To find a lost wallet and keep the money inside

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Today I found a wallet on the floor in ASDA. A decent leather, heavy wallet with credit cards inside etc. I quickly handed it into a security guard who then handed it into customer services. Told DH and he asked if I kept the money inside? He was half joking but said that he would keep the cash as a “finders fee” and that it served the boomer right for dropping their wallet (it was a wallet of an older man)

Tried to talk to him, would he really keep the money he found and he would! Although he then accused me of starting a fight.

I’d never even consider keeping any, I’d just hand it straight in like you.

Wow how disgusting, that would put me off him permanently. No, only selfish nasty scruffs would steal another person's money.

That is horrible! That could be their budget for the whole week.

This is something that would make me think very different about DH

Oh OP I’m so sorry. You KNOW your gut reaction to this is right - it’s a credit to you that you have managed not to get more ground down by this horrible sounding man - but you do need to get out.

No. Not remotely acceptable. Thieving toad.

He sounds horrible and judgemental. And he’s teaching your children his values.
( and no I’d never take money or anything I hadn’t paid for, of course not. And that’s from a ‘boomer’)

Even if I found it on the street I would look for the nearest police station or shop.

That is awful!

Wow, your husband is everything that's wrong with this country. The worse thing is we all pay for stolen items with increasedprices. No wonder there is added security in the supermarkets with people like him abusing the system.

When my Dad was very ill with cancer I had gone home to visit him. My half brother his DS from his first marriage flew over from America. He paid all expenses and gave me cash for the hotel I had booked for the both of us. So I had £400 in my purse. Tired and emotional after a long train journey I left it in the cab. The driver knocked on my door with it the next morning and practically ran off. I managed to track him down and left £20 and a thank you card.

Your husband is awful.

And you are proud of that are you?

How awful. Of course you did the right thing to hand it in and your husband is horrible to refer to the owner as a 'boomer' in that jeering manner, even if he is one (& I am one). He is likely to get old one day.

ASDA may have cctv and you could have been seen poketing it had you decided to do that. I'm glad you didn't.

If you found a £20 note blowing around in the street it would be different but this was someone's wallet containing personal information. The will be grateful that someone was honest enough to turn it in.

Good for you.

His justification is that if he didn't take the money it would still get taken, therfore he might as well benefit by being the one that takes it?

Well right there is the reason he gets so unpleasant with you; you undermine his justification. Clearly everyone doesn't steal in that manner - you don't and it stands to reason there will be others like you. That shines a light on his behaviour as being immoral rather than 'what everyone does'. He was happy being just another bloke doing what all the others would do if they had the chance - you've exposed that as a lie which shames him and so he is angry and attacks you in retaliation.

Getting your son involved is gross of him. If he'd turned around and said he'd never seen it from that perspective and is now embarrassed and wants to change all would be forgiven, but the digging heels in and turning on you is very unpleasant. I'm not sure what to suggest as its a very distressing set of character traits to deal with in a partner.

I dropped £40 in Tesco car park last week. I hope the twat who kept it needed it more than I do. Seriously doubt it. They need a lesson on being honest.. I hope they didn't have dc with them.

Then your husband is a would be thief. Disgusting.

Glad to hear you have a plan to leave and glad to hear you handed the wallet in.

I'd like to think there was a high(er) chance of the chap getting his wallet back losing it in a store?

Your husband is awful. You already know that though. Good luck with your plans. If you need help, advice or a hand hold, post on Relationships. 💐

I found a wallet with £190 and a couple of bank cards and the guys driving licence in. I took it round a couple of days later and he offered me the cash if I needed it, I said it was his money and he should have it back. It would have been nice to have but it wasn’t mine and I took my teenagers with me to teach them that you should always do the right thing! Unfortunately the guy had his driving test the morning of the day I took it back which he couldn’t do so I felt bad for him and wished I could have gone sooner. Always do the right thing is my moto

Ewww, you shag this ageist, theiving peice of shit?

Agree with the majority that he's dishonest and has already had a negative influence on your son. I hope he doesn't succeed in turning your son completely against you.

My mum is 74.
She has a really expensive high quality designer leather purse that I bought her as a birthday gift.
She drew all her state pension money out one Thursday and had the whole lot in cash inside her expensive purse.
She also had her debit bank card inside, a NT annual member card that my brother bought her as a birthday present, and some ID with her telephone number on it.
She accidentally dropped her purse in the gutter whilst getting on to the bus in the dark. By the time she realised she'd lost it, the bus had driven off with her on it.
It meant everything to her when she received a phone call the next morning from someone to say they'd found it whilst they were waiting at the bus stop, and they found her number inside. They even drove it round to her house when she told them her address. It was handed back to her with a smile and not a penny had been removed. It meant she could go out that day and buy her groceries for the week and pay her bills at the post office, as she had planned to do.
She lives week by week with her money.
No savings.
Not a boomer despite her age; she lives in a council house as a tenant after losing her own home in her 50s due to domestic abuse.
To this day, she draws on the kindness of that person.
And to this day, I remember the kindness of that person.
Random acts of kindness and helpfulness make enormous differences to people's lives.
You never know what their situation is, and you can certainly never judge.
You 100% did the right thing.

Didn't Argos show you the cameras?! It would have been on them. That's awful, scumbags

Not particularly, it was just a factual story.

What would you have done that would have been “better”? I had absolutely no guarantee that the hotel staff wouldn’t pocket the money as soon as I handed it over and claim an empty money clip was handed in

At least I took pro active measures to find and contact the owner!

Straight after I left an appointment with the funeral directors to arrange my dad's funeral I went into Sainsbury's and just took my purse instead of my bag. I put my purse on a shelf to read the back of a packet and because my head was in such a spin forgot to pick it back up and walked away. Luckily a lady who was browsing close by noticed and called after me. I was so relieved and horrified by the fact that I'd nearly lost my whole budget for the week that I burst into tears in the bread aisle.
I often think of that lady and hope karma pays her back (in a good way) for her sense of public spiritedness. The fact that I could have encountered someone like your husband instead makes me shudder

I have nothing but contempt for people who think as your DH does. If he ever finds a wallet and keeps the money, I hope he is caught on CCTV and prosecuted - and that would serve HIM right.

Way way back, my ex husband lost his wallet in Morrisons.

He was doing the full weekly shop.

He/we always paid in cash as we were on a really really tight hand to mouth budget. Think… he paid the mortgage, food, nothing left bar the odd fiver. I took my weekly wage and immediately paid a utility monthly donation, or clothes for toddler son, nothing left.

When he lost his wallet, it was handed in, but money taken. He had to borrow that food money off his Mum, on a budget we had nothing spare for paying back.

Luckily she was a diamond compared to the thief who found his wallet.

40 years and I still remember this and our predicament.