To not take DD to birthday party today

[Whoosher]

DD6 is invited to her friends birthday party today. It’s a craft party at a venue.

DD and friend are in the same class at school and half the class is invited. They also attend the same dance class every Sunday. Friend’s mom text in the dance group today saying friend was poorly with sickness so won’t be coming to class, this was about 10am

anyway, party is still on.. and she hasn’t told any of the other parents that the birthday child is sick. I don’t want to take DD now, as I don’t want to risk her getting poorly and passing it to the whole family, we had a sickness bug a month ago and it was horrible.

AIBU to say to the mom that she won’t be attending due to her child being ill?

also, should I warn the other parents? Two of whom are my close friends.

Your friend is either totally ignorant or totally selfish. It's quite worrying to see how so many adults don't have very basic life skills and common sense. I suppose they're good at social media and shopping.

This. I think you need more information to go on, OP.

@PunnyJoker

The mother isn't denying it. Her child is ill, and the party is still going ahead because apparently the birthday girl was sad to cancel it.

I’m not the poster you asked but unless I’m missing something it’s pretty clear it’s not their christening?

Firstly they referred to it as “a christening” not “my baby’s /our christening” and secondly they stated the baby (presumably the one that was getting christened) AND their own baby fell ill.

A friend brought her 10 year old to a christening with chicken pox and told him to sit in the corner as she thought he would be safe there. Three weeks later the baby, plus my 3 month old son contracted chicken pox. Quite badly.

Yeah you just asked and I just explained 🤷🏻‍♀️no drama 😆

That doesn’t mean she’s clearly miffed at all. Oh Ok has multi-uses

OP, I think you did the right thing for you and your family and if she doesn’t understand that it reflects poorly on her.

I just hope the other parents find out too and are able to make an informed decision because it’s unfair she’s withholding that information from them.

Does it matter whose christening it was? The idiotic friend brought a 10 year old with chicken pox to a party with tiny babies. 😏

yeah I wouldn't infer that the birthday host is miffed. I'd infer she's air headed.

True!

You made your decision so don’t dwell on her reply. Not everyone is going to be happy with you all the time for doing what is best for you.

She will probably already be feeling very torn up about the party and what to do for the best. So I think her response to you probably reflects how she’s feeling today.

Yep, I acknowledged I wasn’t the poster and replied in their absence as I’d seen you’d asked once or twice and it seemed very clear to me 🤷🏻‍♀️

Of course if I’m wrong they can correct me for misinformation 😆That’s how MN works sometimes.

No biggie!

You did the right thing OP. X

I'd put money on the child being at school tomorrow if the mother is this selfish.

What is wrong with people?? Who waits for their child to vomit twice at a party before taking them home, especially when you know it's a bug as they were vomiting before (ie you know you can't blame it on too much cake and a bouncy castle).

I agree. Unless there is a known condition or some other illness that causes vomiting, it's so selfish. People who say "oh they were only sick once so it's not a bug". Bollocks - it can absolutely still be a bug.

Yes but by the time it becomes clear birthday girl is unwell it will be too late. She'll have infected her friends.
OP said why she wasn't sending her DD to the party and the mum didn't say she was lying so more than likely she is sick