Tell us why your male partner is lovely

[Brefugee]

prompted by claims that MN is a viper's nest of misandry...

My DH is lovely. He took 18 months parental leave when our DC were small and has never ever shirked being a parent.

he has lots of other good points, but i thought I'd start the ball rolling

(he does tend to open a drawer to get something out, but then leave it open. We Have Words about this every week)

He prioritises me and makes time for special moments every day (no kids). He cooks, cleans, does all life admin while consulting me on every step. He listens to me and is quick to change little habits (no wet towels in the laundry basket, wiping counters to perfection and other little obsessions that make me happy). He helps me take care of my body and mind, helps me with my gym routine, he makes time for things I enjoy like doing yoga together. He helps me fulfill my sexual life, he is patient and caring. He has helped me calm my temper down and build healthy communication habits. He tells me how I inspire him and helps me see myself through kinder eyes. He supports my career but is also happy to support me if I don't work (as would I). He is open to move anywhere in the world and loves making plans for the future together. We are a team and I love him.

Mines away at sea for 3 months, he sent me new headphones (mine broke) and flowers because I'm feeling poorly

He always supports me, my life got some much better once he became part of it

God, where do I start?!

He's probably the kindest person I know. He's a big, strong, bearded metal head with long hair, so looks like he could crush you, but is so gentle and caring. Both with me, and my 2 DDs (from my first marriage), and our cats.

He's attentive and thoughtful. Brings cups of tea if work meetings run over (wfh)
He makes notes about things he considers important, so he doesn't forget. Like my favourite perfume, how much milk makes (what I think are) the perfect creamy scrambled eggs. I complemented them once, and he wanted to be able to always replicate it for me.

He's hard working, generous, affectionate, respectful. I could honestly go on and on. I really do feel blessed to have him in my life.

In 30 years, I have never once had to think about what to cook for dinner, or what food to buy, or ever had to shop for it (unless I want to) - DH does all of it, and he genuinely worries about making sure we all eat food we like, including the faddinesses of the kids.

I've never ironed either - DH or the kids have always done it - he's taught them both to iron.

Also, I have a big extended family and he does all the Xmas present shopping - gets presents for all my siblings, their partners & children & my parents, and he's so thoughtful. He just loves buying presents for people, and he always thinks really carefully about what to buy them. He also cooks the Xmas dinner, for however many people turn up (usually his side of the family) - the more the merrier for him, he loves catering. And he does a big buffet and party on boxing day (or another day) for the whole of my family.

He ferried our DD to her sports activities for years - an hour round trip 3 evenings a week, straight after a long day at work.

I am utterly lost when so many women on here say "I do everything, DH doesn't lift a finger" - why? I'm in my 50s & I bet a lot of these women are younger than me, so it can't be old-fashioned 1950s sexism. Why don't they just stop doing it all?

He often brings me tea in bed

He saved up his personal money to treat me to a holiday for my birthday in a romantic location

He treats me like a human being with respect and empathy.

He save lives at work but gets embarrassed and hates it if anyone makes a big deal about it (so I make a quiet deal about it).

I could go on but honestly I don’t recognise many of the men on here.

He is the stoic, bright, quiet force that fixes everything, always making sure we are all safe and provided for, the most wonderful father and just a really Good Man.

Given all that, I can't understand the horrendous way he has of loading the dishwasher... 😱🤣

Beautiful thread. Gives me hope. Thank you.

I so rarely cry and this just made me well up. I am so happy for you and what a gorgeous tribute to him.

I only see him once a week

My partner is a good egg I have mobility issues and have had (+waiting for more) surgery, we have had to reconfigure how we live and use our space at home. He works really hard to provide for us , he WFH so is more readily available if I'm struggling.
He hoys my heavy mobility scooter in the car so we can go places. He's chief cook and bottle wash making my life so much easier than it could be

I text mine to have a moan that my period had unexpectedly started at work. He immediately offered to drop off supplies including clean clothes and chocolate. I was actually fine as I keep spares at work for emergencies but it was amazing that this was his first thought.

@nyxel he sounds wonderful!

Brings me tea, rubs my feet, makes me laugh, sings to horses.

Helped create what I consider a better version of me, my DS.

Having left an abusive relationship almost three years ago and living on my own since, these posts have really brought tears to my eyes, not least because they've shown me there are really good men out there, they remind me of my lovely Dad and how he looked after my Mum, my sister and I, makes me realise too how I'm better off alone unless someone shows me this consideration too.

DP and I work from home together, most of the time, a few feet away, and neither of us gets fed up with it or each other. Granted, we don't speak that much, but sharing tea and lunch making duties is nice. We argue rarely, he's very calm and sensible, a real grown up, responsible for his own behaviour, emotions and wellbeing.

He is not by any means perfect, but he’s a good and loving partner & dad. I’m extremely grateful for all he does for me and our 2 children.

Mine is the best human being I know. I was in a horrible abusive relationship for 14 years and had been a lone parent (ex no longer on saw the kids, his choice) for 5 years when I met my partner, he is the kindest, funniest and most thoughtful person with not a single ounce of toxic masculinity in his bones.

He became the best dad that my children could ever wish for, he loves them so much, they adore him and as far as we are all concerned he is their dad. He also helps my elderly parents whenever needed by doing things in the house for them, or taking them to appointments etc

Everything thing in the house is divided equally and fairly, my friends all love him too and I genuinely feel so incredibly lucky to have met him.

Mine is affectionate, always happy to curl up together on the sofa or hug in bed. Does a lot of our child's "admin" - takes him to get his hair cut, knows his shoe size, buys his clothes and shoes etc, which takes some of the mental load off me. Generous to a fault, much rather give presents than receive them. Meets us at the airport when we've flown to see him (he used to work abroad a lot) with a caramel macchiato for me and a hot chocolate for our son. Works incredibly hard and pushes himself. Always carries the heavy bags. Makes me laugh more than I ever thought possible, even 21 yrs into our relationship. Is fair and thoughtful, and loves his friends. Loves the company of other women and welcomes my friends into our home. His female friends are some of my best friends. Open with his feelings. Always open to hear mine. Wrestles with our son who goes crazy for it and always shows him affection. He is a healthy role model for our son and doesn't push him into being a certain way or more masculine - accepts him as he is and is there for him when he's feeling sensitive or emotional. He cooks a mean steak dinner, his dauphinoise potatoes are so good it's filthy, and has no problem doing the food shopping alone l. I know this one seems stupid, but I've a couple of friends whose husbands can't seem to work out how to do the weekly shop and panic when in Tesco alone, which always baffles me. He's kind, supportive, fun, fair and hilarious - my dream man essentially!

He's quiet, brings me tea in bed, takes over without question when I get a migraine/am busy.

He is the kindest person I know. Has had my back through some truly awful times. I adore him.

I got up earlier than DH and there was only enough mik for two cups of tea. I had mine and when he got up he made me a second and just had juice ❣️

Ive been single for years the last time i shared a bed with a man was 2 nights in thailand 3 months ago it was heaven.

My dp is absolutely lovely . I was a single parent when we met . My ex had left for ow when dd1 was 3 months old . Dp is raising her as his own , we have been together for 20
years , and he makes the coffee every morning. I love him to bits .

He's an amazing cook and does nearly all the cooking at home. I eat like a king and do very little myself. He will get the kids involved with the cooking too sometimes.
He's generally just a fun, happy person and who I would choose to spend my time with. He doesn't do any hobbies that mean he spends half the weekend off galavanting away from us.

A++ would marry again