To find a lost wallet and keep the money inside

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Today I found a wallet on the floor in ASDA. A decent leather, heavy wallet with credit cards inside etc. I quickly handed it into a security guard who then handed it into customer services. Told DH and he asked if I kept the money inside? He was half joking but said that he would keep the cash as a “finders fee” and that it served the boomer right for dropping their wallet (it was a wallet of an older man)

Tried to talk to him, would he really keep the money he found and he would! Although he then accused me of starting a fight.

I wouldn’t and didn’t when I found someone’s wallet.

Someone also returned my purse to me (not that it had much money in it). I was very grateful.

I did once have a £20 note blow past me in the street that I kept since no one was around that could have dropped it and the shops were shut.

- how I said he’s going to ruin our son with his terrible morals etc.

He is going to ruin your son with his terrible morals. I don’t know whether you actually said that or not but you would have been right.

I didn’t steal the £20. I handed the £20 in and retained £280. This was three years ago, and if the chap responded to my Facebook message tomorrow I’d transfer the money to him immediately. If he’s been back to the hotel he would have seen my note with my (still active) telephone number and he could call, and I’d transfer it back.

I’m not sure how that’s different to handing it in? If anything I’ve made more effort to find him than the hotel would have. And I havent stolen it - technically I’m still safe keeping it.. who’s to say the hotel staff would have been so honest? Either way the money wouldn’t be worth the rightful owner, and probably would be lining some large company’s coffers. If I lost the money I’d rather someone have it and enjoy it than it sitting in a box from now until forever or becoming a large corporate’s petty cash.

Each to their own I suppose, but I have no shame.

wow
thieving git

Just to say your mother is definitely a Baby Boomer. It’s just easier for people to cast everyone of a certain age in a certain light and blame them for all that is wrong with their lives

People like your mother who don’t conform to their vision of what a Boomer is just messes with their heads

From what I have seen, if you are going to steal then steal millions. At least make it worthwhile

Those like your husband who are proud because they have stolen some Bic biros and a few post it notes sound pathetic and usually get caught

Actually maybe I wasnt clear in my original post, I handed in the £20, money clip and a note with my telephone number on so if the person who lost it went back to the hotel to claim he could get in touch with me to get his money back.

...served the man right if he had the money taken from his wallet cos he’s a Boomer.
You've said this a couple of times - how does he know this?

BTW he's a despicable man!

I worked in a supermarket once and if you don't take he cash out yourself the staff probably will. I remember being shocked when the supervisor did that but then it happened again and a different supervisor did exactly the same 🤷‍♀️

So you are married to a despicable thief and therefore guilty by association when he brings stolen stuff home from work.
His attitude towards the older man and his wallet is disgusting.
How can you be with this dishonest idiot?
I hope he hasn't taught any offspring he has to share his low morals.

@hamsandyams Apolgies - I misread your original post. I did think it was an odd thing to do.

He does know, doesn’t he, that some boomers still have their winter fuel allowance because they are on their arse ends and have so little money they have to have their basic pension supplemented by pension credit otherwise they would starve to death of cold or malnutrition?

Lets hope he doesn’t lose his wallet and have its contents taken by someone who thinks they are entitled to his money because he works so can afford to lose a few quid to someone who doesn’t. If he thinks there is a hierarchy of need and entitlement he will soon find out that someone else thinks he is fair game.

The air pod thing sounds familiar, this isn't the arsehole who liked mowing over frogs, is it? If so I have news for him, here's one boomer who would like to flatten him in the same way.

I found a purse last week, left on a stall at Comic Con so I immediately handed it to the stall holder, didn't cross my mind to pick it up and take it. I also found a credit card in my road the week before. We tried to reunite it with it's owner via Next door and Fb. No luck. It's a company i hadn't heard of but I googled their number to report it but couldn't get through. I'm sure the owner will have cancelled it by now so I'll just cut it up. It's safer. I've found wallets before. A man on holiday once got up from his seat on a water boat and his wallet was on the seat. I alerted him. Most normal people have empathy. I know how horrible the feeling is that you get when you think you have lost your purse. The relief to have it returning is immense. Taking money, cards etc could ruin someone's entire week, Christmas or holiday, worse they may not have enough money left to eat etc.

I voted YABU to consider keeping money from a wallet but judging by the massive 90% that think this would be fine I think I've finally lost my faith in human nature.

Think you meant @LolleePop there @Yalta . I didn't mention my mum 😂.

I remember you posting about him
before. It was a horrible thing to do with the air pods too.

I imagine he has other qualities that make him Unpleasant but without knowing him can’t guess what they are.

It doesn’t sound like he respects you much either.

If this is your takeaway... you haven't read the posts properly.
I haven't voted though, as not sure which way is BU.

If I found a wallet containing cash I’d take it to the local police station. I’d leave a note with the staff to say I’d found an item of personal property and if somebody comes looking for it, to direct them there. I wouldn’t trust the staff not to steal it. And I wouldn’t take it home and post about it on Facebook or whatever either. I saw so many daft posts on Nextdoor along the lines of ‘I found this wallet in Sainsbury’s this afternoon. If it’s yours DM me’ complete with a bloody photo!

Your H thinks it's fine to steal money from a person just because they're elderly? Perhaps he could make a few extra quid pretending to clear their guttering or posing as the meter reader and going through their drawers?

Most thieves find a way of justifying it to themselves
Let’s hope you manage to leave before the police catch up with him . It might be hard for you to explain to them that you have been aware of his criminal activity for years but did nothing about it

I find it interesting when people hate on the thing they are literally going to become.

Good health willing, your DH will be 'boomer' age one day. I wonder how he will feel about young people despising him for the very thing we hope for. A long and healthy life.

I voted yanbu as in yanbu to go against your piece of shit husband and hand it in. Could you not tell by the comments that is what people are saying?

Ditto

He has, their son. Fagin and the Artful Dodger come to mind.

Does he sing ‘got to pick a pocket or two’ when he’s out?

OP, I suggest that u put this matter to bed in your mind. Otherwise, your marriage is at risk. Not sure what your marriage is loke in general