If you could say something out loud you knew you could never say, what would it be?

[twistandshoutloud]

I'll go first.

I wish I could tell my SIL that I dislike her so much and I wish she'd never met my BIL. I hate that she is now part of our family. She came to disrupt our (far from perfect but lovely) family. I hate the way she treats my BIL. I hate how she makes everyone pander to her every whim. How all her messages are passive aggressive and how rude she is to my MIL. I could never say this out loud of course, but I dream of it often.

Feels good getting that out of my chest.

Anyone else feel free to add.

Yes, a lot of people are clearly carrying a lot of pain and the last thing they / we need is others being rude.

Totally. It's amazing how some people just love to harshly judge others, but give themselves leeway to do even worse than what they are complaining about.

Same, I find it quite condescending

There’s some posts and just one or two down form your own wishing people dead! Yes I would say they’re pretty awful.

There are definitely people I wish were dead. Does that make me awful? Or does it make them awful?

I would say:
I know we are just "friends" but I am telling you this because it's true and because I know that someone somewhere has done a complete number on your self esteem.
I love you. Am in love with you in fact.
You are fiercely intelligent.
You are funny.
You are kind.
You are compassionate.
You have a bewildering knowledge of 80s music.
You can be pedantic.
Your use of commas and parentheses is exemplary.
You are Drop Dead Gorgeous.
You don't know that you are Drop Dead Gorgeous.
I hope you have a beautiful life

But if a Briton is employed in a Spanish business then they should be expected to have a good command of Spanish unless their job is to interact primarily with other Britons using the business.
It's lazy to live in a country and not make an effort to learn at least some of the language and that also applies to people coming to live in the UK, we need to stop providing notices in a variety of languages, it's the way to learn quickly. It's what I did when I lived in Germany.

😘 To all those who have opened their hearts on this thread

Can we say that too about people living in this country? Or is it yet another example of choosing an easy target?

I’d tell my “in law” that I’ve heard the snide comments she makes and I know she talks about me/us behind our backs. Other family members have made the same observations. I will however keep my thoughts to myself for the sake of family peace

To my MIL, you’ve ruined SILs life by making her completely dependant on you because you don’t get on with your husband and want a friend. You’ve ruined her chances of ever having a family or a long term relationship. I don’t understand how you can’t see what you’ve done and think this level of dependency is normal in a mother/daughter relationship

I see you. I know exactly what you are doing. Although you think you are ruining my chances of any happiness, you are actually revealing to me who I can’t trust so You are actually doing me a favour.
I also wish your husband loved you because maybe then you would have something more positive to do with your life. My advice to you is stop trying to pick apart other peoples lives because you are unhappy. Remember blowing somebody else’s candle out doesn’t make yours shine any brighter.

Must be legal. Sounds like my shonky ex solicitor.

the phrase "not 'billing' enough."

reminds me of the show the good wife

Aw @TheAmusedAzureLurker can’t you tell them how you feel?

It is a lovely heartfelt post. It does sound like the recipient of those feelings is either happily married or in a steady relationship. It goes to prove there are people who even when feellings like this are involved they are respectful of situations where acting on them would create havoc. That is admirable & a sign of strength & good character,sadly often hard to find these days.

Bye, don't let us keep you.

i would love say the following to my sister in law

You are a crap mother and the reason your daughter is a little shit is solely due your parenting. Stop trying to get school to back you because you want some sort of diagnosis you can blame her behaviour on.

don’t think for one minute that your brother and I are going to step in when your parents get too old to run around after you or be at your beck and call. Not happening.
Oh and and if you speak to waiting staff or shop staff like they are the shit on your shoes once more I will smack you one.
One more thing- the fact you have only had two boyfriends in your life that each lasted about a week is because you walk around with a face like a smacked arse all the time and act all superior to everyone. You are the perfect example of a spoilt brat who turned into an even bigger spoilt, entitled, nasty brat.

This is a great thread. Helps to relieve pent up frustration!

Agree. I've not been around here for long & was amazed at the amount of cursing (no problem with it) written in some posts. I'm not averse to letting the odd one slip but could never imagine writing it. You never know though there's still time.
Perhaps not 🤔or it might be akin to a volcano erupting😂

@Enough4me Yes agree.

I really don't have time to give a fuck about your non problems, or to,help you with your self created drama, to my sister

To racist types:
You do realise that the reason why there are black people in the UK/US is that they wete ripped from their home countries, bundled into slave ships and forced to work on tobacco and sugar plantations in horrific conditions ( both products harmful to health so maybe it's karma)?And they are massive cultural contributors with amazing music.
You also realise that the Indian Immigrants you deride are in the UK partly due to the links formed during the Raj when we oppressed an entire nation. Many Indian people work in medicine doing vital jobs which Brits are too lazy or unintelligent to do.

A different issue: perhaps the Tiger Mom had a point: all these gentle parents ...are they producing exemplary musicians or scholars or just gender confused influencers?

Shot me.

Shoot me*

You think that teams of highly skilled & experienced hospital consultants apply scientifically documented diagnostic criteria like DSM5 processes to children and get 90% of them wrong?

Could someone please call the Royal College of Psychiatrists and let them know that the extensive body of research and their scientifically documented practices and QB tests are 90% wrong? Someone who has no professional experience has had a brainwave.

Thank you for your kind comments. Yes, the situation is as it is. I have learned to live with how I feel and just to be the best friend they could ever wish for. Sending love to all on this thread opening their hearts