To find a lost wallet and keep the money inside

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Today I found a wallet on the floor in ASDA. A decent leather, heavy wallet with credit cards inside etc. I quickly handed it into a security guard who then handed it into customer services. Told DH and he asked if I kept the money inside? He was half joking but said that he would keep the cash as a “finders fee” and that it served the boomer right for dropping their wallet (it was a wallet of an older man)

Tried to talk to him, would he really keep the money he found and he would! Although he then accused me of starting a fight.

So you already know he’s a morally bankrupt piece of shit. Why did the wallet thing surprise you?

That's so lovely and your last paragraph is very. true.

To do what your husband said would be despicable. I couldn't have any respect for anyone who did that or said that they would.

He's an absolute disgrace - and he's wrong that most people would do the same

Very glad you are planning to leave him - what steps have you taken so far and can anyone on here help you with the next ones?

Never. That's stealing.

How comfortable will you be if he loses his job because he was caught pilfering

I wouldn’t be very comfortable with someone who‘s thefts appear to be getting larger as time goes by.

I would also be suspicious that he only tells you about the “small” stuff knowing how you react and he has his hands in the proverbial till for lot larger amounts.

Your whole world could be rocked if the police then come after you for the proceeds of crime

He also needs to be very careful who he steals from.
Some people have more power than he might think

Has he ever looked at what he feels the need to steal.

Also why do you need so much office stationary

@hamsandyams I wouldnt have stolen the 20 quid.

no just no

I work in a job where lots of stuff let's left behind
I always hand it in-but u admit to having a look for bank cards (I need the name) bags (I need to know the contents) and phones (I ask them to unlock it)
If they can tell me their name or the contents,I hand it back

If I found something outside of work,I'd always hand it in to the local lost & found place (we don't have a police st) or the shop
I don't think ot would occur to me to keep it

I once lost my purse as a teen and never got it back
What that thief didn't know was I may have only been 13/14 but my narc mother had given up paying for my basics like food and clothing
I'd worked so hard for the few notes in that purse and had fuck all to eat for the next few days until I went back to work

You have bigger problems than a lost wallet

I don't know how anyone could live with the knowledge their partner would act out or condone this kind of behaviour. I definitely couldn't raise a child knowing my partner was teaching them bad or immoral behaviour. You're living with a bad person.

Good luck OP

Most people working in supermarkets are decent. I found what I thought was some paperwork in an envelope when I was working in Sainsbury's cafe and stuck it behind the till. Bloke came in looking for it and it had a load of money in it! He counted it and gave me a £20 note, which as it was my birthday the day after was a nice bonus. 😁 I wouldn't have even dreamt of looking in said envelope btw, didn't know what was in it but it looked important and private and I wasn't going to snoop.

Never. Why are you with such a dishonest, unpleasant man, who thinks the older generation owe him something?

Watched a purse fly off someone car once, they had obviously put it on the top while putting things in the car. Couldn't follow it as we stopped at traffic lights. Looked in the purse, cards, money etc and ID. Went up to their house and dropped it off, if there had been no ID in it I would have dropped it in the police station.

Lady was lovely, had no idea she had lost it yet. Said thank you, scurried in the house and came back out with a rather nice bottle of wine :-)

Answer being no I wouldn't keep it

I know drug addicted shoplifters that have better morals than your husband.

He's a piece of shit.

So if the wallet guy deserved it because he was a boomer, why did the airpod person deserve it? (Don't worry OP, I think I can work out the answer. 😉)

Christ no, wouldn’t even joke about it.

Next time your dh leaves is wallet unattended at home empty all the cash out of it. When he asks tell him it was fair game by his standards. 🙄

What a horrible view of the world he must have.

No I wouldn't keep it. I'd keep a fiver I found on the floor though, although probably not in the supermarket.

It’s theft by finding to keep the money. It’s an offence. So is stealing from your workplace. You need to up your standard of husband.

Well I’ve read about some wrong’uns on here but this bloke sounds absolutely vile. How do you tolerate him and his lack of morals?

Sorry OP agree with rest I absolutely wouldn’t do that and would be distancing myself a bit from a friend or relative that would.

In fairness most of us have things we think are fine that some may think are not (in a similar vein to what your DH would do things like keeping a £10 note found on the floor, not telling a restaurant/shop they’ve undercharged, scanning the cheap variety of something twice at self serve but really having one of the more expensive kind, taking home stationary from work, collecting the shampoo/conditioner or biscuits/tea bags from hotel rooms, returning something after damaging it for a refund etc). In some cases most people do them, in others very few and it feels like keeping the money from a dropped wallet is a very few people would do this or think it’s at all ok end of the spectrum.

It makes me sad that there are so many people like this. Imagine if that man had set that cash aside for Christmas shopping for his grandchildren, or really needed the money for food? Imagine if he was feeling really upset and distressed to have lost it. ☹️

Horrible thing to do. DH has no idea if that's all the money the person has to last them for the month, or the money he's set aside to buy a gift for a grandchild.

I lost my purse and all my pocket money as a child. My dad phoned the local police station to ask if anything had been handed in, and amazingly it had, together with the money. He made me write a thank you letter to the woman who found it (back then data protection wasn’t much of a thing) and she sent a lovely letter back.

Only a deeply unpleasant person would do what he suggested. It would be the end for me.

I've lost my purse twice in my life. Once I was a college student and my last £20 was in there. The other time, I drove off and left it at the petrol pump when I was a single mum to two tinies. Both times it was handed in to the police with nothing missing by an honest person. Thank God I never met anyone like your DH.