Adult Children who live at home the heating goes on when your parents say so.

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Just a bit of a rant really with some young colleagues I work with in their 20's who live with their parents. Yes I know it has been snowing, yes I know you're freezing cold but at the end of the day if you're parents will only have the heating on for a couple of hours in the evening then that's absolutely their right to choose to that. Just because you pay them rent, which is not at market value I should say, does not mean you can put the heating on the days you WFH and your parents are right to be furious for you do that.

AIBU?

I doubt the demographic in question will be reading this.

Jeez 🙄 my son is 23 and if he wanted the heating on he could put it on, it’s cold. 🥶 no snow but - temps ice etc
what a miserly thread, this is my son, my flesh and blood why would I want him to be cold. Also we are adults and if he thought I was struggling to pay the energy bill he would help me, as he’s an adult and we talk, it’s not I’m the adult you’re the child. Sounds like my mother, thinks she knows it all because he’s bloody 70

Sitting still and working in a freezing house would be horrible. Heating is expensive though - surely the adult children can pay for extra heating they use if they have a job? It is fairly easy to calculate.

I hate it when I go to stay with my (lovely) parents, as they don't put the heating on until an hour before they go to bed. Seems completely pointless to me!

I can't justify heating the whole house when I'm using one room to wfh. So I've bought myself a heated throw, wear winter clothes, keep the doors shut, get up and move around, hot drinks and food for lunch. I would expect My adult child to be similarly sensible.

It was a virtue signalling load of bollocks in relation to fuel shortages. My next door neighbours house apparently was 12 during the day when they were wfh. How fucking miserable, honestly.

Mumsnet discussions about the right temp to have your house at are weird also because their temp is the RIGHT ONE. Personally I find 18 okay WFH but get why people would have it higher. I often boiled half to death in offices in the past tbh and used to wear summer dresses at one in December 😂😂😂. But I guess others felt the cold more.

But then you have to heat it back up from a lower temp - how much actual difference does it make if you have reasonable insulation?

My children have always put on the heating if they are cold, similarly the water heater if the tank needs a boost before the shower. They eat food if hungry and have been known to sneak in a G and T of an evening. And they don't even live at home! Occasionally one their partners has WFH from our home - I like them to be warm too,

It’s like the threads ‘Whose got the heating on’, it’s as if being miserable and cold makes some people happy. Some comments made by people that WFH are wild, tights, socks slippers, 4 layers and a blanket, it’s mind blowing 😂.

My heating has been on and off all year as it’s been freezing some days, today never got above -4 and we’ve more snow forecast over the coming days with a storm coming in too. Yet the OP expects people to WFH without heating, it’s utter madness.

I really feel the cold so the house is often warm. But if it's not and my DC or friends are cold then they can put the heating on.

When I lived at home I could put the heating on.

Yeah I don't understand this whole thing with older parents wanting their children to 'suffer like they did' or whatever. It's totally weird and I feel sorry for your younger colleagues listening to you whinge and infantalise them.

I can see my breath it is that cold. Heating goes on for a few hours late afternoon onwards.It is always freezing in my parents house, to an unbearable standard. I have RA as well but it isn't my home. As my dad likes to make clear it is his house, his rules. Embarrassing to live this way to be honest but I can't afford to live alone so am stuck here.

Running the heat can be cheaper than commuting.

instead of throwing a fit, just communicate and make sure the bills get paid.

We once had to stay with my in laws for a few months between houses. It was a big, old house in the north which they got free as part of the benefits package for my DIL's job. We still paid a stipend of a few 00£ per month to cover bills.

Outside it was snowing but they'd have the heating on for one hour per day. Going into the office wasn't an option at that point. I'd walk around in two jumpers, a dressing gown, and a woolly hat, with a hot water bottle. My nose would be running. Getting ready for bed was an ordeal.

Still the heating stayed off. We offered to pay more - answer was still no and it led to arguments.

This experience has very firmly cemented my view that I would always want my family to feel comfortable, safe and welcome in my house. This includes being warm enough. I will never take an arbitrary attitude of "my house, my rules", ever.

😂😂😂😂

Are you the poster bitching the other day about grown adults still living at home with their parents?

Irrespective of their age, if my kids were staying with me I'd want them to be comfortable.

I get low iron on my period which makes me cold . i also have asthma which can be triggered by breathing in too much cold air. I am on my period and it’s snowing where I am - i really need the heating on days like this! I understand some parents just can’t afford it but if they’re paying rent I’d expect they can.

This. When I moved back with DM for a while I just paid the whole gas bill on top of rent and food as I didn’t want to freeze.

Personally I would just buy a heated blanket

Alright Miss Slighcarp

😂l’m guessing Miss Slighcarp, would stay under the heated blanket all day 🥶

I don't understand this only have the heating on for two hours a day. I don't heart my bedroom but downstairs the heat is set at 18 and it's on all the time - but isn't 'on' unless the temp drops below 18 inside. It doesn't cost that much more than having it on full blast for two hours waiting gig it to heat up the place but freezing the rest of the time.
As for the situation you mention, a compromise. But frankly if people are at home all day and contributing to bills they have a say.

THIS! Some people on mumsnet really need to check their privilege!

If they are paying to live there they get a say.

Health can start to suffer at 13C! I would be very surprised if this is genuine!