Honest opinions ... is a UK 14/16 seen as unattractive for dating as a 50 year old?

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I'm online dating for a while. My face is decent and I'd consider myself relatively attractive in the looks stakes but it is my body that men seem to dislike.
As above , I'm that size, 5'7', proportioned except for a wide , flabby meno belly.Im 2.5stone overweight on the scales.
I weight train and walk and run over the week.. so I exercise every day. Look after my appearance/ clothes/ grooming etc but I really believe it's my body that turns them off .
Honestly, especially to men on here, is that size and body type unattractive to you on a woman who is 50?
What are your experiences and more so, what do you find attractive out of interest ?
Thanks.
Lemon

Most older men want a size 8 blonde at least 15 years younger. They don't wish to date their age. Men are often fat, ugly and bald, but still want the unobtainable. Unfortunately, you have to lower your standards - a lot . This is why I am single BTW, I have done OLD for a few years and its tough. I am now happy alone, as I don't want to meet a divorcee who want to live free in my house.

I swear there was profile I saw on bumble of a man aged 65 who looked every minute of his age and dressed like 1970’s man at BHS He was balding, pasty and saggy.

His profile said he was only interested in matching with women under 50, no bigger than a size 10 and at least an 8 looks wise. And they must be available for no strings fun on demand so preferably no baggage like kids.

I actually laughed at the delusion - wonder how well he’s doing? 🤦‍♀️

@TwistedWonder I bet you did! OLD is full of these creatures thinking they are a catch! Lol! Id rather be single! Far more attractive!

@Jellylegs:

YY, image a man with self awareness making his dating profile and asking MN:

"Do women find a 50 year old balding male with a belly attractive? I have a nice face if you ignore the beige teeth and the halitosis, but my gut now makes my cock look smaller and I can't get it up 50% of the time anyway."

Exactly

50 something men may 'want' hot young women half their age, but the average bloke in this demographic has about as good a chance of landing one as I do of shagging Chris Hemsworth.

I also don't think all men want much younger women, or at least, they're realistic enough to know it's not going to happen.The problem is, attractive men in their 50s are like hens' teeth, and they get snapped up soon. What the OP is dealing with is the dregs.

yes they want a relationship, someone to do something with, spend time with, go to things together with, but really someone to give them regular sex, Is way up there.

Any man who considers sex something that a woman 'gives' to a man sounds deeply unattractive.

It's a bit depressing men want to go that much younger.
I'm sure you'll find someone that doesn't fit that model, but bear in mind 99% of men your age won't be in pristine physical shape either, and when it gets to the potential for sex they absolutely won't care about you having a bit of a belly. Good luck and have fun.

Be old but be thin. Be brunette but be thin. - I was told that French women say this (or something like it) ... whoever thought it up I'd say it's mostly true when it comes to how men like women. Fat women are the equivalent to short men - undesirable.

My friend in her 50s is your size but shorter and is currently systematically working through dates at a pace of two per week until she finds one she likes. She has been out with men aged from 38 to 60 and every one so far has found her attractive.

France is a very sexist country so who really cares what French women say?

Then you know men who are either very high earners or very big fibbers.

@IcedPurple well I would wager a bet that 90% of the world agree with this. Fat = unhealthy and health even more than youth is equated with beauty and attractiveness. I should add that i don't think size 16 at 5 7 is that big but it all depends on where you carry it.

It seems to be random. Of my late 40's friends who are on the OLD scene, the one who gets least attention is the one who is size 14 and five foot 10. I have friends who are bigger and smaller dress sizes who are average height and they get more attention. Since all three of them are conventionally attractive, the height seems to be the issue.

I tried OLD briefly. Didn't go on any dates. But like others, it was only men at least 10-15 years older who showed an interest, and even then not many. The men my own age, not even a sniff. All my photos were from the previous year, unfiltered. I was a size 6-8 age 50. I have a professional career, my own house, I am very fit, I may not be the most beautiful, but I am far from unattractive. I like to think I scared them away with my brilliance. Sadly, I fear it is more likely that I was of no interest to the older men as I wouldn't have been available to pander to them, and too old for the men I would have been interested in.

when a woman of 50 peers into her mirror she sees her true self
when a man of 50 glances in a mirror, he sees a young Adonis

OP, confidence is attractive, especially sexual, flirtatious confidence
a smiley lady size 14/16 is always going to be more appealing than
a po faced size 8 with no zest.

Though looking at the Relationships board here there seem to be a lot of younger women who are with or who want older men.

I think you are on to something here. More than once have men been concerned when realising I have a more valuable home than them and a good job. If you don’t need them they lose their masculinity apparently.

I don’t know if it’s an age thing or more general (or I just attract em) but there are a lot of men my age (50’s) are quite cringey. There’s a lot who start sexual talk after a few messages or even as a first message. And it makes me shudder when they put on their profile they’re very highly sexed or extremely tactile or they love kissing and cuddling. To me they’re basically saying I’m gonna grope you non stop like a horny teenager 🤣

Are there? Ive seen one or two where women are in two minds about whether to have relationships with older men. Never seen anyone post they actually specifically want one. I can only assume that not many decide in favour either given that only 1% of married men have a wife 20 years younger.

See, this is exactly what I was looking for in a man 😂😂

@5128gap I haven't noticed a lot of younger woman with or wanting to be either older men on the relationships boards. Not at all.

Op, I'd stay away from OLD. It's treated like a catalogue.

I’ve seen quite a few post about being with men a decade or more older so I suppose it just depends what threads we’re reading. I’ve seen far more on here than in my RL. I only actually known one age gap couple in my friendship group - she’s 38 he’s 60 and the age difference does really show.

I agree with this. I'm size 16 and 5'7". My BMI is 26. If I lost one stone I would be comfortably in the healthy range. I don't think it's your weight that's the issue.

I’ve done loads of dating as a size 14-16 (late 40’s) and have honestly not found it to be the case at all. All the men I’ve dated have all been a lot less bothered about my weight than I am! I really believe that most men value confidence and enthusiasm over a small bum/tum

I agree. I'm 5 ft 7 and very much a size 16. I only need to lose a few kilos to get into the healthy weight category. If I lost 2.5 stone I would be skeletal.