DH pancreatic lesion with symptoms

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So we’re half way to our U.K. holiday break. This morning an appointment came through for my DH to see a consultant surgeon. This is an urgent appointment on the back of a recent MRI. It’s on Tuesday morning. He says he’s going to call them on Monday to rearrange it. My gut reaction is to head home and keep the appointment but he’s having none of it. He wants his holiday. I’m currently wide awake worrying about all this. What if he rings on Monday and can’t get a quick appointment? Should I try and persuade him that we should head home. What would be reasonable. I’m so very worried about him.

Oh, OP, I am so sorry. That is brutal. The poor man. I am so sorry for your loss, and that you all did not have more time with him.

I am so, so sorry.

OP I am so sorry to hear your update. Condolences.

Thanks everyone for your lovely words. From having the biopsies taken, he very quickly deteriorated and he died in ITU exactly one week later. It was horrible for him. They told him there was nothing more they could do yet he was so brave. We were all in bits. My family were amazing. My two sons and DILS gave me lifts and we all took turns sitting with him.

My family are looking after me. Strangely I can’t bear to see my friends currently. It’s a weird feeling, like I can’t be myself around them. They ask how you are, what do you say?

My two closest friends understand and will be there for me when I’m ready.

Real friends will understand. I found it hard to 'mask' in front of my friends and they are the ones who got the tears.

You must still be in complete shock. Christmas must have been so so hard. You just do whatever you need to do to get through each day. Xx

So sorry to hear this sad update. Thinking of you and all your family.

I'm so sorry to read your update op.

Thanks everyone for your kind words. I just feel so bleak, like my whole existence is now a bit pointless. 😢

So sorry, not much I can say except it will get easier, time will heal, happy memories will fill the sadness - but it will take time, the only way out is through as they say - take care.

Terrible as it is, this feeling is a normal part of grieving. And it will not last forever. Hang in there. 💔

Oh love, you are so, so important. Especially to your children. The speed that you lost your husband is cruel and it sounds as though you have all been so brave. Please give yourself time to breathe again x

It's too fast to process. It's so so brutal, I am truly sorry. My Dad died less than 3 weeks after pc diagnosis. I still can't believe he's gone.

You'll get a bit stronger as time passes but just take it day at a time or even hour by hour on the really hard days.

Bereavement counselling is helpful for some.

We're here to listen too.

I think feeling things are pointless is a natural part of grief. It does make you feel that you don't quite know the point of it all. Some find keeping busy helpful. There's no reason for what has happened. It's just unfair and that is hard to accept.

I’m so very sorry op