Dh has walked off and left me alone at 1am in the street. 2 miles from home

[Boopadoop90]

Just that really. We were out with friends, going back to theirs. Dh refused to back to theirs but I don't know why. The others left in a cab. I couldn't leave dh alone in the pub. I I said I'm going home. He said OK. Followed me out in a fit and angry, cos he felt obliged to follow me. He's walked home. I'm 2 miles away from homre and sitting in the cold shivering
He messaged me to ask if I got an uber home. I said no, he said good we've spent £x on uber tonight.

He's walked home and I'm sitting on the kerb, 2 miles away in the dark, cold.

I bet they both feel pretty rough this morning...

This is so weird. It's almost as if you want to feel badly done to. Two miles is nothing to walk, but you're an adult, if you don't want to walk, you don't need his permission to get an Uber. Stop being a martyr and get yourself home.

Yet another thread where I ask myself how do some people manage to struggle through life. Baffling.

@Boopadoop90 I’ve read your other thread too. You talk about feeling lost in life and revisiting old haunts etc. I’m going to see this daft behaviour (because it is daft) as part of that same mental place you’re in.

You’re 51. Menopause does crazy things to our thinking sometimes. It sure did for me. Have you thought about HRT?

I know suggesting menopause is fast becoming the new ‘is he ADHD’ around MN, but it’s hard not to read about your behaviour/thought patterns, your age, and make the connection.

No matter how much of a twat either of them were being I don’t for one second agree that it was ok for him to leave her there. Anything could have happened. We aren’t safe alone outside at night.
glad you got home ok OP

In honour of the OP, I’ve adapted this little ditty slightly. I’d like to claim credit, but OP’s then teenage alter-ego Avril Lavigne got there first.

🎵 I'm sitting on a kerb
I'm waitin' in the dark
I thought that you'd have turned around by now
There's nothing but the kerb
No footsteps on the ground
I'm sulking but there's no sound
Isn't anyone coming back to get me?
Won't an Uber magically take me home?
It's a damn cold night
Trying to post drunken messages on Mumsnet
Won't you take me by the hand?
Take me somewhere warm
I know where you are (in bed)
But I, I'm not with you 🎵

😂 It really was full moon last night, wasn’t it.

If it isn't a troll, I suspect she loved every minute of it. So stupid.

I think you're weird for the way you're acting.

@SwerveCity
He didn't leave her, she chose to sit on the kerb in some weird manipulative behaviour, this is not on the man for a change.

😂😂😂😂

You both need to address your alcohol use. It’s doing nothing for your marriage, your finances, your mental and physical health. Sober people aren’t sitting on a kerb, complaining to strangers on the internet about their spouses.

Not sure why you couldn’t leave a grown man in a pub and then if you told him not to bother to walk with you then why would he- this is a man they take things at face value and don’t realise you meant for him to do the opposite

Or you can’t be arsed with the melodrama and figure your idiot drama llama wife can get in a taxi herself now she’s thrown five kinds of hissy fit in half an hour.

Even her friends couldn’t be arsed telling her to ring for a taxi.

No one was giving her the audience she craved so she sulked on a kerbside while telling strangers Mumsnet how badly done by she was.

Someone just said this is avril lavine lyrics?!!!

A whole two miles you say?

Walk. Why you babying a man and then expecting him to be protective? What is this?

This thread was like a mirror to reality in that after readng the 39384th iteration of "he's left me on the KERB", I too felt like walking off and leaving OP alone.

Presumably you're home by now.

Why didn't you just walk with him?

Huffing on your phone, sat on a kerb alone, at 1 in the morning isn't a good look for a grown woman.

The avril lavigne adaption is hilarious. I just sang it to my DH.

This all makes no sense whatsoever- are you usually this ridiculous?

I've just read through all of OPs replies... Bloody heck, she sat there for at least 2 hours before getting up and walking. Absolutely mental.

Hope you're okay of course OP, but that's not normal behaviour.

Exactly.

Behaving like a 12 year old instead of using her grown up status to sort herself out and then her words to tell him what the real problem is.

@JustinThyme "Or you can’t be arsed with the melodrama and figure your idiot drama llama wife can get in a taxi herself now she’s thrown five kinds of hissy fit in half an hour.

Even her friends couldn’t be arsed telling her to ring for a taxi.

No one was giving her the audience she craved so she sulked on a kerbside while telling strangers Mumsnet how badly done by she was."
Doesn't matter. You fume and rage and decide you never want to see them again-but you don't leave a friend in a vulnerable position. Isn't that what you tell your kids? Everyone in this ridiculous saga is shit in different ways.

@Technonan I'm mortified that this thread has got so many posts. I only expected a few.

I've woken up with a v sore head. Not spoken to DH yet who is still in bed.