Tell us why your male partner is lovely

[Brefugee]

prompted by claims that MN is a viper's nest of misandry...

My DH is lovely. He took 18 months parental leave when our DC were small and has never ever shirked being a parent.

he has lots of other good points, but i thought I'd start the ball rolling

(he does tend to open a drawer to get something out, but then leave it open. We Have Words about this every week)

Mine just brought me a coffee in bed.

My dh makes tea and breakfast for the whole family every morning, often leaving me in bed. He makes dinner three times a week and is an amazing dad too. I honestly hit the jackpot with my dh.

The list is long but I always come
back to one thing.
when we first started dating we were camping and I woke up really early and he got up and made me a cup of tea (I don’t know how to work the camping stove) but married and years later if I asked him to make me a cup of tea in the morning and bring it to me in bed he would without complaint. He’s just a really nice human.
he’s my kids step dad and they are young adults now and love him and tell him they love him and I think quiet ds1 is probably closer to him than me because they have similar personalities and interests.

My DH while he isn’t perfect is so lovely. He pulls his weight round the house (does all the washing / ironing). We split getting up in the mornings, always happy to get the kids up / to school if I’m busy or sick. He goes out to buy me chocolate and hardly ever complains. He isn’t great at cooking but has learnt some basic meals over the years, plus I love to cook. We have very similar ideas on money and how to raise the kids. Any disagreements we talk calmly and discuss our feelings and how we can do things differently next time. When I cried about having to return to work after maternity he said “if it’s going to make you miserable, just quit we can down size the house, we can make it work”

My Dh is a wonderful man, he’s kind and funny and I love watching him be a dad to our girls. He always empties the bins and takes care of us all.

He brought me lunch on his way to work when I forgot to pick it up, and knew it would be a massive faff to try to go and get one on my half an hour lunch break. I didn't even have to ask.

He helps around the house, always comes to appointments that I have. Generally just a very warm and loving person. I just wish he would cook 😂

I have a dh who barely helps around the house due to working long hours.
He's still mostly great.
He's not lazy and does do stuff when he's around, makes coffee for me every morning he's not in work, is generous and insists I go on a break from time to time when he sees I'm fed up.
He happily takes care of the kids by himself so I can spend a couple of days away.

My dh is just the best.

When I met him I was a single mum. I'd fled a horrible marriage and I was living in a house with no carpets and just our beds, cooker and fridge. I started work at a new place and he was at the factory next to mine. After a few weeks of small talk, then taking our lunch together we became firm friends. He did ask to be more but my dc needed me to focus on them. So for the next 2 years he came into our lives as a friend. He helped me build a decent home for my dc. Built furniture, laid carpet, we painted, gardened and made it nice. He was great with my dc and did homework, football, clubs etc with them. Then very suddenly my mum became unwell. She was an addict and I didn't have a good relationship with her but I felt I needed to help. She was sick for a week before she passed away and it was a very traumatic death. My dh was there for me all the way through. The day she died he took my dc to their other grandparents and then let me cry and rage. I couldn't sleep so he took me for a drive and I fell to sleep. I woke up when the car stopped and he got out and opened my door. Carried me out and down to a beach where we sat curled up in each other as the sun came up.

And that's where I fell in love.

25 years on and he's still the most caring and loving man. Utterly romantic. Puts everyone first. Hes happy if we are happy. He's our world. I was nothing when I met him. Just a shell. I was just surviving for my dc. But he gave me all of him and expected nothing in return.

I like this thread,hood idea. I do wonder how long it will be before someone comes along and says but they should be doing all these things. <<looks around shiftily>>
My DP always gives me the biggest portion of pudding.

My husband is a good man. He's fair, just and he stands up for the right thing. He calls out behaviour in others that isn't OK - racism, misogyny, sexism etc.

He's the most supportive and caring person in my world. Every challenge I've ever faced he's supported me. He's opened my eyes to things which were outside of my comfort zone, but helped me experience them in a way that felt safe. He adores me, respects me, prioritises me and gives me the space I need when I need it.

We're a team. We get things done and we each pick up more of the slack to support the other when needed because situations are fluid so being rigid doesn't work well. He also tells me he appreciates when I do things for him or to give him a break, and I think that's really important.

My DH is a lovely human.

Kind, funny, with huge heart.

He would do anything I asked, without question, and is very loyal.

Mine cooks weekends
Had our youngest DC all night every night for 3 months when I stopped night feeding so I could catch up on sleep.
Fixes and services my car
Has always been supportive and hands on with our boys
Does his share of housework
Is currently doing up our house
If I'm ill he will look after me
I would add something else but might be tmi 😉

Neither of us are perfect but he is a good one!

Mine is far from perfect (as am I), but he's a genuinely nice person. He's a fabulous dad and is loyal kind and generous to a fault. He's fully supportive of me, which I know is hard work at times!

My DP always gives me the biggest portion of pudding.

if I'm doling out the pudding, i guesstimate then give him the biggest. If he is doling it out he weighs whatever it is. Which is fairer tbh.

We make a good team. neither of us is perfect but we have always worked well together, especially the parenting

(he does tend to open a drawer to get something out, but then leave it open. We Have Words about this every week)

You should have left this bit out, you started a thread to praise DHs because of “claims that MN is a viper's nest” and then couldn’t help just adding a flaw. Which is exactly the point of the whole thread to say nice things, good points and avoid the negative

My DH is excellent. We are an equal partnership with housework, the kids. He does 90% of the cooking. Is taking on extra to allow me to do a degree alongside work.

He is the best dad, our boys love him so much. He isn't perfect, a lot of the mental load stuff falls to me but I love him. He's my person if we were to split that would be it for me.

@Showerflowers that put a tear in my eye. He sounds lovely and I'm glad you got the happiness you deserve 😊

I love the weighing idea, so precise.
DP usually measures everything where as I am quite slap dash. He is not committed enough to weigh pudding though.

because none of us is perfect. And if we don't acknowledge that we get accused of being pick me girls/handmaidens/NAMALTers.

or should i LTB because of that?

Mine is lovely. He can be a bit grumpy but has a good soul and strong ethics. he believes in fairness and equality. He adores animals. He came from a rural area and used to be into hunting and shooting because everyone was but became an ethical vegetarian at the age of 60. He advocates for the vulnerable. He was a bit hopeless at the baby stage of the DCs but came into his own when they were about 6 and older. A few weeks before we got married he made an appointment with a solicitor and put me on the deeds of his house. (Which considering he had an awful first divorce where he was really taken to the cleaners I thought was something). He is funny and caring and sensitive. He has autism and our DS1 does too, so they happily putter along in their own little bubbles, but together and keep each other company. (Although DS is failing in his quest to get DH as much into Stranger Things as he is).

He is a very good man. His housekeeping abilities however are diabolically bad. But I'll take it anyway.

My dh is great too. As are our sons.

I always feel sorry for the man haters on mn as they obviously have never met a decent man

My DH is a great cook and does all the cooking in our house. He brings me a coffee in bed every morning and does all the washing as well. He has a great, silly sense of humour. He is a great dad, step dad and dad to our pets.

We're a team, through and through, with everything.

He sounds awesome

We know no one is perfect but you’ve started a thread for positivity because of all the crap they get and then added a negative on it immediately. It defeats the whole point.
Why would I suggest LTB? I’m clearly saying let them have their moment of glory lol