up.

My husband is as manly as they come and came to see wicked with me and our daughters and gasp enjoyed it .

I don't see anything wrong with what he said at all, in fact I think it's quite endearing.....and I'd probably text something like that myself 🤣

The issue here is you have the ick, so pretty much anything he does is going to make you cringe. If you were really into him this wouldn't be an issue at all.

But then my DH is a complete geek, can be a bit cringey sometimes but is the loveliest man I've ever met and has a heart of gold. I'd take him any day over some alpha type that was worried seeing Wicked would hurt his street cred. That poster saying her DH wouldn't even take his teenage daughters to see it isn't the mic drop she thought it was......he sounds like a total dickhead!

Throw this one back OP so he can find someone that appreciates his idiosyncrasies.

Just had to Google Wicked and a bloke going to see that with his mates would give me the vomitorious ick. Sorry.

"I enjoyed the film" would have been fine...

It was just the cliche 'hallmarks of a classic" like that got me. I mean, I don't understand what he meant by that. I haven't seen the film but to me, classic has an incredible musical score, complex characters, that kind of thing. Wicked just seems like Hollywood fluff with a typically predictable plot so I also took issue with the comment for that reason too.

Stomach ache = belly ache.
"The feeling in my belly is that I love you"

That kind of thing.

Wicked has all those things?

If you don't like what he said as you objectively don't agree, that seems a bit unfair. You're allowed to have different tastes.

Although as you haven't even seen the film yourself that seems particularly harsh a judgement.

Belly ache is OK. It's a bit archaic but OK IMHO.

@BackOnTheAntibiotics why?

You need to grow up then.

I think he sounds sweet.

Then again my husband, whilst eating a cake, said to me “it has a very subtle buttercream” and whilst laughing in his face, it just made me love him more.

(edit: he also loves theatre/musicals and is “gasp”, not gay.)

You can’t dictate the way he speaks it’s not possible and if you’re picking up on this all the time then do him a favour and stop seeing him. He’s failing your move in together test

If the film is anything like the musical it IS going to have an excellent musical score. Honestly OP the issue here is yours......your comments about his wedding speech made me feel really sad for him. I bet he'd be gutted if he knew you were bitching about him.

You're allowed to find him cringeworthy and as you clearly do, you should probably end it. But you're giving off mean girl vibes here.

What are you trying to imply here? ‘Real men’ don’t like musicals?…nasty comment.

I echo a poster above and hope my son can be enthusiastic about any film he wants and communicate it using whichever words he chooses.

This is a nasty thread poking fun at a man who seems lovely.

You need to split up.

If my son was dating a girl who didn’t appreciate him sharing his love for something I would cry. And made fun of him as well?

Autism is no excuse for rudeness.

I use the word belly to how fucking old r u are you a child? Seriously just be fucking happy you have a nice man christ it's like some people need to post something out of nothing

Another vote for I don't see any 'icks' from him. Sounds like a nice guy.

Some people text/write better than they speak.

Likely not the guy for you but only you truly know that.

Blimey. You'd better pray none of the hardcore Wicked fans stumble across this thread. 😂A hex on you!

I would find that cringeworthy, but I’m not sure if it’s for the same reasons as OP.

I know someone who uses clichéd terms like this in place of their own opinion. It’s very ‘I read this in a review and it sounds intelligent’. However I don’t think it is: it lacks thought and consideration (what is a hallmark of a classic? What qualities does this movie share?).

I wouldn’t stop dating someone because of that necessarily but I’d rather be with someone who can articulate their own thoughts instead of using over-used soundbites.

As an aside though, what the hell is this crap about men not liking musicals unless they are gay? I thought we’d moved past this rubbish.
It show how gender ideology has been able to take root so successfully with such rigid thoughts about what men and women ought to enjoy.

Oh, he's got a little fantasy going that he's a film critic, hasn't he? I bet he writes reviews on IMDB and You Tube and it makes him feel important and authoritative.

The fact that he voluntarily paid to see Wicked and rated it would be it for me. No discerning, thoughtful adult would do that.