If you could say something out loud you knew you could never say, what would it be?

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I'll go first.

I wish I could tell my SIL that I dislike her so much and I wish she'd never met my BIL. I hate that she is now part of our family. She came to disrupt our (far from perfect but lovely) family. I hate the way she treats my BIL. I hate how she makes everyone pander to her every whim. How all her messages are passive aggressive and how rude she is to my MIL. I could never say this out loud of course, but I dream of it often.

Feels good getting that out of my chest.

Anyone else feel free to add.

You're shit at your job. Your kids are so awful because of you and have no work ethic because it's always poor so and so. You're a moaner and a liar too. I cannot wait until you retire you evil lazy horror

And I know you're jealous of me.

We’re not the only ones. 😡

I would tell my BIL that his son is a bullying little shit and the excuses have to stop. That he’s a dopey bastard (BIL that is) who stands there like a goon while his almost 11yo son terrorises everyone, and is probably an actual child narcissist. And that they can go for as many ADD and autism diagnoses they like, spending thousands, but there’s a reason they keep being told that he is NT and just has low self esteem, and going around private providers until they have the answer they want is not the solution.

I’d also tell SIL to leave her useless husband because the stress of being the only person who tries to discipline their son is turning her hair grey and it’s not fair on anybody. If I REALLY didn’t care about the outcome I’d also tell my nephew the reason he has no friends at school so because he’s a nasty little fucker and if he calls my 7yo son an idiot/gayboy/fucker/nerd (because he has glasses)/dumb once more I’ll be putting his stupid little fingers in the door jamb and slamming as hard as I can.

But sadly as it stands I have to parent him by proxy while dopey BIL stands there (which I hate doing) and I have to hover around DS and DN to make sure I hear everything that’s said (which I hate, nobody likes a helicopter parent but I have no choice).

Tell them, get the support you need 💓

To the condescending mums on the baby wearing and buggy running groups. Stop with your ridiculous brand snobbery and either give helpful advice or keep quiet. Stop posting fake concern about a woman you saw 2 weeks ago carrying all wrong and how it’s been playing on your mind ever since.

To the group of 8 mums, all with pushchairs, who all have to go into the supermarket together even though just two of them buy stuff - a maximum of 2 items as well.

If not planning to buy anything don’t go in the store!

8 pushchairs in the self checkout area is crazy

Yep, this.

You are a vile narcissist. You pretend to your audience that you are a kind person and are “concerned” about everyone. What you actually do is tear apart your victims to try and make yourself look better. You take credit for the good they do, and shine a spotlight on and twist their faults. You smear your victims names worse than a trashy newspaper journalist. You drive wedges between everyone by lighting the blue touch paper and running away and you are a nasty gossip.
I hate you and the world would be a better place without you in it.
You are right that you are just like your Dad , he was a psychopath too. I remember, even if you think I don’t.

And to add, you think everyone is jealous of your daughter - they really aren’t.
We pity her. You are an extremely controlling woman and she can’t even breathe without your say so, despite being 40 years old.
You have taught her she is nothing without beauty so these days she looks unrecognisable with all of her Turkey cosmetic surgery procedures, fake hair and fake tan that you told her she needed. You’ve turned her into a robot that just does as she’s told. It’s sad.

I genuinely dislike my parents. Yes they provided the necessities but they said and continue to say some awful and very personal things which they refuse to apologise for despite trying to discuss.

I would like to cut contact entirely and openly but there's no real way to do that without being the arsehole as they are so clear in being right all the time.

I resent the hours I have spent supporting my mother emotionally since being a young child when she has caused me nothing but stress since my (incurable) cancer symptoms started, insisting it was mental. She has almost disappeared and any conversations have been ghoulish. Falsely cheerful, her droning on about inappropriate topics such as the impending death of someone I don't know, and insistence upon reassurance for her when I cannot provide that.

My father I would equally like to stop bothering with.

I get on with my sibling now at a distance but I would like to address their contempt towards me until they met their now spouse.

They were a golden child but would never see things that way.

Oh @PinkMendinilla
sorry to hear that. Your mum sounds just like mine with the fake cheeriness and irrelevant but upsetting chatter. I wish you all the best.

Do you ever think of the consequences your mishandling of a delicate situation created? Do you feel guilty? You should!

I'll use your new name and refer to you as "she" as a courtesy, but I don't consider you to be a woman, in any way, shape or form

You are not a woman no matter how much you try to force people into saying you are. You will always be a man, no amount of lipstick, clothing or pretend will alter facts.

Stop messing with vulnerable kids. Leave them to find peace and love with whom they are and not encourage them to pretend a name change and clothing and others playing pretend will sort their mental health issues.

Thank you, you too xxx it's difficult when you don't want anything special from them but would love a family you could just talk to normally

I wish I could say to this one person; you aren’t a victim, you find any excuse to not look after your child but take every opportunity to plaster him all over social media; you are lazy; you take advantage of your parents and anyone who shows you any kindness; you’ve upset so many people with your greed and bad behaviour and then conveniently blame it all on PTSD; you’re cheap and graceless; not everything is all about you; you aren’t liked and your son is out of control; you and your husband are selectively unwell and have no business planning another child when you’re still loafing in your parents house for free.

I’m glad you can’t have children as you are a narcissist and only interested in yourself, you would use that child like a weapon. You manipulate everyone and once you have your needs met you drop them. Your mask has slipped and everyone can see who you really are now and you will come to a bad end.

Dear friend - you’re lovely and very kind, but you’re turning into a parody of a mum; a human Dunelm decal. Half the messages you send me could be put on a cushion or a greeting card. If you want a glass of wine, have one; you don’t need to jokingly justify it. Also, it makes me feel a bit crap that I’m already on the third glass by the time you message to “confess” to your first.

People wearing babies and jumping about will pay for it in later life. Bloody silly.

The videos you watch online are racist and idiotic, and you sound like an ignorant bigot when you repeat this garbage. You have failed to develop critical thinking skills or any understanding of the world or other cultures and you offend me every time you decide to harp on about your ‘concerns’.

You think your a cut above everyone but you grew up in a council house just like me. I have a theory - the bigger the snob the lower the background. You have proved me right .

It's difficult to look at you these days. Your chin has a chin, and your stomach bulges out in front of you. Yeah, I get it, you have "binge eating disorder" (in other words you just love food too much and are a glutton) but you don't see how spoiled and self centred your attitude is. I worry about you dropping dead from a stroke. You don't realise how ugly you are beginning to look, and that no matter how hard you slather perfume on you, you whiff of BO. All because you won't just put down the food. I like cakes too, I know how you feel, but you can do this, I can, so can you.

I hate what you're doing to yourself . For the love of God put down the food so you can stay alive long enough to see your children grow up. Please. I've known you since we were kids at school in year 6, I knew your lovely parents, (you maintain they were abusive but I didn't notice that when we were growing up) when I look back at the happy (yes, happy, I know you like to think otherwise) childhood we both had I feel sad at what you've become. Think please about what you're doing to yourself . Life is short as it is, stop feeling so sorry for yourself and using it as an excuse to stuff your face.

Id like to say this to the many customers who annoy me
"Gonny stop coming in here expecting me to read your mind and solve your problems, im a shop assistant not fucking psychologist"

Just came back to shout something if that’s ok? Need to get it off my chest.

Fuck off mum!!! You pretend to be this anxious sweet old lady to anyone that will listen but you are a stone hearted bitch who only actually cares about yourself. I hate you but I have to pretend to care because I’m a mother and you matter to my DC. If I wasn’t a mother I’d have cut you out last year when, once again, you showed me how little you care about me. I’ll keep faking it but I hate you.