To find a lost wallet and keep the money inside

[FindersKeepers1]

Today I found a wallet on the floor in ASDA. A decent leather, heavy wallet with credit cards inside etc. I quickly handed it into a security guard who then handed it into customer services. Told DH and he asked if I kept the money inside? He was half joking but said that he would keep the cash as a “finders fee” and that it served the boomer right for dropping their wallet (it was a wallet of an older man)

Tried to talk to him, would he really keep the money he found and he would! Although he then accused me of starting a fight.

It wasn't my take away either. Given how many liars there are on Mumsnet and how many posters openly admit to theft I've been really heartened by the honest values and the responses on this thread. ETA meant to quote @JimPanzee

You mean she should ignore the fact that she's married to a bullying thief?

The panic when you realise you have lost your purse or wallet is overwhelming. I once lost my handbag a few days after my son was born. I was so lucky that it was found by a kind person who took it to the local police station.
I will always be grateful for that persons honesty.

Definitely not! My husband once left £3k on the bus and some kind soul handed it in. It would have been awful if it had been nicked.

BTW, we don’t normally carry round £3k in cash. He’d just done his Christmas stall and that was the takings 😝

Someone who runs a cash business and on their way to the bank (Hairdressing/window cleaning) or someone directly from the bank on their way to pay a bill for an elderly/infirm/ relative, to name just two examples.
I very rarely use my card and run a CASH business. 40% tax payer, totally above board.
We are not all drug dealers 🙄

"collecting the shampoo/conditioner or biscuits/tea bags from hotel rooms"

I'm sorry, but taking the little bottles of shampoo/conditioner isn't stealing. They are a consumable that are supplied as part of the service. It's no different to pocketing/saving a biscuit that's served with a cup of coffee in a cafe.

No, this 'Boomer' may well be in their 70s on a pension.

Your husband is an actual scumbag.

I am not even pretending I have never pinched something! I dont own a high hoss - but imo its a case by case basis.

Last time I stole something was when I was a single parent - I had no money to buy milk and i pinched the one of the four pints of milk on my neighbours doorstep. Thats a shitty thing to do, I know, I know - but circumstance dependant i would likely do something similar. Our food budget was £7 per week and that was all we had. No foodbanks back then either

But i would never keep a wad of cash and feel entitled as a finders fee from someone who may not have any other cash in the world

So awful of your dh.
My brother found a wallet at Gatwick. It had cash and cards in it. He managed to track down the old man who dropped it and drove 60 miles to drop it off to him.
I thought it was such a kind thing to do.

This happened to me once quite a few years ago.
I found a purse on the pavement.
The cards etc identified the person. I did not keep any of the money, and managed to return the purse. (Can't remember now how we did this, I think there must have been a telephone number as well).
However, Once I found a screwed up £5 note on the underground. No Purse, etc, so kept it. (I looked around but there did not seem to be anyone searching their pockets etc).
So, in the first instance, the money/carsds and I think keys, identified someone who had lost it. In the second instance, the money was on its own. No means of identification.

He is absolutely awful.

No i wouldn't. But I'll be completely honest, I would have done when I was younger. I was homeless and completely skint.

Whilst I'd be tempted I would never seriously contemplate taking money from a wallet I'd found.

If my partner had told me a similar story I might have joked "oh you should have kept the money" but I absolutely would judge him if he had (which he wouldn't because he is honest!)

I remember your post about your son and the air pods OP.
From the details you've now added it's clear his behaviour is a way of life and the fact he was so pleased with himself about the wallet I would find really appalling. And the justifications for it (everyone out for themselves, boomers etc) are morally bankrupt.
I could not live my life with this man

Your husband clearly has no moral compass, and no sense of wanting to help / or be kind to others. You do, and you did the right and very kind thing.

Your husband is not a good man or role model for your children.

I hope your plans allow you to leave him sooner rather than later.

Horrible way to find out your husband is a scummy, dishonourable prick. I couldn’t look at anyone the same way if I knew they felt like that! Hope you’re ok.

About 45 years ago my Dad got to St Pancras to get his train back to Nottingham and realised he'd lost his wallet. Before movies etc so he asked the station to phone my Mum, and she went to Nottm station to buy him a replacement ticket. Then they let him in a train.
About a week later his wallet arrived in the post. It had fallen out of his pocket in the taxi. Everything was in it. Cash. Access Card. And a short note from Mohamed the taxi Driver. London cab not minicab so no chance of finding him to say thank you. He just did a nice thing. Made my Dad's day!

Dh found a wallet in the market.
There was £250 in it plus cards.
It was returned with in the hour.
The first I knew about it was when the the person who lost it put a thank you on Facebook and named him. I asked why dh he didn't tell me and he said he didn't think anything about it, he just returned it and got on with his day.
This is how it should be.

Brilliant. 😊

This your husband sounds a right charmer 😡

So DH is a their and encourages your ds to steal. Get out and get your ds some counseling so God forbid he does not follow in dh footsteps.

As a Boomer, I'd like you to tell your less than delightful husband a couple of things from me-
a) we're not all wealthy by a long shot
b) many of us are still working and paying taxes etc
c) losing money would devastate my financial position which is precarious at best. He is vile.

It was a young couple and they said the money was for a deposit for a flat.

No I would never. My parents once found a wallet in the supermarket, they managed to trace it back to the owner and when they met the owner was an elderly man who said the money inside was his pension money he’d only just got out. He was so happy and relieved, tried to give my mum some money but she wouldn’t accept.

On the flip side to that my husband once found a leather satchel on a train found out the owner from the contents and got off a few train stops early to delivery it to the owner’s house…my husband knew the area well and the house was almost bang opposite the station. Owner opened the door, snatched the bag and slammed the door shut in my husband’s face. Some people are ungrateful and rude.