Is this lovebombing?

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So I've heard the term before, but I'm not sure if it fits this situation or if I'm just cold hearted.

Met a guy at work about 6 weeks ago, swapped numbers, had great chats, he's funny and kind and we seemed to have stuff in common. Arranged a date last week. Went well, had a small kiss at the end.

But since then I feel like he's been laying it on super thick. Some things he's said -

I'd give anything in the world to be there with you - after he asked for a pic and I sent him one of me in pj's going to bed

After a mildly flirty message he said- when we do finally do it, its going to be very emotional.

Would love to give you a shoulder massage, but it would have to be from the front so I could look into your eyes - when I said my shoulders were hurting

I can't wait to hold you in my arms - just woke up to this message

You're perfect in every way, inside and out - again out of nowhere, when he doesn't really know me

You've been quiet lately, everything ok? - when I didn't text back because I was in a meeting

I feel like I'm losing you- haven't replied to that one at all

I've been used to quite stand off ish men in the past and I've not dated in a very long time, so not sure if I'm out of touch but this just seems way over the top.

Of someone did that to me so quick I would never want to see them again it's creepy

It's definitely too full on, especially for someone you barely know. He sounds suffocating and I get the vibe he's just saying what he thinks you want to hear so he can get into your pants.

I'd trust your gut and walk away from this one.

Forget a bouquet of red roses, this is a bouquet of red flags.

Too Needy - Bye👋

I can't breathe just reading that.

Getting the ick here too. He needs to go. Sorry.

I’m not sure I would call it lovebombing, more embarrassing/cringy/too personal after one date. Those messages would give me the ick and there would be no second date!

The looking into the eyes one really gave me the ick. Who talks about that and plans it?

And the you've been quiet was definitely more of a complaint than a concern.

That's cos he needs to be the CENTRE of your thoughts. No other life or people exist for you now.

Wait til it's the other way round, though, and you'll be a needy pyscho.

Definitely unnecessarily needy! Yes I would call this lovebombing. Run away!

Exactly! I'm not his to lose.

He’s definitely cringeworthy. As you know him through work, I’d be more cautious than others suggest. I’d reply “you are coming on way too strong, you need to back off”. Thats not binning completely, but paves the way for a binning as necessary.

I suspect he won’t be able to back off & that he will respond with a barrage of texts. So will be much easier for a “you obviously don’t listen, so goodbye” & block.

Bin. Him.

Urgh boak 😂

Yuck.

Not sure this is love bombing, however it’s massively weird

He's pursuing a romantic fantasy that has very little to do with you, and he's not particularly interested in your response either.

It's weird. This guy doesn't understand - or maybe does, but doesn't follow - normal social boundaries.

Huge red flag.

Back away.

This sounds like someone with mental health problems. It comes across as utterly desperate and weird.

I wouldn't be surprised if he's never been in a relationship before as he clearly understands nothing about women.

I'd absolutely have the ick.

Regardless of if this could be defined as "love bombing" it would give me the ick.

Oooh no. Get shot of him quick.

"You're perfect in every way"

AGGHHH

He is deeply uncool. Drop him.

Ew ew ew ew ew I would be first really put off by the focus on getting into bed with you after just one date, but there's a world of ew to unpick here, from the gazing-into-the-eyes to the putting-on-a-pedestal (projection alert!) to the complaining about your absence of replies.

He sounds extremely emotionally immature.

Yes it’s lovebombing. But luckily he doesn’t seem to be very good at it….
Run.