If you could say something out loud you knew you could never say, what would it be?

[twistandshoutloud]

I'll go first.

I wish I could tell my SIL that I dislike her so much and I wish she'd never met my BIL. I hate that she is now part of our family. She came to disrupt our (far from perfect but lovely) family. I hate the way she treats my BIL. I hate how she makes everyone pander to her every whim. How all her messages are passive aggressive and how rude she is to my MIL. I could never say this out loud of course, but I dream of it often.

Feels good getting that out of my chest.

Anyone else feel free to add.

Not looking at anyone in particular but this is the one thread where we don’t answer back to people’s rants or statements, so here’s another.

Just because I’m gay doesn’t mean I like or understand pronouns, trans or anything like it, it’s fuck all to do with me and I hate all the extra letters tacked onto lgb, I hate the ridiculous new rainbow flag, and I want political cults to stop hiding beneath our umbrella, we wanted equality, stop riding our fucking coat-tails!

@malificent7 I know for a fact I could never kill an animal for food - I'm certain a big majority of the population who rely on supermarkets couldn't either. I do not have that instinct in me, so why should I ask anyone else to do it for me?

As for driving, yes I do. Flying very irregular, and as for making money, I'm solvent, but I want to pay the bills and have a bit left over. I'm not materialistic but I do enjoy having food, shelter and warmth.

Fair enough, no offence intended, or taken.

@PolkaDotOlgaDaPolga thank you, and likewise. I hope that you remain as physically and mentally healthy as you can, however you can. As I said, I'd take medication, which the majority isn't probably vegan, if I needed to.

People can call me a hypocrite if they want, but I don't actually want to die relatively young. Whilst alive, I can still protest against vivisection and animal testing.

I don't think you're a hypocrite at all. I admire your compassion and selflessness. I thought I was an animal lover but I'm pretty selfish about not wanting to give up my perceived "right" to eat eggs and cheese. I will be honest, your post has made me take a long hard look at myself. Will I change and go vegan ? I don't honestly feel I could promise I will . I'm just not there yet. Maybe one day?

”Toto, I’ve got a feeling we’re not in Kansas anymore!”

Think I’m in the wrong thread (holds little dog and backs slowly away), Judy has had too many uppers and wandered into a fucking vegan debate!

@PolkaDotOlgaDaPolga oh wow. You've just given me a 'moment'. Going forward, when I scream, I can think that there are people that are doing their best. Thank you, and I mean that. I wish you peace and luck on whatever decisions you make.

😍🤣🤣

@cookiebee /Judy. Make sure Toto is ok, yeah. You'd better look after him.

Even though I'm suffering through a terrible pizza and Pringles desert (the shops are shut), this made me smile!

"I ought to like you, but actually you annoy the tits off me."

Same here. Which is why this thread is less cathartic for me than others. I keep on thinking, "Yeah, I said that, and there was hell on".

You say you have no friends. I ask you why that is and you refuse to say. Which is your right. I know it's not your fault and I know you work hard, but you're in your 30s, you have weekends. Your life revolves around your parents . It's nice you're close but it's a bit sad. Ok, so you may be a bit different from others socially but that's ok. I struggle to, I can monologue for ages on the same thing, I'm practically Sheldon Cooper in a female body. It's ok! Embrace it ! I want to see you happy! There's no need for you to be so lonely. You are outgoing and have a lot to offer. You say You are shy, I think you are selling yourself short. You're always messaging me, so I know you're not socially anxious, you talk a lot when we meet, too. That's not shy. Or social anxiety I probably have ASD too, I just never got diagnosed . You can do it too, if I can.

you're a good person. Love yourself a little!

Also goes for anyone else with it.

I don't believe that your pregnancy was an accident whilst on the pill when it's been obvious you have been desperately wanting a baby for months.

To say no to a lot of things, but especially to the social worker assigned to me. No I don't want my violently abusive exH in the room while we chat. I thought your job was to see signs but you didn't. Too late now, but I do think my life would have had a totally different outcome.

MIL, you are not a good human being. You think you’re a fantastic mother but your behaviour towards your children is downright weird and vulgar. No, it’s not normal to call your daughter a bitch in front of people and then laugh it off. You now require 24 hour care and spend your days alone with your carers. They look after you so well and you’re sweetness and light to their faces, but borderline racist and nasty behind their backs.You judged my mother for not being able to protect me from my abusive father but she’s a million times a better person than you ever will be. Every time I see you, you never want to know anything about us.It’s always about you and how terrible your life turned out. Your son visits you out of duty but feels no love for you. Soon, we will move away from you and it will be the best decision we ever made but you will cry, weep and wail and tell everyone what terrible people we are for abandoning you. And it’s all bullshit and you know it. I feel nothing for you and cannot even bring myself to pity you after 20 years of being part of your family.

I can never say this in real life but god I feel better for it saying it on here!

You wanted to drive him out, by being violent, punching and hitting him, shouting at him in public and at home, he walked on eggshells around you, but when you found out he had found someone else suddenly you were the victim, treated badly, telling all your joint friends and family how you never trusted him. No word about your behaviour. I would so like to tell you how horrible, vindictive, and viscous you are, and that some of us know.

You’re an irresponsible cat owner. You knew your cat didn’t like other cats but insisted on getting another which had to be ‘returned’. Then you got another and are now ‘returning‘ that one too. You’re an attention seeking idiot. Don’t get any more cats!

Ha. I’d like to say this exact thing! 😉

I wish I could start every question I ask DH with a ‘a yes or no answer will suffice.
Would you like a cup f tea.?
Are you having one?
Do you want any thing from the shops?
Well I was thinking of going to Tesco on Saturday
Every bloody question, waffle, waffle, waffle.

Are you me!?🤣

I came here to write something very similar.

Certainly not in all but definitely a lot of cases I've seen and dealt with professionally - no your child isn't autistic and they don't have ADHD either. They're just naughty and you're just a shit lazy parent who wants to label their child so you can continue to be lazy and shit.
(Again - some, not all.)

(This is a DH too)

Don't give me an OTT 'Yes, I KNOW' about things I thought you should be aware of, if you're also going to castigate me for not telling you things I wasn't aware you didn't know.
Of course there's another side to this, but bollocks to it. If he's not here to complain about people only ever telling him stuff he already knows, that's his lookout.